He says I am distracted the men in the congregation from his sermons. Is this allowed or right, or Christian?
He's already kicked my out of the Choir.
2006-10-11 19:48:26 · 40 answers · asked by GobleyGook 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I dress appropriately for church
2006-10-11 19:55:46 · update #1
You can come to my church ...please?
2006-10-11 19:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've never heard of a pastor doing this. I don't attend church (anymore), but when I did, there were MANY naturally beautiful women in the church.
Unless a person is flaunting a sinful lifestyle, the church doesn't have a right to say anything, and they really shouldn't kick anyone out for it, though they might not allow the person to be in choir or anything like that.
Churches are supposed to be like a hospital for the spiritually ill. Unfortunately, many churches have lost sight of this. In many, it becomes a contest of who's the better Christian.
That's why I don't attend church. I think it's closer to what the first church was if I only socialize with other Christians, and we learn from each other.
2006-10-12 00:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a bit...wrong. At the moment, your pastor sounds like a bigot. If the men get distracted, and you aren't showing your body, then the fault is theirs. Perhaps your pastor should speak with them. If you're sincere, I don't see why you should stop coming to church. Just because a man doesn't want you to come, that doesn't mean GOD doesn't. If you have to maybe sitting in the back would help?
2006-10-11 22:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Believer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, first of all Christ says come as you are. However, as a Christian you must not hinder others in their walk with your behavior. Go to your closet, try on a outfit that you have worn to church in the past and look in the mirror. How short is the skirt? How does the shirt fit? Is it showing your breasts-cleavage? Then ask someone female in your church- a fruit bearing Christian that you trust to privately help you (pray for one with good sense of fashion) After you finish reading this, ask the Lord to help you forgive your pastor and his wife for not discussing the truth with you discreetly and pray for the Lord to give you a teachable spirit. Don't give up. Jesus still loves you and is more concerned with our character than anything else.
2006-10-11 20:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So as an atheist, your "pastor" is requiring things of you. What does an atheist pastor believe? Is this one of those cases that you are going to tell the truth, even if you have to lie to do it? If this is not a loaded question, then I have never seen one.
This is from your profile,
My goals are to expose their hypocracy, lies, fallacies, myths, and contradictions to those that might otherwise not see them. And in that I hope to make a small difference to ending all of the intollerance, hatred, murder et al. that those beliefs have produced thrughout the ages.
And your tactics are up front and honest??
This is the problem with atheists. They have to restort to trickery to try to prove their point.
Nice try.
2006-10-12 09:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Apostolic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[B]oy you like to stir things up ;) - just got done reading a lot of your comments and a lot of your questions. Kinda confused though as you state often that you can't stand most stereotypical Christians because they are narrow minded and such, but then you say you go to church and this has happened. Is this contridicting what you say in most of your comments? Where you brought up that way and came across a lot of hypocrites therefore denounce it due to past bad experiences? I would still enjoy conversing with you as I am open to thoughts and beliefs that are different than mine. No one needs to be close minded, and we all need to be better about listening to others.
2006-10-12 02:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by [B] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you would be more suited for english classes than Bible study? Can you please look at what you wrote up there?
"He says I am distracted the men..." ?????
"comming" ????
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You say you dress appropriately. What would you consider appropriate? And how do you act and or handle your "big, natural breasts" while you are parading around your church?
It really sounds from your line of questions that you are quite proud of yourself and your looks. It would not surprise me if you were flaunting and flirting and seeking attention from men/boys at your church which would mean you are allowing yourself to be a stumbling block for people.
Reign yourself in a bit and humble yourself for a while and see what happens. You might see that people start actually liking you for YOU and not just your "big, natural breasts."
2006-10-11 19:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No it is not okay but my sister God has a better church for you. See men full of the spirit would not care for Jesus said the sin of adultery is committed just by lusting after a women. It is not the pastor at work it is the lord our god, pray for a church which preaches his word only and nothing of men. Don't worry about the pastor and don't be angry, for he is in big trouble with the lord our god, it would be better if a mill stone were hung around his neck and thrown into the sea for leading you astray. It is not your fault, your beauty is for the husband whom the lord set aside for you. It was wrong for the men shouldn't be lusting anyway, its just you have a hunger for the lord our god and it caught his attention. However the ministry you were in was just not to his high standards, he wants to feed you and nurture you and make you into a woman full of the spirit, that ministry just wasn't going to help you with that.
Are you in gilroy, my ministry is great for our pastor preaches the word of god exactly to his standards. that is why i am there, if not it is okay, god has the perfect ministry for you just pray and he will guide you. He already revealed the heart of your pastor, so next he will guide you to better ministry. God bless you sister, i will pray you enter not in to temptation and find quickly the ministry god has for you.
2006-10-11 20:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eloy B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hell no. God made you who you are. Yes, men tend to have inclinations that encourage admiring your chest. But you have the right to go to church, and they have the choice not to look. Why should the pastor favor the hormones of men over the right for a woman to worship?
2006-10-11 19:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by third_messiah 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find a different church. No pastor should ever be able to get away with discrimination like that.
2006-10-11 20:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't be serious! If you are though, no it's not right. If God blessed you with big breast, you cant help that. At the same time it would be a good idea not to show to much cleavage. Pretty women and big breast, have a tendency to become stumbling blocks.
2006-10-11 19:54:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋