My sister has me worried. She constantly lets people walk all over her, she doesn't stand up for herself, and she has two sons that she is Completely responsible for during the day, then dad comes home and undermines everything she does. If she says its bedtime, dad lets them stay up. If she says no, dad says yes. She says she has asked him to work with her and not against her, and he refuses. I have tried to tell her that she needs to stand up for herself, if not for her sake, for her children, because they can't continue to be raised like that. The result is that they have NO respect for her when they are alone with her and she has given up trying to make them mind. When I asked her why she doesn't stand up for herself, she says its cause its easier not to. She now says she feels worthless and unfit for anyone to love her or treat her right, and once before she began talking about ending her life. What do I do? She stopped talking like that, but she still has no self esteam.
2006-10-11 17:19:24 · 5 answers · asked by Timberwolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the boys is a baby yet, but the oldest is 5 years old. He is already threatening her with "I'll tell daddy on you". He yells at her, will not sit in time out, and when dad comes home gives her the dirtiest looks I have ever seen a child give his mother. Daddy is older by a lot of years and had two daughters by another woman before my sister ever met him. His daughters had babies the same year at 16 and 15 because he allowed boyfriends to live and sleep with them. He was with the other woman for 16 years and only married my sister because she gave him sons.
2006-10-11 17:33:11 · update #1
she needs to get out of there with her kids. i was in a relationship the same way. their dad had them believing they did not have to listen to me. well now i have them and he is without any custody of them. so tell her she needs to find help and get out. it is hard but she can take control before it is too late. how old are the kids now?
2006-10-11 17:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Boo G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother-in-law is guilty of serious mental abuse to your sister. She should leave him pronto so she can pull herself together and get her head straight. And she should get counseling. The kids will also suffer because unless they have a good foundation of correct behavior, which isn't possible with her husband letting them do whatever they please, they will turn out to be just like him.
2006-10-12 00:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, wow, i commend you for trying to help your sister. you are right by what you are telling her but she really really needs to leave that man, she doesn't need to let those kids grow up like him. that's a tough one, but i don't think there's more you can do for her, just keep it up and maybe she'll see someday and know that you'll always be there for her.
2006-10-12 00:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sad to say but he has her were he wants her under his heel. If she doesn't get out she may go throu with her earlier threats if not she well become a shell of a person that can be easily stompped on when he is ready.get out please we care.
2006-10-12 00:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your sisters problem. stay out of it .
2006-10-15 03:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋