my sister in law is driving me nuts. She keeps talking about me behind my back. She called my mother and started talking about me.She compares my baby with her friends baby all the time.She told my mom a bunch of lies.She asks my mom a bunch of questions about my baby and trys to find something negative about it. She know I take good care of my baby.My husband and I don't see his sister much cause she gets on both of our nerves.Shes bossy and tells me what to do when I am on the phone with her so I quit calling her so often. She keeps repeating herself over and over again that she cant wait til christmas eve but her boyfriend says we probably wont be coming. I tell her everytime that we are coming. Shes been saying this ever since spring.I don't like her talking about me behind my back and her trying to make me out to be a bad mother.How should I handle this?
2006-10-11 18:38:01 · 14 answers · asked by oneredhotmama09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't have a mother in law.
my husband's mother passed on.
2006-10-11 18:48:47 · update #1
The mentally ill can only be helped by a professional.
2006-10-11 18:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds jealous. You're married, she's not. You have a baby, she doesn't. The list probably goes on from there.
I suppose you've tried sitting down with her one on one and asking her what the problem is, if you've done something to offend her, etc.
You should always be polite, but that doesn't mean you have to give her any personal ammunition to work with. Don't go out of your way to do anything with her outside of actual family gatherings where you both have to be there. Also, make sure your mother doesn't spend time talking to her either. Then, simply be polite at family gatherings.
2006-10-11 18:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How I would handle this is head on. Get together with the whole family and "sister in law", then when she starts either critisizing you or saying negative things, in front of the whole family ask her. Is there any reason why you are always have negative things to say. Let her answer that in front of an audience. Good luck
2006-10-11 19:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law could have bipolar disorder - look it up. One of the things about it is that they constantly put others down because they need to feel superior.
Majorly, she isn't hearing you, she's hearing your reactions. By doing what she is doing, she is ensuring that she gets Lots of attention, and it doesn't matter to her what kind of attention it is. If she is talking about you, she is the center of attention because she is speaking about a family member.
If you complain, she gets attention when others tell her what you said she said. I have a mom like this. The best bet is to remove yourself from the circle. Don't respond to her taunts, in the end they are only words. If you worry about how your family sees you, ask them if they have any concerns when you are out of earshot of you sister in law.
The more you let her see or know that this bothers you, the more she will keep it up.
2006-10-11 18:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Timberwolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best news ever. The more she upsets your husband the less you will have to do with her. Speak to your mother-in-law about this with your husband. Then confront her or just never phone or speak to her again. I like to ask people why they said the things they did in front of the person they told. Liers do not like direct confrontation and battle to handle the fact that they were caught out. Try it.
2006-10-11 18:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, don't call her, tell your mom to not talk to her, don't take her phone calls. (Why is YOUR mom talking to your husband's sister?) Get caller ID if you have to so you don't have to speak with the nutjob. Who cares if she compares your kid with someone you don't even know, ignore it. Only speak to her if you absolutely have to and if she starts saying negative things, excuse yourself and walk away. Also, why isn't your husband dealing with this? He should mention to his sister that he doesn't appreciate her spreading lies about his wife. I would completely cut her off, you only have to deal with her at family functions. Obviously your mother should never have to deal with her.
2006-10-11 18:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a B$%^ try not to react in front of your mother in law because people like that tend to make you look bad ,get your husband to talk to his mother for you as its his sister,they are properly used to her and know what she is like.try not to talk to her at all if you can because she is just trying to get to you and upset you ,dont let her !!
2006-10-11 18:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU TRY TELLING HER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER TALKING BEHIND YOUR BACK? IF NOT .WHY CAN YOU? YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH HER ONCE AND FOR ALL ..ALSO TELL YOUR HUSBAND BEFORE SO HE HAS THE IDEA. AS LONG AS YOUR HUSBAND IS ON YOUR SIDE DON'T WORRY ABOUT HER. BUT YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH HER WHETHER YOUR HUSBAND AGREE OR NOT.
2006-10-11 19:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you sound too old to be caring about what someone said behind your back.....remember, they talked about Jesus....you are not the first and will not be the last person to be talked about. keep steppin....stuff like that is petty
2006-10-11 18:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nobody believes what she is saying behind your back don't react to it anymore. She wants her actions to drive you crazy that's why she is doing it. When you start not reacting to what she is doing that's when you will start to drive her crazy.
2006-10-11 18:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋