i care a lot about my girlfriend. it doesn't bother me that she is a littlle overweight- i like her the way she is. but what bothers is that she has a really weird relationship with food. she admits that she eats too much, and even when she isn't hungry. i can't leave her alone in my apartment without returning to find that she a lot of my food, and since i'm a college student, i don't have much money. she is not bulimic. her eating too much and not taking care of herself makes me somewhat sick and unattracted to her. i don't mean to be a dick but what is asttractive about a person who puts all this junk constantly into their body for no reason but boredom? i don't want to be sexual with her bc i'm not attracted anymore but i do love her. what should i do?
2006-10-11 16:39:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we, women have alot of issues but if ur really concerned about her get some help for her!!
2006-10-11 16:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by PiNK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest putting the "not attracted to her" and "a little overweight" to the side for now. That is a whole different ballgame. It strikes me that you think this behavior is unhealthy.
For the most part it does sound unhealthy.
Have you tried sitting her down and expressing that concern? Stating clearly that it has nothing to do with her weight or her attractiveness, but with her health (physical and mental)? Maybe framing your concern in terms of your relationship could help as well. For example: It seems like there might be something in our relationship that could be triggering some of this eating behavior-- I would like us to go talk to someone together in order to help our relationship. That way you take the spot-light off of her and put it on your relationship. She might feel less attacked. If she says no, you can go to a counselor alone (typically colleges provide such services).
In my view, such eating behavior could be symptomatic of a lot of different issues and not necessarily bulimia.
Good luck. This sounds like a difficult issue, but it sounds like you are dedicated to her and the relationship. If you approach her and the difficulty from that dedication I think you will have positive results.
Take care.
2006-10-11 16:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Travisaurus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u still love her continue to be her bf and since your not sexually attracted to her I would dump her bc she is going to think your seeing someone else trust me I'm a women I know how we jump to conclusions.
2006-10-11 16:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋