Christian people help me out?
2006-10-11 18:41:50 · 10 answers · asked by Ciara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
READ CAREFULLY! The mom which is a Pastor wants to do the ceremony for her son and bride. I am the bride and I do not want for her to have to do the ceremony, I think she should watch, but that is my opinion, thats why I need yours.
2006-10-11 19:02:54 · update #1
Wow guys thank you so much this helped out alot!
2006-10-12 10:38:03 · update #2
Our son and daughter-in-laws' ceremony was officiated by her grandmother who is a minister (not her mother, but close). My daughter-in-law is her only granddaughter so her grandmother really wanted to do it. It was a beautiful ceremony and had even more meaning for the two of them because of who married them. Her grandmother has a beautiful memory and beautiful memories are to be treasured.
I am sure that giving her son to you in matrimony would make her enjoy the wedding tremondously. It is hard for a mother to let her children go; to know that that part of her life is over. Her son will be yours for the rest of your lives, accept her help graciously.
2006-10-12 03:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Country Hick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my brother was commissioned into the Air Force our father was the one who swore him in since he is retired Air Force. It was a very special occasion for them both. It meant a lot to my dad to be able to do that for my brother. He was an ACTUAL PART of the ceremony. Not many people are able to perform the ceremony in most families so think of this as an opportunity to involve your mother in law in a very sacred part of your new life together. There is nothing wrong with her performing the ceremony, I even know of a few family members that have performed the ceremony for their family members. Consider yourself lucky. She knows you both very well and can give you all the guidance you need. Most officiants also charge a fee or "ask for a donation." Consider this her gift to you. She will feel more joy being a part of your wedding rather than sitting on the sidelines watching. Good luck.
2006-10-11 19:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure for the mother of the groom who is also the pastor would be honored to perform the ceremony!! My grandfather and uncle married my husband and I and it made it even more special to have a loved family member to marry us!! As the bride, really listen to your husband to be and his mother's wishes and hear with your heart what an honor it would be for her to marry you! It will be a day you will always remember and you'll be able to tell your children that their grandma married their mommy and daddy!! Good luck and best wishes for a long and happy life together!!!
2006-10-11 19:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by c's grandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? If the couple are ok with it and the mom is ok with it, then it's fine. Mind your own business.
Aahh sorry - this is your business. Well this is kind of hard, because it sounds like she really wants to do it, but you really want her to assume the more traditional role of Mother of the Groom. This isn't a christian thing, there is no christian reason why she can't marry you. Will it hurt her feelings if you or your fiance explain your feelings to her? Maybe you guys could explain that you want her to just be his mom that day and not Pastor Mom. Good luck.
PS - nothing in your original question indicates that you're the bride which is why you aren't getting the answers you want.
2006-10-11 18:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My father is a pastor and he officiated for my wedding. I know it was very special for me as the bride and for him being the father and minister. So, if both your mother-in-law and your groom would like her to officiate, hopefully you'll be ok with it and agree to it. The mother of the groom usually doesn't do much in a ceremony, so it's not like she'd be missing out on her usual part. Unless you have a big objection, I'd agree to this one. I think you'll find it very special for your groom and mother-in-law.
2006-10-12 05:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Yes, a pastor can perform the ceremony. What does being a Christian have to do with enjoying it or not enjoying it, or performing the ceremony? Rhetorical. What an odd question.
2006-10-11 19:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are walking on some VERY sticky ground here. She wants to be the officiant for her son's wedding. Probably something she has thought about for many years. I would advise you to let her do it. She is going to be your mother-in-law. What reason could you have for not letting her do it? Are you afraid the attention will be off you? Have you asked what her son thinks about it? I'm sure he would love to have his mother marry him. You come off as sounding a little self centered.
2006-10-11 22:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to have to say suck it up and let her do it. She is going to be your mother in law and this will start the whole thing off on a good note. Just go into it with a glad heart, she wants her son to marry you so much that she wants to be the one joining you.
2006-10-12 01:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were the Pastor, I would get just as much enjoyment of marrying my son to his love.
2006-10-11 18:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by CatLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can, being part of the ceremony is enjoyable...
2006-10-11 18:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋