2006-10-11 19:37:54 · 48 answers · asked by Muslimah 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is tragic that you feel you can not tell your parents. Every-one who considers themselves white, western, Christians constantly give me abuse when I mention I am Muslim. On the one hand they talk about their freedoms and how wonderful their life is compared to a "Muslim" country. You are a shining example that you are not free. You are trapped in this society. Islam will provide you with all the answers and you will realise that your parents are not always right. Go with your instincts and peace will be yours
2006-10-11 22:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by abdulluba 1 · 4⤊ 4⤋
There's no need to rush in and shout the news from the rooftops for the time being - as long as you're happy with your faith that's the main thing. You don't mention if your parents are particularly strict christians - if they are you may need to consider that they could make life very difficult for you, throw you out etc. If this is the case i would not tell them until i was 16/18 and had a back-up plan for if this happened. One other thing is that your parents might think you're just 'going through a stage' - don't confront them with your conversion, show them gradually and quietly through your daily actions that you have found a path that makes you content. You may find that your parent realise something has changed abut you, and be more tolerant when you finally break the news as they have seen the positive effect islam has had on your life. Good luck!
2006-10-12 01:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People hate surprises. Try introducing the topic gradually. Maybe let them see you reading a book about Islam - maybe leave the book out, where they might pick it up and look at it too.
If your parents are Islam haters, you will have a difficult time, and it may be best to not tell them until you are out of their house.
If your parents are very religious, they may feel betrayed. I know my mom does. I love my mom more than anyone else in the world except maybe my two children, and it breaks my heart that she is saddened and confused by my reversion to Islam, but I can't go against what is right, even for my mother.
Islam commands that we respect and obey our parents so long as it does not violate the religion to do so. Show them that Islam has had a positive influence on your life. Make a real effort to quit any bad habits you may have. They will see how happy you are and how you are improving yourself, and they will eventually accept your beliefs.
May Allah continue to bless and guide you, sister.
2006-10-11 23:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Smiley 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As you are a minor, why didn't you talk to your parents before converting. If they love you then they would have talked to you. Now they maybe angry. But still its better that you talk with your parents immediately. If you are afraid the have someone from your family or friends in the meeting who will understand your view and is also respected by your parents.
2006-10-11 19:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by lifeisfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As-Salam Alaykum,
Make it gradual and try to show by example that Islam is a good thing for you. Hopefully they will understand.
I actually talked about Islam to my parents on a scholarly basis. Comparative religions talks. Eventually I started centering them more on Islam until they could agree with and respect Islam. This is when you can tell them. They will not be influenced by stereotypes by this time and should take it better.
I had this pretty easy as my parents were very open to it. I hope your's will be as easy.
also, Ramadan Mubarak!
2006-10-11 20:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Michael M 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
'Minor' has several definitions in Muslim Theology. I am not asking your age and your puberty-state. The advice for you is to take a final decision when you are an 'adult' and then make it known to witnesses.* On the very first day of the prophecy of The Holy Prophet, the persons who were embraced in Islam included a 'lad'; his name was Ali. Later, he was acclaimed as one of the foremost, most faithful, most learned dignitaries among all the Muslims in the 14 centuries. The Prophet had himself accepted the 'faith' of (Syedna) Ali. Best wishes and salaam.
2006-10-11 22:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People hate unexpected changes. So don't be blunt. Your parents might be quite ready to accept your conversion if you go about it gradually.
You should start by saying that you've been reading about Islam, liking some things there etc. I know it's hard for a young person, but you should re-enact your conversion process for them.
After a couple of weeks, when they have grown accustomed to the idea that you like Islam, you should tell them.
2006-10-11 19:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by miniaras 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First, think of the reason you decided to do this. Then, pray and ask God to show you the Truth and that you are able to see exactly the whole truth. If you are sure that this was a godly decision then pray for the right time to discuss this with your parents
2006-10-11 19:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am disgusted with the people that responded in a manner that demonstrated their lack of education, spirituality and empathy.
I am a white American, in Kuwait and I have studied Islam for 3 years, I have married a Muslim and cover my hair and dress accordingly...by choice.
Islam is something that is not only spiritual, but intellectual. And it is a personal choice, made between a faithful believer and Allah.
Clearly this person is intelliegent. There are many minors,and obviously adults alike, (according to some of the answers here), that do not even know what Islam is, or the difference bertween being Muslim and being Arabic.
I am insulted that some of you responded to this young person's question the way you did. As far as I am concerned, you have shamed yourself as a Christian, or being of any other faith that you wish to claim to be.
Answer to question: I think you have started a journey in your life that is important to you, and clearly, your parents are important to you. You did receive some good answers as well, and I think it is fair to say that calling them together, and simply telling them that you have converted, why you made this decision, how you feel it would change your life and impact theirs...is the way to go.
I don't think you need their consent to convert. That is between you and Allah at any age. Continue to study and practice your faith of choice.
As long as you are happy with your choice, have peace in your heart between you and Allah, and are strong enough and prepared to take alot of criticism,
(as I have), then there is nothing that should detour your personal spiritual path.
I wish you all the best honey and may you always know, and live in your own truth.
Salam.
Please note that for those that expressed genuine concern, being of another faith, I did not intend to include you in my reprimand. It is clear who should take my comments personal.
2006-10-11 20:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by jude 2 · 7⤊ 3⤋
If anybody has allowed you to convert as a minor, it rather smacks of child abuse. Assuming you're in the UK, you are lagally under the control of your parents who would have to sign an agreement permitting such a thing. So, legally, youu cannot convert without their permission.
As xtians, they'd probably be horrified that their (presumably) beloved child was destined for the fires of hell so they can't morally approve.
As a child (if you're under the legal age of majority then by drfinition you're a child) you couldn't have the knowledge to understand what it is that you're doing.
So, in all cases, one would have to assume that the conversion is invalid and legally unenforcible. don't forget though that the mohommedans may not accept that, even though it's the law of the land and they may well try to kill you if you gain some common sense (sorry, recant).
2006-10-11 22:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
What would make you want to convert to Islam? not Condemning it, just curious. If it were my child I would be concerned, but thats just me, I have no religion other than a very quiet belief in christianity.
2006-10-11 19:59:19 · answer #11 · answered by Russell C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋