I lie. I lie constantly. I lie to myself. I lie to my family. I lie to the one most incredible person in my life...my girlfriend whom I hope to spend the rest of my time on earth with. I have a wonderful mom and dad that have taken exceptional care of me. I have plenty of friends. I surround myself with all of these people, yet I still feel alone. In my eyes I will never deserve the respect and love of the people I care about. They have no idea that I feel this way, either. When I am sick and perhaps need medical attention I do not inform these people because I believe they are better off not worrying about my welfare. I truly love the people I call friends and family. I would gladly step in front of a bullet for any one of them. However, I would not let them do the same for me. They think they know who I am, and I let them go on thinking it. They are clueless of my true thoughts and feelings. All I want out of life is to feel happy and make the ones around me proud. Why do I do this?
2006-10-11 20:10:33 · 11 answers · asked by jayfro 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Pain & Pain Management
It sounds to me like you could be a pathological liar.
It does NOT sound to me like you lie to be hurtful or harmful.
A lot of times, I feel the same way you do about having a good life but still feeling lonely and sad; just, without the lying part.
If you can, you should seek counseling or therapy of some sort -- it might help you as it has helped me.
2006-10-11 20:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly don't lie in your question here, you can start by making your life more eventful. Having an abundance of real things to talk about will reduce the amount of lies you can likely come up with.
Hiding certain conditions like illness or disease from others is not necessary lying, yet it shows that you don't want others to think of you as weak. Being ill or diseased is not a form of weakness, but a quite normal condition that everyone is confronted with every so often.
Another thing is that lying is sometimes considered a virtue, check how strong of a liar you can be in a tough poker game and see if you can make a fortune with it, or apply with the CIA or other special security agencies.
In short, get your things straight and if that does not work, use it rather than feeling abused by your discrepancy between self image and what you bring out of yourself - and consequently that which you keep in.
2006-10-12 03:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by groovusy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you sound like a decent guy. You also sound intelligent.
Its a mental issue youre dealing with. If you arnt on medication for this, I would make an appointment with a phsycologist or phsychiatrist. They can help you with this. Theres a med you can take that will make you feel better about these feelings and thoughts youre having.
Its no big deal to take a med for these things. They are worth it and CAN help. You seem like someone that may be a little too proud to talk to your gf or your parents about these things, but if you would, it might make you feel better to come clean with them. Take that first step and tell them the truth. Itll feel good and youll get some relief right away.
Think about a doc visit. If you love your gf the way you expressed here, then you need to do something about the way youre feeling.
I wish you luck and hope you get to feeling differently about things.
2006-10-12 20:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jayfro, tell me something. Is all that you have written here as an explanation to your question another BIG FAT LIE??? In case you say NO then how am I to know for sure??? Come to think of it, how can I be sure even, if you say “YES IT IS A LIE.” Having said that, I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and believe you story.
There are still things that not clear: -
1. When you say. “In my eyes I will never deserve the respect and love of the people I care about.” Is this because your lies have led them to believe that you are someone in status, ability etc. which in fact you are not?
2. Are you suffering from some dreadful disease that you have not told them about?
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2006-10-12 05:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you need to get a grip, old chap. You have a right to be here, and the fact that you are surrounded by all these wonderful people is proof that you are worthy. You don't say how old you are, but I am guessing late teens/early twenties maybe. You have your whole life in front of you. You need to open up more with people, and express how you truly feel inside, rather than bottle it all up in denial and resentment. These people around you are going to care about you, the same as you care about them. The have a right to do that, and you should not deny them that. Loosen up and enjoy.
2006-10-12 03:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way that I think you are a remarkable person to have thoughts of other before yourself. But to keep yourself alone isn't going to get your life going anywhere. Yes you may keep all your worries to yourself and place others aside but to have it all alone is a mean of selfishness. In turns that nobody will know you but yourself.
2006-10-12 03:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by maggotier 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard. I struggled with this for quite sometime, and I still do honestly from time to time. Your best bet is to get some counseling. Find someone your comfortable with and TELL THEM THE TRUTH, you'll feel better!
2006-10-12 03:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by mullet3k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your self-esteem sounds low. Do you love yourself? you should. You really should focus on YOU, your inner-self, and love for yourself, and stop putting so much pressure on yourself that you are not good enough.. you ARE good enough---love yourself.
*Get some how to build self-esteem books.
*open up to close family and friends---free yourself from this pain. Trust in your family's love for you.
*loving one self comes first-you need to find love for yourself to truly know how to love others---get books---you can help yourself through this.
your family loves you---and you love them too---you are worth everything to them.
*pray--ask for strength and guidence---and it will come.
by the way--no one needs to know all of your private thoughts. but lying to them and yourself is something you are feeing guilty about and it's making you have a low-self worth feeling---get in control of the lying---pray --ask for help. this will pass.
from the things you wrote, you sound like a wonderful person.
good luck and stay strong
2006-10-12 03:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by buckycarlo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you are honest with yourself! Now you just have to start being honest to the people around you! Try not to worry too much!
2006-10-12 03:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a very good person. I admire you.
2006-10-12 03:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋