i think he loves me he's sacrafied alot for me; he tells me he loves me but when i tell him stuff he turns it around and uses it to hurt my feelings. it hurts and he knows it what should i do
2006-10-11 20:44:53 · 22 answers · asked by yolanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What he is doing is abuse. It's wrong and selfish. It's not love he has for you. It's control with a mean edge and you don't deserve it. Give him room to grow up and yourself room to heal and go forward in life.
Good luck!
2006-10-11 20:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We treat people how to treat us. Obviously, you should not allow this treatment to continue. Either he seeks help, and changes the way he treats you, or you need to end this relationship. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and you should not settle for anything less. Gather your self-respect and simply tell him that either he makes some changes immediately, or you have decided to leave the relationship and move on. Good for you in realizing that not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. You may love him forever, I personally think that once you truly love someone, you do continue to love them forever; however not all loves are good and healthy for you. Take care of you.
2006-10-11 20:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurting you on purpose and you think that's love? Sounds like he needs you around to pick on so that he can feel powerful and important. Get out! And read Dr. Laura's "10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives". It helps a lot with these issues. Good luck!
2006-10-11 20:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ida N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. If he really loved you he wouldnt try to hurt you on purpose. Do you love him? Would you ever hurt him? then why should he be able to hurt you. You deserve better then some immature guy that wants to play mind games.
2006-10-11 20:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by *~*~*BROWN 3Y3S*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is really unaware
if he loves u
plz try clearing things with him
wen u love somebody just don't leav him and later u regret
men r sometimes bitter
but that doesn't mean they r mean
see if u really feel like he's doing all these intentionally then leave him
u can't bear living with that kind of guy
all u have to do first of all talk to him and tell him that it hurts really very much wat he says and that u wanna leave him
see for his reaction and then u judge him by that!!
best of luck girl!!
2006-10-11 20:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Gamesr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you have enough time to think it through. It seems yu are still in pain and feeling hurt and you cannot take decisions when you're so confused.
Let things cool down and then make your decision and if you still think you should leave him then go ahead and do it.
2006-10-11 20:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know what you have to do, but if that isn't exactly the way you want it to go than sit down with him and talk to him about it and let him know that some things have to change or it is over, be specific about the things that need to change, if he truly loves you and wants to be with you he will respect your wishes, although in my opinion if he does these things to hurt you then if I were you I wouldn't even waste my time on that, anyways, best of luck to you
2006-10-11 20:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a butterfly. If you love him, let him go .If he loves you he will come back. If he realy loves you, he would't hurt purposely. Get someone worth holding on to. It is painfull i know, but you are worth so much more.
Ps. I'm actualy preaching t myself here. I'm in a very similar situation.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-11 20:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all remember love doesnt hurt ..people do if he really loved you he wouldnt make you feel so bad..love is suppose to make you feel good not bad....i think you should move on and find someone who will love you and support your feelings not put you down and make you feel bad.....
2006-10-11 20:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlady38237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like ur mind has been made up... u want to leave him?
just talk to him first, tell him exactly how u feel and take it from there... be happy girl. dont stress urself out.
2006-10-11 21:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋