i am in love with a man who is 10 years elder to me, parents have disagreed for wedding, should i run away ?

Question

i am in love with a man who is 10 years elder to me. But my parents have disagreed to our relationship because of our age difference.

should i run away from home & marry this man or should i listen to my parents?

please help me!

i am 22 years old!!!!

i have been in this relation for past 2 years

i am 22 years old & the man is 32 years old!!!

Answer 1

FOLLOW YOUR HEART

Answer 2

I don't know your whole situation, but don't run away. You are old enough to make your own decisions, but if you are mature enough that is another question. YOU must live with the man after marriage, not your parents. Just be sure that you love him. If you do the age difference doesn't matter.
I married a man 12 years older than I am and we have been married for 34 yrs, I hope that we have another 34, God willing. He is the best life mate I could have chosen and a wonderful friend. There have been hurdles to jump, but we jumped them together and are still jumping.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You have not mentioned your age. If you are 75 and he is , then 85 donot run away. He cannot run at that age.

If the person you like is not married, does not have any children from an earlier marriage, does not mind marrying a person 10 years younger to him you can always consider . if you are major and of 18 years of age. you are free to decide for yourself.

If your grandparents are around they will support you. because in those days the age difference was alwya 8 to 10 .

Donot run away from any problem( including runnig away from home) Run towards a solution . however tough it may be. good luck

Answer 4

No dear don't run, but I agree that you are not a girl anymore and you can make up your mind. You are an adult now and you have the rights to decide. If you love him and he loves you then go for it...follow your heart. I wish you can be with him because I know that's what your heart wants. But I hope too that you don't finish up fighting your parents either. They love you and they care about you.
Why don't you talk to them and explain to them that you are an adult, you love this man, and there shouldn't be any problem. Your parents can't really decide whether you should marry this and that person.
Good luck, and there is nothing wrong with loving an older man. There is NO age for love! We are not crazy or freaks either! we are all human been!
Take care =)

Answer 5

The fact that you are 22 years old and are considering running away from home to marry ANY man tells me that you are probably not mature enough to marry ANYBODY. Have you ever lived on your own and supported yourself? It is very empowering for a young woman to know she is independent and self-reliant. It makes you a stronger partner when you do decide to marry. Otherwise, you would be going from a child under her parents' control, and you would probably keep that submissive role in a marriage and not really grow into yourself like you should.

I married at 23 but I had lived on my own since the age of 18. I chose a man who I knew would always work, did not have any drinking or drug problems, and who I knew would be a reliable, fun-loving partner and father for our children. He has proven to be all that and more. After 17 years of marriage, we are more "in love" today than we ever thought possible. He is only two years older than I.

At 19, I was engaged to marry a man ten years older than myself. Thankfully, I did not follow through with that, because once I honestly asked myself if I was making a good choice, I couldn't deny what I already knew - - he was an alcoholic and a womanizer, who would never be faithful. At the time, I never thought it would be possible to love someone that deeply, I thought he was my soul-mate.

Being "in love" is not nearly as important as marrying someone you can admire and respect, and depend on. So, more important than the age difference, you need to ask yourself if he is a quality human being. Also, you need to ask yourself why he is not dating a woman his own age...I hate to say this, because you haven't given us any indication of what he is like and it sounds judgemental for me to mention this, but some older guys go for younger girls because they feel they can control them. You need to step back from your warm and fuzzy "love" feelings, and ask yourself some hard questions. Unless your family is whacked-out, they are truly concerned for you and have your best interest at heart, so you shouldn't totally ignore their opinions.

I hope all the answers here help you see your way.

Answer 6

Hon, this all depends on how old you are now. If you are 13 and he is 23.....he will get arrested. If you are 16 and he is 26.....he will get arrested. If you are in your 20's a man 30 isn't too old for you. If you are 50 and the guy is 60....no problem.

I have a feeling that you are very young sinse you are writting about your parents. When you are living at home, your parents
make the rules.


What is your age?

Answer 7

It's all up to you. Does this man sound serious? 10 year difference is nothing unless you are 18 years old or less. I'm not saying this kind of relationship is bad but you need more time to think about your relationship seriously. If you are older than 25 then go ahead and hope for the best if both of you are in love. Love knows no bounderies.

Answer 8

Understand your parents reasons for discouragement. If your do get married, make sure you have some independence in case anything happens. Like your own bank account and some property of some sort (i.e. a car) in your name. So, if your get divorced you have entitlement to them.
But you mentioned not to long ago that your 22. So, I don't see why not. If your making money you can get a place. I may have made a mistake with my present husband. Married now 3 years and he hasn't reall changed. We have two kids and he is five years older than me. there more toit. write me okay. [e-mail]
Becuase I was 21 when I got married. And I want to share me thoughts with you more.

Answer 9

Listen to you parents... running away is not a good solution. You may find that there was good reason for you parents to disapprove. If you are in your teens then you are too young to consider marriage, even if you are in your early twenties I would advise against it unless you are already a college graduate. If he is the right one, waiting will not matter... if he is the wrong one, it's a tough lesson to learn. In circumstances like this, parents usually have the best advice.

Okay so your 22, then wait at least a year to decide... preferably wed when you can financially take care of yourself - with or without him, with or without your parents.

Answer 10

If you are 14 -18 years old and he is 10+ your elder then your parents can have a say in it. Although I am 20, i had a situation slightly similar to this. Although it wasnt my parents it was hers. I was 18 at the time and she was only 14 going on 15 in a couple of weeks. Her dad didnt want me dating her. The funny thing was that he probably didnt want me dating her not because of my age, race, or appearance, but simply because she was his daughter. She decided to see me secretly, and it worked. Although i dont know if this will work. Then again he is 10 years older. who knows what is in his mind, hopefully nothing bad, but who knows. good luck with this situation. Oh hey, follow your heart.

Answer 11

Listen to your feelings for the man. Age is just a number. Dont run away from home rather sit down with your parents and explain how you feel and why are they saying that. In the end it should be your decision and your parents should support you.