let's say a mom doesn't mean it but everyday she would tell her kids how the family is suffering from financial issues, etc. she would say it as a way to also relieve her stress, but at the same time she's putting a ton of stress towards her two kids and making them feel useless. her kids would start to not be able to sleep due to the things she tells them like she don't even have enough money to save by the end of the month because she spends it all on bills for the family and she gets nothing in the end. her kids start to feel like why does she even have to have them born then since the family is causing her all this stress. maybe the mom doesn't mean it but isn't this mentally deterioting the kids mentality? they wouldn't feel happy anymore or know what happiness is because she would remind them of the economic issue the fam is facing. the kids are over 18. one's working and giving half of her $500 salary a month. the parents pay 4 everything though. both goes to school also
2006-10-11 21:41:47 · 23 answers · asked by dorkydork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok funny djmantx or watevas... i neva said it was me or not so don't use "YOU" on me. F ing psycho
2006-10-11 21:53:22 · update #1
If the kids were 5 years old then maybe. But over 18's are ADULTS not kids. They ought to get jobs and pay their way.
Even if they're in education, plenty of university students have jobs and support themselves if their parents can't afford to foot the bill. If you're getting a free place to live, you're in a position to work part time, pay your own tuition and contribute towards food.
Not everyone can mooch off their parents forever! She sounds like one stressed out mother- I say these "kids" need to take the hint and help out because it's a family of adults now.
2006-10-11 22:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents never kept anything from us, financial or otherwise. As a result, we know more about saving money and spending wisely than most kids our age. I wouldn't say it's mental abuse, especially if the kids are over at least 16. Before then, if they're under 10, then yes. If they're 16 and up, it's time for you to go out and get a job! Take some of the burden off your mom! It's that simple.
Most colleges have internship programs, job placement programs for when you graduate, and if you want/need to work while in school, they help you find a job. Get off your butt and help your parents.
2006-10-12 05:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right people, wake up and smell the coffee on this one.
These KIDS are OVER 18 and still at home!! They aren't babies any more and if they can help mom, then they dam well should.
Mom is only legally bound to support them until they're 18, which she did! She can legally kick them out of the house and she hasn't. And now they should help mom since they know the financial situation isn't the greatest and mom is paying for everything.
This is called ADULT RESPONSIBILITY and nowhere near abuse!!
2006-10-12 05:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if they are having financial troubles, it is not necesarily the kids fault and she should not put her problems on them. If she is having that much of a money issue and the kids are not happy, they are over 18 they can leave. I don't see this as mental abuse. I grew up with mental abuse. She needs to learn to cut some corners and leave the kids alone, it is not their fault they were born into a finacially strapped household.
2006-10-12 12:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom seems to be very stressed out and just needs to vent at times but that is normal,and just stating facts, you guys are adults, you would vent too if need would be. It's not abuse. You are family and family shares good and bad times together. I think it's really great that you are contributing to the financial strain. I'm sure it's appreciated even if it's probably not often mentioned.
I suggest if her comments are too excessive, then have a chat with her and express your feelings and how that makes you feel inside, how much that bothers you. I'm sure she does not even realize if any of this is effecting you in this manner.
2006-10-12 06:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nanci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abuse. Just reality. Don't take it so personally. There are huge pressures and responsibilities on your parents to keep the family surviving, and to set you on a good road for life. Just accept it as a lesson, that in grownup life it takes a lot of money to raise a family. I'm sure your mother doesn't resent you. She is fighting for you every day to make ends meet. Instead just tell her you appreciate what she does, and try to help out as much as you can.
2006-10-12 04:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all it can not be child abuse when the children are legal adults.But this is head wrenching and can cause people pain no matter what the age.It comes with being an adult,the money issues maybe the mother is just sharing with her children so they are informed about the house hold maybe this is her way of asking them for more help!!!!But once again this is not child abuse!!!!!!
2006-10-12 08:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that it's abuse. It's got to make them feel horrible, but it is life.....REAL LIFE! with real issues. It's a stressful place this world and those children as you put it are at age to walk out into it alone, better they know what it's really like and be prepared than to walk in blindly, unknowing.
2006-10-12 05:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by abra_got_personality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the kids are adults, don't there deserve to be treated as such and told the financial status of the family. Surely they don't want to be treated like kids and lied too. Life is always easy or fair
2006-10-12 04:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mental Abuse???? Your mother is sacrificing for you and having a hard time financially and because she lets your unappreciative *** know it you have the gall to call her abusive?????? You have got to be the most selfish human being well maybe not the most but it is disgusting.
2006-10-12 04:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by djmantx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋