I met this "entertainer" in Orlando in July. We both are 22. I spent about 6000 on her during this 1 month. I came back to my college in PA. I promised her I would visit her soon and often. Since August 1st, we have consistently talked over the phone. She asked for money a couple of times and I sent her about 1000 more through western union. I went to see her again for 2 days on my birthday in September 3rd week. I gave her a 1000 more for a day just coz I loved her. We would talk on the phone and she would be all "baby, I love you" etc. This weekend, on Oct. 7th 06, she asks me to give her 500 to pay her rent or she will be kicked out. I got it from my bro and gave her and told her since its my brothers', to pay it back. She now has not called me since sunday, Oct. 8th or picked up my calls. Last night, I called her 12 times in 12 hours, once every hour just to get a hold of her. Tonite I plan on calling her once every 30 minutes.
AM I HARASSING HER?
wHAT SHOULD I IN THIS SITUATION?
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2006-10-11 17:09:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GAVE HER MY EVERYTHING. I LOVED HER SO MUCH. I WOULD BUY CARDS FOR HER AND GIVE HER CLOTHING GIFTS AND BUY SKATEBOARD FOR HER 7YR OLD BROTHER.
1) I DONT KNOW WHY SHE IS NOT EVEN ANSWERING. IF SHE WANTS TO 'BREAKUP', SHE SHOULD ATLEAST TALK OUT OF RESPECT FOR EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE AND NOT COMPLETELY IGNORE ME.
2) I HAVE LOST ALL FAITH AND RESPECT FOR WOMEN.
THIS IS UNIMAGINABLY RUDE AND HURTING.
TELL ME IF I SHOULD STOP CONTACTING HER OR BE PERSISTENT IN TRYING TO CALL HER.
CALLING HER ONCE EVERY 30 MINUTES IS TOO MUCH? IT JUST GOES IN HER VOICEMAIL. SHOULD I LEAVE ANY MESSAGES?
45 minutes ago
I CANNOT IMAGINE STOPPING TO CALL HER. I WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER. HOW CAN THIS BE POSSIBLE?
HOW CAN SHE NOT TALK TO SOMEONE WHO SHE CLEARLY KNOWS LOVES HER SO MUCH?
THIS IS THE WORST THING ANYONE CAN EVER DO TO ME.
2006-10-11 17:10:22 · update #1
FRANKLY SHE CALLS HERSELF AN ENTERTAINER BUT SHE IS PRETTY MUCH A PROSTITUTE.
MATTER OF FACT I LOST MY VIRGINITY TO HER. THATS WHY I WAS SO ATTACHED TO HER.
I GUESS IHATE TO AGREE BUT IT MIGHT BE TRUE THAT NOW THAT SHE KNOWS I DONT HAVE MONEY RIGHT NOW, SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ANYMORE.
BUT THATS STUPID BECAUSE SHE KNOWS I AM GOING TO EARN MONEY AND USED TO LOVE HER SO MUCH THAT I WAS GOING TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY ON HER IN THE FUTURE. SHE SHOULD HAVE KEPT ME AROUND FOR THE LONGTERM.
I THINK SHE MADE A STUPID DECISION OF COMPLETELY IGNORING ME.
I STILL DONT UNDERSTAND THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND NOT TALKING ONE LAST TIME AND ASKING ME TO NOT CALL HER.
I GUESS SHES SETTING A TRAP FOR A CASE OF ME HARASSING HER. I HAVE DECIDED I AM NOT GOING TO CALL HER ANYMORE.
I LEFT ONE LAST MESSAGE IN WHICH I SAID:
"I KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE SO I COULD GET MY MONEY BACK IF I WANTED.."
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DOES THIS COUNT AS A THREAT AND CAN SHE SURE ME FOR SAYING THIS AND CALLING HER SO MUCH?
2006-10-11 17:14:15 · update #2
CAN SHE "SUE" ME FOR SAYING "I KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE" MAKING IT SOUND LIKE A THREAT. I AM NOT GOOD WITH THE LEGAL MATTERS AND THE FINE LINE BETWEEN EMOTIONAL OUTBURST AND THREAT.
i DONT WANNA LIVE WORRYING ABOUT WHAT IF SHE SUES ME?
I DID CALL HER ONE LAST TIME APOLOGISING AND SAYING I DID NOT MEAN TO THREATEN HER JUST TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT BUT I DONT KNOW IF THAT HELPS.
i THINK I AM WORRYING TOO MUCH BECAUSE I NEVER SAID I WAS GOING TO HURT HER WHICH I WILL NEVER DO TO ANYONE COZ ITS NOT WORTH IT.
JUST WANT TO MAKE SURE I AM OK AS FAR AS LAW GOES?
THANKS
2006-10-11 17:18:46 · update #3
Dude! Obsess much?
Cut and run - big lesson learned.
2006-10-11 17:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting right now, but you will soon see how lucky you are to be rid of her. You are obviously a very kind person with a deep capacity for love and she took advantage of that to get money and other things out of you. Please, instead of calling her, call a friend or family member, have someone come stay with you for a couple of days and help you through the worst of it. You are a strong, bright young man, you can go on and will find a great girl worthy of all the things (emotional not just financial) you have to give.
2006-10-12 00:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by remmymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her on friday and see if she's there. Try once or twice a day, not once every 30 minutes! You should not be giving her this much money, she may be using you. If she breaks up with you make her give you some of the money back
2006-10-12 00:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but she's using you! I know it's going to be hard to get over her, but you are gonna have to try. You're in college. You've got your whole life ahead of you. One day you are gonna look back and be glad it's over. As for the money for your brother, sorry, you will be stuck with that bill!
By the way, I'd stop calling, she could be recording all of this and get you for harassment.
If you have evidence of all the moneys borrowed/given, save it. You might want it in the future in case you want to take her to small claims court.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 00:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by one_proud_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow...let me just say i think u r such a sweetheart. But i will tell u this...do not give her money ever again. Sounds like shes been using you...and i kno some guys do or give n e thing to the one they love..which is sweet...but that is too much! it will be hard but trust me the best thing i think u can do is just start ignoring her like she is ignoring you right now.....and i bet she will call u. That was really rude of her to even ask for that amount of money...some girls will take advantage of sweet guys they know will give them money. But im telling hun...dont let her no more!
i wish u the best of luck!
2006-10-12 00:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must have been some damn good head....u just tricked off major...first u giving her all ur money and u shoulda been using that money for school...she ran ur account dry and u go get it from ur brother and u tell her she has to pay it back...if she said ok then it really wasnt her intention of doing anything of that sort...now she not returning phone calls or txt.....she did to u what u let her do she saw u was easy to take advantage of and thats what she did...u not gonna see that money ever again or for that matter her too........sorry
2006-10-12 00:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by toya1jolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry lover boy that is a form of harassment...she is using you...I would not call her...you invested so much time and money in to her and she returns the favor by not even picking up the phone...She's so rude....I am available and I'm a skinny hot girl from Texas..oh yeah and I'm not a gold digger...
alyssab1984@yahoo.com
2006-10-12 00:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was using and u need to get of her it is not good for u to dwell on this. Cut your losses and leave her the hell alone! find a good woman that don't want anything from u but U! Don't ever give a girl u just met money!!
2006-10-12 00:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by mekhia81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but, she was using you for money. I'm sorry you lost faith in women but not all of us are like her. Please try not to call her, yes it is harassment. If I were you, I'd leave her alone and file a law suit against her. Take her to Judge Judy.
2006-10-12 00:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, put your wallet away, and if she wants you, she will come to you! But it sounds like to me some gold diggin' ***** has broke your heart and I would truly love to beat a couple grand out of her a_s.....her kind make it hard for the good gals left out there who want to be in a loving relationship!
2006-10-12 00:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋