Posted the question a few minutes ago: Can I get married int he Catholic Church without confirmation? I am Catholic and already went through marriage prep. The Priest and I never discussed confirmation. Wedding is in one month. Invitations have been mailed out already announcing a Catholic Church. What can I do???
2006-10-11 16:41:49 · 11 answers · asked by jearev 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is up to the individual archdiocese. My parents were not allowed to have a Catholic wedding since my mom wasn't Catholic. But, I think in my archdiocese, my fiance and I could because one of us (me) is confirmed. If he didn't ask, it's probably not an issue. If you're really worried, you could call him and ask, though.
2006-10-11 16:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is getting married in a little over a week. She's Catholic, but the guy she is marrying was only baptized Catholic. The priest had no problem with it, and they are getting married in a Catholic Church.
Check with the priest, but I think if he's already sent you through pre-canna, etc. you are OK. It's kind of like how the saying goes, "If it ain't broke don't fix it." Don't push the subject. You might just make more problems for yourself.
2006-10-12 03:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you don't have to be confirmed. The classes they make you take for the wedding cover everything for the wedding. If they didn't make you get confirmed in those classes then you don't. My father was Lutheran, My mother Catholic.... he had to take the classes and nothing more. This might change diocese to diocese but if your priest didn't tell you you had to get confirmed you should be set to go.
As for the church "null and voiding" it as someone else said.... this would NOT affect the legality of it (they cant un-sign the document after it goes to the courthouse) and the church "voiding it" would be unlikely.... for them to "dissolve" a marriage you have to do something pretty serious (committing adultery, etc)
Good Luck on your wedding and congrats!
2006-10-11 17:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can check it out with your priest. He'll probably recommend that you get confirmed quickly.
Alternately, you could just not ever mention it and let the priest assume that you were confirmed. This approach is a little less honest that I'd personally prefer to be as I prepared to declare my wedding vows in front of God, my family, and friends... but... it's your call. You could do it this way.
I'm actually surprised that the parish that you're getting married in hasn't already requested to see your confirmation and holy communion documentation. Our parish required us to produce that information before our wedding date.
If your spouse is Catholic and confirmed, it's less of an issue since it only takes one Catholic to have a Catholic wedding.
2006-10-11 16:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by UofMWolverines03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe you can, if you were baptized Catholic then you are Catholic and you should be good to go. My friends brother just turned Catholic & he didn't make his confirmation & he got married in the Catholic church.
2006-10-11 16:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually getting married in May. I have not had my confirmation or Communion. I do know that it's pretty much up to the priest. If they have taken you this far with out bringing it up, it must not be an issue. I would just go along with it.
2006-10-12 05:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to be confirmed to get married. It sounds like your priest assumed you were confirmed or just forgot to check. If you're a practicing Catholic, they might be willing to quickly confirm you. If you aren't practicing, then I would keep my mouth shut and get married!
2006-10-12 03:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the priest never mentioned it , you are fine. usually in a relaxed catholic church ,one of the two should have made confirmation. things are much more relaxed now, so DO NOT WORRY!! congratulations!!!
2006-10-11 16:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No if you do and they find out they will null and void your marriage in the church. He should have asked for your baptism and first communion and confirmation records when you started prep. Tell him now so you can get confirmed in time.
2006-10-11 16:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am Catholic and my fianee isn't anything, he hasn't even been baptized and their hasn't been any problems. I would just ask your priest or call the office and ask whoever works there.
2006-10-12 15:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋