My girlfriend manages our finances and my monthly salary get paid directly into her account, she has the only atm and credit card but gives me enough to get by each week. This has worked well for the past 6 months, however, 2 weeks ago she made me kneel to her when asking for some money back and told me I would have to do this to her from now on. Last week she told me I would have to do all the housework for her before she gives me anything (we don't even live together). I am afraid what she will make me do next. I would die if we ever broke up the trouble is she knows it too. Any advice?
2006-10-11 19:33:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't be serious can you? Is she your girlfriend or your mum? I would like to give this chick of your an award for finding the most spinless male on the planet to take advantage of. I bet her nails are emaculate! LMAO
2006-10-11 19:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is get your salary paid into your own account and cancel the cards she has and get new ones issued to yourself.If your girlfriend has only been giving you enough to get by on each week, obviously you have got heaps of savings in your account and if you haven't then she has been stealing your money with your permission. you don't even live together, what if you have an emergency and need money quickly and she decides not to give it to you. PLEASE get back in control of your finances, YOU work hard for your money, don't let someone else be in control of you. I think you would be better off without a girlfriend ,it certainly doesnt sound like she loves or respects you.you are obviously an easy going person, but this treatment is not acceptable.Take control of your life please.Take control of your money.Get rid of this girl and start enjoying life.Who cares if you break up with her there are plenty of decent girls out there start looking.
2006-10-12 02:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a correct attitude from her. Sorry to say so - you know this deep down. If you want to have a real love relationship that works, there has to be respect between the two of you. She made a mistake and she is not showing respect to you. My advice is that you immediately redirect your salary payment to your own account. This is part of your self-respect as this is the money earned by your hard work. You deserve to manage it. If you want, you can give it all to her, but not the way this has been handled. Stay away from her for a little while to give her the space to think about her actions. Do not tolerate this type of behaviour - you do not deserve it.
2006-10-12 02:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Agua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this for real? Are you really that desperate, needy or insecure with yourself to not see what your girlfriend is doing? And, whats even worse...to allow it! It is very clear that your girlfriend is not only a control freak, she is not a very nice person either! What I don't understand is why on earth you have handed over not only your finances, but the ability to gain access to YOUR money!!
What kind of a person would even consider making you beg for what is already yours? Why did you give her all the control? I guess if you feel that you want to live a life of a dog...and you are willing to jump through hoops in order to gain access to what is already yours...you are on the path to misery!! She is obviously, not only in control of your money...she is in control of you as well!! The last sentence really creeps me out!! You would die if you broke up?? Wow, I suggest some therapy!! You sound like a wimp! Sorry to be so harsh...but, you are allowing this unhealthy relationship to continue because you think you would die by ending a sick relationship? If you chose to stay with her...you have no idea what's in store for you! Trust me...she is just getting started!
2006-10-12 03:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by ShellBelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what does she do for money apart from spend all yours?? you need to take control of your own accounts and if you don't even live together then she has no right to any thing that you own. especially your bank cards. get another bank account but don't tell her and only put a few dollars in the one that she has the card to and see how she reacts. cos seriously it looks like she is only after your cash.
2006-10-12 02:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG-!!! It is called emotional blackmail- and I promise you will not die= how on earth did you get into this situation anyway??? She is a controlling mad female dog that is humilating you- and you are afraid of what she will do next? keep your paycheck and take back you heart, brain and mind- and have your employer stop sending your check to that hustler= she DOES NOT LOVE YOU!! WAKE UP! and go get healed and don't go get another one like her- write down what you want in and from a woman= which should include respect- she has none of that for you either_ and stick to it! D
2006-10-12 02:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is messed up Mat. Go immediately to the bank in the morning and set up an account in your name. Get your paycheck put in there. The giving her your money has got to stop. She is a power tripping control freak. Get away from her now.
2006-10-12 02:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by butterflies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mat,
Go to any search & put in submissive men then you'll be able to read all about it for yourself & see what else she could demand of you. Since you freely hand over your pay check! She could be going out with someone else for all you know and you wouldn't be able to do anything about it. You don't live together wtf does she pay your rent, bills, car insurance etc? It sounds like you are a submissive man! And no you really won't die if you ever broke up! I think you need to take a good LQQK at this relationship!
2006-10-12 02:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by dousmokedoobies69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u dont even live together? u have to do her housework? wow how did she get u to put ur monthly salary into her account and let her be in control of your money? she has control of you to the max cuz the next thing she'll make you do you gonna do it anyways. seems to me you like her to be in control of you. if you dont then you need to leave her before it gets worse and from wut u said its already bad. wake up!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you wont die without her. theres someone for everyone out there dont be scared. she doesnt love you...you love her. its not right find someone that loves you back.
2006-10-12 02:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by ms_socali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit putting money in her account.....why are you doing that anyways? Making you kneel to her is wrong......thats just crazy and shes crazy for having you do that. I would definatly get ahold of your own money flow and take care of things on your own and tell her shes needs to find herself a new man. I know this is easier said than done but why would you put up with such crazy controlling behavior? Would you put her through that?
2006-10-12 02:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋