i'm a nursing assistant and i work at a hopsital, 7p to 730a every thurs through sun. i have two boys ages 11 and 4. my mother watches the boys for me so i at least have babysitting. the thing is that i am ALWAYS tired and these hours are really hard to do. i do not feel like a normal person working nights and sleeping during the day, and then on my days off i cant sleep at night. i feel burned out a lot and i have no social life whatsoever due to working wknds or my friends having the complete opposite schedule as me. the reason i work this shift is because i make double on weekend nights compared to what i would make on any other shift (like days) and i really need the money. kids' dad doesnt help other than watching them occasionally. i feel sometimes like this is so hard to do, how do you guys do it? appreciate any sincere insight, thanks...
p.s. i'm not complaining i will do anything to take care of my boys, its just hard sometimes
2006-10-11 16:44:46 · 5 answers · asked by verykari♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would like to personally commend you...I do not know how you single moms keep it together...seriously...I have been married a long time...and I hear stories of single mothers....and I don't know that I could have done it...the sacrifices that you make, that no one understands...sure someone could sympathize with you, guess like I am, but to live it...has to be draining at times...and where do you get the strength to do it all....DO IT ALL!!!...how do you keep your individuality, that you are a woman, with dreams, and such...but you have to be so many other people, and not put yourself first....you put yourself on the bottom of the list of needs, cause so much other stuff has to be taken care of .....truly, I do not know how you do it...if you feel sometimes like why the hell am I doing all this....let me tell you, you are what is the backbone of kids that turn out ok...that may make a difference in this world..that may appreciate what you have sacrificed.....and that is what they will pass on to their children...they will break the cyce of a family interrupted.....the tough moms, who may have it hard, but still find the right way.....Man, I know this sounds cheesy, but I see so many people who don't have to do it alone, and they take so much for granted...and you tough moms who endure, because you love your kids that much, it makes me a stronger married woman....make any sense?......
2006-10-11 17:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
working nights and weekends is hard for you and the kids. my mom did it when i was young until i was about 14. she worked days and nights with two jobs. i hope your kids understand what you are doing and why. i know what you are talking about with the burned out feeling though. sometimes you are awake and standing up so long that you feel that you want to pass out or just fall down. your eyes are barely open and burning your feet and knees work to long and hurt really bad. maybe you should cut your hours some or try to sleep while your kids are away at your mothers or school. sleeping during the day is hard and i know the feeling of not being able to even if you wanted. if your hours start to mess with your health to much then maybe you should consider another shift even with a pay cut. whatever you decide to do, do what is best for your health and your boys. it sounds like you are trying your hardest for them. keep up the love!!! :-)
2006-10-12 00:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by kaleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are walking in the same graveyard shift boots!
i have been doing it for 4 years now
i have a 7 year old daughter. she hates when i go to work.
i have learned to go to sleep while she is in school, and when she is off, then that is when i lose major sleep, but i make her understand, and i take a nap on the couch while she watches TV.
i feel that burnt out feeling too.....when your head hurts, your eyes burn, you shake, your body hurts, your knees give out, you forget things a lot.....i know all of them, just try what i said with the school and couch nap thing,,,,,if that doesn't work, then you may have to consider cutting those hours a little. for your children's sake and for your health.
2006-10-11 23:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend is a single mom who works nights. She has the same problems you do, so maybe I should get you in touch. The only thing that keeps her doing it is the $150 an hour, $200 for back door.
2006-10-12 00:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Colin R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say a prayer every morning and the grace of god will be your shinning light
2006-10-12 00:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋