I am 29 and my wife is 23. I love my wife. we are now 7 year in relationship. Unfortunately we lost our only Doughter in June. Now that she is Pregnety of one mouth she to live me for her family. I can`t stand this and we are not yet married. Please can I let her go to her family.
2006-10-11 21:50:12 · 13 answers · asked by Caule 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
hiya
iam so sorry about your little girl
have a long talk with your partner she may need to have a break to get her head sorted you both have been through a very big thing and it will take a very long time to heal
let her go she will come back it sounds like she wants to run away to her safe place her family she will come around
it sounds like she needs time and she is scared
offer to go with her,ask her to marry you :0)
but tell her how you feel
good luck :0)
2006-10-11 23:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to here that. but i think that is a bit cruel of her to do that to you, she has to relize you mabe hurting too and you both have to be there for each other and move on with life. having another baby so soon would be so very hard for her to cope with as well. she just doesnt know how to express her feelings and this is the only way she probably can by telling you that. i women will always run back to her family in troubled times but she has to think she has you and you are the father of the baby nomatter what and you both need to sit down and have a good talk about the situation.
2006-10-11 21:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and let her know that she can not run from the problem. You both need to be there for each other. Thru this hard time in your lives. Now that you have another child on the way. You need to let her know that you will be there for her. Also I would tell her that her family need to but out of your lives. It is your lives not theres. They need to but out. I think it there influence on her moving in with them. If this is true. That is not good at all. I would let her know how you feel about everything. Also I would say "if you want to move with them you go thru counseling with me first to see if we can work things out between us. " But this is only a thought. Another thought is, You could ask why she would want to leave you. If there is things she wants to see change between you to. Then it would be up to you if you want to change them or not. Well there is a few ideas.
Well I hope that some of this helps give you ideas.
But when it all comes down to it. It is her choice.
2006-10-11 22:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by redneckbratt_talking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is she your wife, or isn't she? Your details don't match up.
Losing a child can be traumatic for a mother. She needs some time to think things over, I think. That's why she wants to leave. You should go to couples counselling and talk this out.
I think it's only natural, she's afraid she'll lose another child.
Were you supportive enough for her, through that tragedy? That may be where the problem lies. Best of luck.
2006-10-11 21:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's very sad. Your wife is probably very scared that something will happen to the new baby. Lots of couples split up after the loss of a child, I don't know why. Have you had grief counselling, this should help you both.
Talk to your wife and talk to her family.
I hope you work things out!
2006-10-11 21:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be the trauma from losing the first baby re surfacing. Have you talked to her about why she is doing this?if she wont talk to you, get a close friend/family member to talk to her. Losing a baby is a big blow to anyone and now she is pregnant again and has all those hormones going around she is bound to be extra worried tha history will repeat itself.
Hang on in there
2006-10-11 21:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Monkeyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been said that if you love someone you must be willing to let them go free. Many couples do not survive the tragedy of loosing a child. I'm very sorry to hear that you had to endure that.
I suggest you let her go to her parents but stay connected with her during the pregnancy and enroll in couples counseling. Listen to what she is saying to you and respond to her needs.
2006-10-11 21:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by noobienoob2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 06:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that's her choice.
All you can do is to try and create an environment she wants to live in more than elsewhere.
Your new child is still going to need a father whether they live with you or not.
2006-10-11 21:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds like you need to have a good heart to heart with your wife
2006-10-11 21:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋