Me and my girlfriend have been together for a long time and both discussed about the idea of getting engaged, I don't have a ring at the moment but do I need one right away to say that she is my fiance?
2006-10-11 20:12:06 · 40 answers · asked by MixMasta DTF 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No. As long as you guys are into the idea of getting married, you can be engaged.
The ring is just a symbol of love.
It doesn't even need to be a ring.
I've seen engagement bracelets before.
But no you don't need one.
It would be nice later on to get one.
2006-10-11 20:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the official moment that you become engaged is when one of you asks the other to marry them and the person asked accepts. PERIOD! A ring is NEVER required quite honestly, though it is traditional. Many couples are not getting a ring until after the engagement (2 reasons for this, 1. the bride to be can then choose her own likes for a ring and 2. if the answer is no you dont have to worry that a jeweler might not take a return, sad but true)
2006-10-11 20:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have both agreed to marry each other, you are already engaged! Ta-da!
It has nothing whatsoever to do with getting a ring. Some couples choose not to get rings at all (and until recently, only wealthy people did the engagement ring thing-- and personally I think it's foolish to invest in jewelry rather than your future llivs together).
Becoming engaged is a meeting of the minds and an agreement to marry, not the gift of a ring.
2006-10-13 12:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats kind of like sayin do you need the cake to say your married. Its a symbol and thats all. Some dont ever get an engagement ring or even a wedding ring till alot later. Just do the gal a favor and marry her if you love her with or with out the ring.
2006-10-11 20:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. An engagement ring is a custom. It is not mandatory. Technically you can be engaged and even married without ever getting a ring.
The important part of an engagement and wedding is people who love each other and want to spend their lives together. Rings are a very nice part of that, but many couples don't get them until later on if they are on a budget.
2006-10-11 20:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring is a symbol of your love and I can't think of one girl who wouldn't want that engagement ring at the time of the proposal. If you are seriously dating and have talked about getting married then hopefully you have been saving all along for that ring! As I think back to my husband's romantic proposal many years ago...I know I would have been very disappointed if he hadn't popped that tiny box lid revealing the most beautiful diamond ring I have ever seen. So save up for that ring and make your sweetheart the happiest girl in the world!!
2006-10-11 20:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by bluemustang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiance asked me because he loved me and at the time could not afford my ring. But I knew that he loved me and money or the ring did not matter to me. I was just happy to have found someone that loved me enough to ask that important question. I got mine later that year for Christmas. If you want to ask her that big question then go ahead and if you don't have the ring now, then maybe give it to her as a gift for Christmas or Valentine's Day. But if she really loves you as much as you do... Especially with asking that question, then she can be patient enough to get that ring. She can also wear your class ring until you find the time to make sure she has the most beautiful ring you can get her. If she loves you, then she can wait until you can find the perfect ring for her.
2006-10-11 21:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Autumn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm engaged and I don't have a ring. My fiancee can't afford one that he can be proud of (whatever that means). I love him and he loves me and thats all that matters. If you don't have the money right now get a simple silver or gold band thats cheap (but not cheap looking) until you can save up enough for the real thing. Make sure you let her know your plans. If she really loves you it won't matter... but she might be disappointed just when you get a ring ask her agian.
2006-10-12 04:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by cutestarlite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need a ring. All you need is for both of you to agree that you are engaged. If you really feel the need to give her someething and you are not in a position financially to buy a ring, or whatever, ask your Mother, or GrandMother if they have a piece of jewelery that you can give to her.
One of my previous boyfriend's gave me his grandmother's ruby ring after we talked about getting married. He was smart enough to tell me that if we should ever break up, he'd like the ring back as it was a family heirloom. Fortunately for him, I was mature enough to give the ring back when we broke up.
A close friend of mine give his Fiance a plastic ring from a gumball machine when he asked her to marry him.
Another friend gave his fiance a washer from a bolt.
If you really want to give her something and can not afford to spend money, find something that you have in common, and go from there.
My cousin was at a NASCAR race a few years ago, and picked up a lugnut as a souvenier, he tied a string around it, and wore it as a necklace charm for years. When he discovered his girlfriend was as big a fan as he was of NASCAR, he gave her the lugnut when he asked her to marry him. Something about guarding the lugnut for the rest of their lives. She loved it. They've been married for 15 years now, and she still has the lugnut around her neck. No engagement ring though.
2006-10-11 21:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Tan Zanite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. So long as you both have agreed to get engaged, it doesn't matter if you don't have a ring immediately. You don't even necessarily HAVE to have a ring - it's just a symbol.
2006-10-11 20:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by moroaero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋