being bullied or being the bully, if ya HAD to choose, which would you rather your kid be?

Question

not that anyone would want either, but do you think it's worse if they are bullied or if they are the bully, and why

Answer 1

This is an awesome question. I think a lot of parents encourage their children to bully because they fear that if they don't they will be bullied. I would rather my children be bullied because most of the bullies who bullied me as a child are in the penitentiary. If my child were a bully I would be afraid for what kind of human being they would turn out to be. I was bullied a bunch as a child and it just gave me character. My mom told me that time was the best revenge and she was definitely right. So for all the parents out there letting their children get away with strolling through childhood without empathy..know this..they will also grow up with no empathy. Adult without empathy=prison!

Answer 2

Think its worse that a child is a bully for its a indication of a serious personality flaw and it also reflects that there is a problem with the parent(s) for a bully is made or allowed to be one by parents failing to set boundaries/limits. Sadly often kids who are bullies grow up to be adult bullies unless the parents or teacher or someone takes the necessary steps including therapy if deemed necessary to stop this destructive behaviour

Answer 3

I would rather be bullied. I was kinda bullied in HS and I got over it....I know why I was bullied though. I was very shy and a major cry baby...I mean, who would want to be around you if you were very shy and a cry baby on top of that? Not me...

But, when I went to college, I changed and became less shy, more like a social butterfly and no more tears...I just had to grow emotionally is all..

Does this work for you?

Answer 4

being the bully--because I have some control over that. I can discipline him and work with the teacher to get him to stop.

If your kid is getting bullied, you're pretty helpless. Talking to the teacher doesn't really help, and I haven't heard any good advice to give the kid except eventually the problem will go away.

Answer 5

My son HAS been bullied and as hard as that was for him, I'd still keep it that way. I know that he has compassion for others and is very sweet and kind. In fact, he's intervened on behalf of a couple of other kids he saw being picked on and felt really good about making a difference. His experience has made him even more aware of other people's feelings, and we both agree that few things are sadder than when the only way a person can feel good about themself is by making someone else feel bad.

Besides, now he's been taking karate and doing really well. I dare those little dirty words to **** with him now! He's never been more confident.

Answer 6

Both are actually very damaging to children. Children who are bullied often carry emotional difficulties with them for life (unless they get help along the way). Bullies are typically children whose parents have severe problems at home. Either way, emotional damage will be done, and children must be protected from becoming involved in this cycle at all costs.

Answer 7

I would prefer being the bully because bullied children can end up mentally scarred from those experiences.
And maybe in the future, the bully will eventually realize their wrongdoings and learn from it.

Answer 8

I would chose being bullied, getting even would be fun.

As a child or teen though, it would be a choice similar to having to decide if I would rather have my hand deep fried or boiled.

Answer 9

be the bully.
I want a kid thats not afraid of any crap from anyone,
but the thing is both sides have problems.
However bullied kids tend to be slow in self development ( in my case anyway).

Answer 10

I'd rather him be the bully...I can deal with that, and help him to knock it out...It's harder to deal with the other kid as a bully...and his parents!