I'm 23 years old, dont go to school, work part time. I love both of my parents to death but I find myself getting irritated with my mom for small things and taking it out on her. She doesn't handle me being mean to her very well and she gets quiet at times when she feels bad. I feel really terrible and think about leaving often so she won't have to put up with my behavior. she has health issues that bother me. She tells me she doesnt want me to leave and that she wants me to save my money instead of renting aplace. Id love to stay but i know i cant change the way i am because i have bad nerves. So what should i do?? is it time for me to leave?
2006-10-11 19:11:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This answer is different for everyone. I don't necessarily agree with any certain age being right for everyone. I didn't leave until this year and I'm 38. Then, the only reason I did was that my girlfriend was 57 miles away and I wanted to be closer to her. Now, I live with her. Until then, living at home benefitted both myself and my parents. My Mom passed away in early 2005 so that left just my Dad and I until I moved out in early 2006.
If your Mom wants you to stay, she probably feels that her love for you benefits her more than the squabbles bother her. You can, though, limit your exposure to her by staying out a little more. Maybe, some friends would invite you to stay with them for a weekend occasionally. You can also close your bedroom door and just tell her you need some alone time to relax and unwind and that you'll be out when you're feeling better.
2006-10-11 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 23 years old, that alone is a good reason to move out. You should be starting a life of your own by now. As for the way you treat your mother in HER own home is very disrespectful..even if you do not agree with her on things then you should respect her in her own home, if you dont like it move out and you should anyways. You living under your parents roof at 23 shows lack of responsability and laziness. Time to grow up and face the big bad world on your own. Give your parents a break, they have raised you. You should be doin them favors for everything they have done for you instead of still soakin off them. Cut the ties. Not to mention ....how do you date still livin with them? Thats a huge turn off.
2006-10-11 19:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if it would be better for your Mom if you stayed and helped her or if you are hurting her more by yelling at her and upsetting her. At 23 I'd say it's time to get out on your own and have your own place and start your own life but if your Mom needs you there you need to learn to handle your nerves in a better way. Take a walk, count to 10, ignore her whatever but don't take things out on her that are not her fault. If you can't learn to control your temper you should move on.
2006-10-12 01:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth are you doing with yourself? At 23, you should be thoroughly on your own two feet, and instead you're playing at being an adult while still living off mommy and daddy.
It's time for you to get a life, and to treat your mother with respect. You're acting like a spoiled brat.
2006-10-11 19:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF IT'S YOUR MOM'S DECISION NOT TO MOVE THEN DON'T. BUT YOU SHOULD CONSULT A THERAPIST OR ENROLL YOUR SELF TO ANGER MANAGEMENT SO IT WILL BE EASY FOR YOU TO HANDEL YOUR BAD NERVES AND USE THAT MONEY. SOME DAY YOUR GOING TO BE A FATHER TOO AND I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOUR KIDS DO THE SAME THING . DON'T MAKE IT TO HARD ON YOUR MOM. I KNOW SHE LOVES YOU SO MUCH, CAN YOU NOT GIVE HER THAT IN RETURN BY BEING RESPECTFUL TO HER.SOMEDAY YOU'LL GOING TO REGRET THAT. I'M SURE ABOUT THAT 100%. YOUR 23 YEARS OLD AND UP TO NOW YOU NOT KNOW HOW TO SHOW RESPECT !!!!! SHAME ON YOU.......
2006-10-11 19:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, when you are 18 you should move out.
2006-10-11 19:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already KNOW the answer to that....it's obviously WAY PAST TIME FOR YOU TO LEAVE, SO GO!!!
2006-10-11 19:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its time . you might have to get a full time job . or a 2nd part time job. but you will work it out .
2006-10-11 19:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so if you are going to treat your mother like that then yes
2006-10-11 19:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋