I'm very much in love with my bf, but everytime it gets around that time of the month... I get moody and we get into arguments. I know that he still loves me but I dont want to lose him. What can I do to keep him around? And how do I make him see that he really does love me? Any suggestions?
And also I dont want to break up. So I don't even want to consider that as an option. We've been together for 8 months now. And he gave me a promise ring.
2006-10-11 18:44:31 · 27 answers · asked by Honey Bunnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also for that have stated things....im 19 and hes 23...you see im not trying to MAKE him love me at all...by the way he looks at me and holds me and some of the things he says i know im my heart that he loves me...just sometimes anger clouds one's mind. and of course we have sex...we are in the 21st century most couples nowadays have sex...and though i want it more than him we go for period of time without it...so i know thats not all that he wants...
i basically want to understand a guys way of thinking...guys and men are very difficult to understand sometimes. because the way women think is that we have hidden meanings and we dont like going to bed angry...men on the other hand are very literal and can go to bed angrybecause they rather sleep on it while women wont be able to sleep all stressed out.
We are together a lot but sometimes he wants to be with only his friends...and yes it bothers me cuz i dont know wht hes doing or where hes at, but on the other hand i do trust him.
2006-10-11 19:06:31 · update #1
Hi sweety,
I think love can be a great motivator. If you are in so much love with your bf, try to see if you can keep your calm during those days...sometimes just acknowledging to him that you may be getting crabby due to your periods will make him feel ready for it. Most of the time we get annoyed at people if we are not ready for it or when we feel that the other person is not even willing to say sorry. So
Give him a heads up before you get in that phase
Say sorry when you are crabby and offer to stay away during that period
make joke of yourself when you catch yourself getting crabby
Best of luck and tell him how much you love him
2006-10-11 18:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Puneet S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree to have sex it dose help with the moodyness..but try it first when your light and if you like it try when heavy... An if you start feeling like your ready to bite his head off tell him that you in a moody area and too give you some space for a lil but not to leave you alone just not to mess with you.....And you dont half to make him show you that he love you he did give you that promise ring and if you want to hear it just say I love you an see if he says it back or ask him how much do you love me plz tell me i just want to hear it or i want to know and then smile at him and kiss him how ever you guys kiss Good luck and i know that how it is cuz i go thou the same thing on my PMS
2006-10-12 02:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by a_lil_witchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months means 8 periods and 8 arguments. I suggest you head this off at the pass. If you know you become moody, let him know a few days before your period, and tell him to go away for a few days. Tell him to go home and relax. Have a last passionate night together so he remembers how good it is, and send him away. Avoid the arguments at all costs. Those are taking a bad toll on the relationship.
2006-10-12 01:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PMS is real and I know it sucks for some more than others but from a guys perspective, never should be an excuse for being rude and making arguements.
I had a long time girlfriend who was terrible to be around in the days leading up to that time. After many times me taking flight for a few days when that time arrived we found a joint solution. She agreed to try hard not to bite my head off and I agreed to not add fuel to the arguements or take flight and just give her a hug and support. That seemed to work much better.
2006-10-12 01:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop using the time of the month as an excuse. If you have mood swings around that time then take something for it. Girls just using that as an excuse makes all men cringe at the thought of moving in with a girl.
Are you having a mood swing right now? Its depression mode kicking in. If this is what is happening every month then he is probably use to it by now, he probably keeps up with it better than you do. And I would just let it blow on over.
2006-10-12 01:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman is the same at that time of the month explain to him how this happens to every woman .To find out if he really loves you and you havnt started having sex continue that way as long as you can if he loves you he will stay if not he will go look somewhere else .If your already having sex then it is a lot harder ask youself does he want to be with you more than anyone else does he show he cares when your sick do you trust him not to cheat .
2006-10-12 01:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reccommend watching the movie "Misery". You could break both his legs to keep him from running away.
If you think he will run and all you have is a promise ring then think about your future with him. What will he be like after a couple of children and all those bills? You don't say how old you are 16 or 30?
2006-10-12 01:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by CatLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be happy with him in the long run. If he can't excuse you while you are in that time, what do you think he will take care of you if you are pregnant? That was just a few days, the pregnancy is 9 months!!!
8 months in relationship is nothing compare to life time...you better think again...invest you time on someone else who really loves you..
2006-10-12 01:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people already asked similar question but..my suggestion is that take him to your house or like a bar or some place moody where you guys could hang out for a long time...somewhere close to his house ....i prefer...and keep talking and drink...dis is the most important part...let him drink alot...strong alcohol is better..remember..(you..dont drink too much...just let your bf do) let him drink until he get to the point where hes drunk...and he'll get very moody or happy...he'll spit out all the things that he has inside his heart...you could know everything from him....he'll tell you everything...he'll say "you know i love you" or maybe even say something negative...you might be shocked or even be relaxed ...Im a guy and used it to girls but i dont kno whether dis will work to guys...it might take a while for guys to get drunk thats why i prefer stronger alcohol...but just give it a try...good luck...im sire ur bf loves you ..
2006-10-12 01:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by S4m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's mature enough then you shouldn't even have to worry about this. If he really loved you and cared about you and knew you very well (takes much longer than 8 months) then you wouldn't have to worry about it.
Just don't have sex, and definetly don't live together, until you guys get married, or it'll complicate things further.. make it too hard and miserable.
If you're worrying about this, maybe it's just not right and you feel it's not and you're fighting to make it right cuz it'd be too hard to accept that it isn't.
good luck
2006-10-12 01:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋