Is there any way whatsoever the father of my baby can fight me in court to not pay child support? Can he get out of it any way possible by either lying or anything? I wish he understand it's for our daughter and child support beneifits her in health/medical/family, etc. It's all about her and not him or I. Why is this so hard for some guys to grasp? We have a DNA test and it's proven he is the father indeed.
2006-10-11 19:53:36 · 15 answers · asked by nicoleg_pepncheer1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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2006-10-12 08:44:00 · update #1
he could if he has custody of your baby. From the looks of it, he needs to be man and take care of his kid.
2006-10-11 20:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by l2wh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but not on the grounds that he is not the father.
He can lie and say that his income will not allow him to pay child support. If he has documentation stating that he doesn't make any money or enough money, then the courts could have their hands tied.
The other thing to keep in mind is that even though it is court ordered, he may not make the payments. And yes, they can get away with that until the laws change.
My mother raised 3 kids (from a different father than mine) with only receiving a payment once a year. This was just enough to keep the courts from filing non-payment charges against him; once they would begin the proceedings he would make a payment and the proceedings would be cancelled! It didn't seem to matter that he was over $12,000 in arrears.
Just be careful not to count on the check every month! Even if he does follow through with a court order, there are always some gliches. He could be laid off, the child support systems could get delayed with processing, anything could happen.
Good Luck and I hope you guys are able to come to an argreement outside of court (but backed by the court) because that always seems to work out for the best.
2006-10-12 03:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is probably no way he can fight it but it doesn't mean he'll pay it. My daughters father did a good job in court. Before going to court he'd only keep a job long enough that it wouldn't count some how. he wouldn't keep a job for more than 3 months and at court that had something to do with something. I'm sorry I'm not sure what. The government has done everything short of throwing him in jail. But he still hasn't paid and he got off easy with only $150/month. Haven't seen a dime since may of 2005 and before that was January.
2006-10-12 03:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by niknac 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he will not pay child support and take the baby if he is able to show that you are not a good mother. But there are things that you can do to protect yourself and your baby girl. Don't do any drugs or drink, if you do?, look for professional help, if you don't, perfect. Get a notebook and make a log of the times he calls you, goes to visit the baby, if he drops gifts for the baby or not, if he has a job or not, how many times he visits, what does he do when he visits, what do you guys talk about. Don't argue and fight about stuff, don't tell him about the log. Don't let him go in your house with videocamera on hand to film your house because he can use it against you in court. Keep the baby, yourself and the house clean. And take a lawyer with you to court. This are just some suggestions. Good Luck with the baby.
2006-10-12 03:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by EDUARDO H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the looser has no chance in hell if a DNA has been done,They will laugh him out of court.. but im from aust,, dunno where your from so i don't know the laws there. Only way guys here escape child support is if they are on the run all the time, or getting a cash in hand job,child support will track them down and they just say they are out of work on the dole and they pay something like 5 bucks a week. I didn't even bother trying to get child support, the government hassled me out to try and get child support from my child's father and in the end i said i have no idea who the father is,, and they left me alone then, i don;t want his money unless he's willing to help, and i just got on with life without him, maybe you should just do the same.Some guys do try to do the right thing and are hit too hard with child support and it just isn't fair on them, but if your willing to compromise you can get the amount reduced so that you get the help you need and he's still got enough to live on. Here some poor guys pay up too 40% of their wage so they get another job and then the child support goes up...that's the reason for the bad the stigma that goes with it. But,in your case i think a few extra bucks is just not worth all the crap that goes with it. He know s it's morally wrong , so let him loose sleep over it and you just enjoy your baby. Cheers!
2006-10-12 03:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by springo88 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They can fight it in court. If they can prove they do not have a job most judges will not demand them to pay til they start working. But then most find this out and just become dead beat fathers that get away with not paying anything. I know My sons father is like that. There is nothing you can do long as he never gets a job that claims taxes on. It sucks I know. But it is the honest truth. I hate the system sometimes. It might be diffrent for you state. I do not know what state your in. But the best of luck on that. Some just do not want any part of the child. It is there lose. Anyone can be a father but it takes a special person to be a daddy for your child. Just have to keep that in mind. I just went on with my life and put my sons father behind me. He has not been part of our lives in a long time now. But you can do it with out the added stress on your shoulders.
But I wish you the best of luck. What ever you choose to do.
2006-10-12 05:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by redneckbratt_talking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can fight not to pay child support, but he won't win. Each state has it's own laws on how much support has to be paid and the judge will determine how much he ends up paying based on that and other factors. He might also have to pay back child support. If your ex doesn't see reason, there is no way to make him understand. I hope that you have an attorney yourself, if not find one. If you can't afford one then most communities or States offer some kind of legal aid that provides low cost or free legal services. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 05:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no way whatsoever he can get out of paying child support. even if he does not have a job, the judge will order him to get a job. and if you have a good lawyer the judge will give him a certain amt of time to get the job. and if he still refuses to get a job they can take away his drivers license and even put him in jail. sounds like he is a deadbeat, you and your baby deserve better, but you have to go to court and have the child support ordered. you can't just expect him to pay it on his own accord. my daughters sperm donor tried to make me look like a slut by saying he did not even know me let alone do anything with me so i took him to court and had him ordered for a paternity test. i knew he was the father because i am not like that and he had his family and current girlfriend believing his lies. so i enjoyed taking him to court for child support. boy did he look stupid. he's a looser and never sees her but my husband treats her as his own and she doesn't know any different so believe me someone out there will love you and your baby for who you are don't worry about this. its just a bump in the road. good luck
2006-10-12 03:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by zoe m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are scumbags and hate their ex-partners more than they love their children (that is, if they love their children at all!). I paid $426.00 gladly and willingly until age 21 for both of my lovely children, and in my mind whatever was going on between me and my ex had NOTHING to do with my responsibility for and committment to my children. This jerk you are dealing with here obviously needs to have it made clear and plain to him BY THE COURT that there is NO WAY he is going to avoid his OBLIGATION to his child. If you can't afford an attorney of your own get help from the court; they will be happy to provide this help because these days "deadbeat dads" are at the top of the "PAY UP OR GO TO JAIL LIST"!
DO NOT LET YOURSELF BE INTIMIDATED BY THE FATHER OF THE BABY....HE IS THE ONE WHO IS ON THE WRONG SIDE OF THIS ISSUE, AND HE KNOWS IT, SO HE IS TRYING TO BLUFF OR SCARE YOU SO THAT YOU'LL DROP YOUR CHILD SUPPORT REQUEST BECAUSE HE KNOWS THAT IS THE ONLY WAY HE WILL GET OUT OF PAYING IT! REMEMBER, THE LAW IS ON Y-O-U-R SIDE!!!
2006-10-12 03:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
based on your statement..."WE HAVE A DNA TEST...& PROVEN"...
that is a very strong argument...there is no way indeed he can deny or escape the responsibility as a father to your child...
but still...if the dependants insist that he (the father) is not capable of giving such support (e.q. unemployed or no source of income) maybe...that is maybe only...he cannot give your child financial support...until he got a job....
good luck
2006-10-12 03:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by zhu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had a DNA test done and it proved that he is the father, he can TRY to fight paying all he wants and it's not going to get him anywhere.
2006-10-12 12:15:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋