I met this girl about a month ago and I really like her but i am not sure if she likes me. We hooked up once but thats it. She will call me to hang out with her to come pick her up and hang out with her and her friends but when I pick her up we talk but it seems like she doesnt really pay too much attention. Sometimes I call her, and she wont answer the phone or return my phone calls, but other days she will. Today, I tried calling her 3 times and no answer. I want to try to take her out tomorrow just me and her, but like i said she aint answeing the phone. I dont know if I am doing anything wrong.I do try, when i can i go out of my way to pick her up from school with her friend to drive her home and when i drop her off i get no kiss or anything. Do i got to make a move? Does she like me but she wants me to ask her out or wants me to make a move. I just dont know about her. Can anybody give me some advice to turn this thing around before she moves on definitley.
2006-10-11 18:18:20 · 10 answers · asked by Joe123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,,, OK, she's friendly with you; but it's not like you've ever cared to ask her out.
Could be you're so busy keeping your possible feelings to yourself that she has no reason to take you seriously.
Maybe you are OK with that. Maybe you don't care enough to tell her what you are about. So, it's our business, but not hers?
I'm not insulting you - I'm asking you why you care about a month or two? How long do you plan to live here, seriously?
You're not a serious person in her eyes ... and how could you be? She doesn't know you. Really, she doesn't. She might not be your future wife. She might be. She might not be the mother of your seventeen children. Again, she might be. She might be bridesmaid at your wedding to her best friend. You think she's going to ruin that for her friend? Why are you hanging around them anyway??
Hey, even Lincoln declared himself before becoming known and famous. Even then, thousands didn't know what he looked like.
But the people who mattered knew where they stood with him, and what his attitude was towards them, and towards their families and situations, for better or worse.
It's not like you have to commit to a deposit of millions of dollars, or have your friends guarantee it on your behalf if you strike out!
For all she knows, you really really want to kiss one of her friends. They probably spend half the day calling each other up & figuring which of them would be OK with that. It's been a few weeks. You're neutral, she's neutral, and here you are reving up & getting ready to leave town. If you don't care all that much, then relax, would you? You're not running for office. Even if you were, that's short-term stuff - a couple of years - and you've known her how long?
You say she won't answer and you might be doing something wrong. Turn that around - what if there is a reason why others might need to share that 'phone?
I live in Europe and that is so bizarre to me. What is the rush here? How is it that you can't text her, or post her a letter? Cycle over & present a note? Flowers? Is her family a problem? Is there an issue about your not being someone else? Have you asked her if she has her eye on someone? Have you asked her friends if she's interested in dating you, or is being loyal to someone else? How could you know after one month what is apt and what is intrusive?
Hey, what else have you done this month that's new to you?
Learned a new language? Built a house? Planned something for next year? How old are your hopes? How new are your plans? How meaningful are your monthly enthusiasms? Who are you, anyway? You ask us here, and how should we know?!?
So there you are, cutting a reliable shape for a bunch of her friends, because you've nothing better to do this month. Is this a habit of yours? What are your habits? Could she personally live with them? Could you act like you might care?
Why would she show serious feelings for someone like you when it's so casual on your side? You can take it or leave it ...
She calls you, invites you along with a group, so she probably likes you and trusts you as in - this month you are not a serial killer. If one of you wants something deeper, you are really going to have to figure it out after ten or forty or seventy years of living together. Hope you both come back & post how you got along later : )
2006-10-11 19:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she thinks she's got you whipped. She is using you for the rides and calling you at her convenience. Go a couple of days and don't call her, I bet she'll pick up the phone and give you a call for a ride and when she asked say sure but I need to ask you something, would you like to go on a date with me. Just ask her if she gets all quiet then she is trying to figure out how to say no and still get that ride. Then at least you'll know where you stand.
2006-10-11 18:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont call her so much. If you call her too much you might scare her and if you are always doing favors for her then she could be using you. The only way to know for sure is to ask. Tell her how you feel. She might just think of you as a friend or she might have a lot going on at home.
2006-10-11 18:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are more interested in her than she is in you. But stop banging your head. Instead of asking us, ask her. Put your heart on your sleeve, tell her how you feel, make your move, be honest, take your shot. Do it now, not tomorrow. Even if you are rejected, you will have finally ended your mind torture and be able to move on to the next.
If swing enough times, eventually you will get a home run. You are outside looking in. Get in there and swing, take a shot. Remember, even the greatest hitters fail to get to first base 70% of the time.
2006-10-11 18:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is to ask her. Do it when you to are alone, never infront of friends, it can be embarrassing for the both of you. Good luck!
2006-10-11 18:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by mullet3k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from my opinion girls like guys who dash first..meaning leadership....but before doing nethin just take her to a bar or someplace to drink and let her drink until she takes all her secrets or words out...but remember only her...if she gets drunk shes eventually say somethin about her or nething that goin around her...it could be you or maybe even some other guys dat she has in mind..hopely not..but just try it...im sure she'll let it all out...after u heard all of her words...just take her home and let her sleep in her bed...dont do nethin stupid...lol but other than that i agree with the people above...like i said..just be dashing...lead her...take her here and there...and you gotta make her like you...girls dont really like when guys are being obssessed with them...you gotta let them go..like wen they call u dont answer da phone..u gotta play around with her..cuz its too boring if you just answer the phone...and does wutever she does..den it sounnds like she owns u or sumthin...so the whole point is dat you gotta play around ...sometimes let it go...and have leadership...dont be you who's being attracted to her ...its gotta be you dats attracting her...as one of the girl said above she might ..MIGHT be using you...thats a possibility hope not but like i said let her drink and let her let her word out.just wait till she say somthin about u or some guy
2006-10-11 18:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by S4m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop paying so much attention to her, she will take advantage of you. step back and see how she acts around you, have a friend watch her when she is around you. trust me i have bad expierences.
2006-10-11 18:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by N/a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you write it sounds like you are a convenient ride when she needs one, be straight up and ask her "what up"
2006-10-11 18:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ask those girls out dud, if they say no then ask another. Eventually you will get a girlfriend
2016-03-28 06:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time =)
2006-10-11 18:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by rirbry 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋