My Bf and i have dated 3 times now in the last 2 years.. we never broke up for any Rock solid reason usually just that we didnt have time for each other.. he worked all the time and i was a full time mother.
I am absolutely inlove with him..
so my qusetion is.. is the 3rd time REALLY the charm or am i just wasting my time?
2006-10-11 16:39:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
our periods of off time only lasted about 3-6 weeks...
2006-10-11 16:49:46 · update #1
quality time is one of the elements in a good relationship. but if any of you won't invest in it, the feelings will eventually die.
if you want to work it out, try to confront him about this. proper communication regarding problems within a relationship is the best way. remeber, don't nag, ask calmly. tell him that you love him and that you are hurt with your setup. ask him if he wants to help you to strenghten your relationship, make it grow. if he doesn't agree with you. better call it a quits. you're wasting your time with him. that kind of setup will go on until marriage if that is not addressed.
ask him what is his concept of your relationship? maybe he's assuming too much that you'll always be there for him even if he doesn't spend much time with you. maybe he's working for your future too that's why he's working hard. or maybe he cares less for you. some truths may hurt. but be brave . i don't know the reason but there could only be 1 reason out of them all and that's what you're going to find out. When you have found it out. go ahead to the next step...your decision and his decision. it takes two to dance a tango.
if time is really a problem...we can give a quality time with our loved ones during weekends, during a day off. i guess dates doesn't mean spending a lot of money, just a walk on the park will do, a little chitchat. does he call you often just to say how are you, hello, orf just to check if you're ok?
try to look beautiful for him. don't ignore yourself because you have a child to attend to. be true.
there are a lot of books and a lot of articles in the net that could help you. try reading "I kissed dating goodbye" by "joshua harris." it's a nice one. but first thing first...talk to Jesus ask him for his will for you. he prepares sumthing good for you...don't you know that. ask him if your guy is what he intends to give you.
all i wanna say is...i hope you''l have the happiness we alwatys wanted God bless you.
2006-10-11 17:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by joo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you are positive you want to spend your life with him then keep on trying till you both find a situation that you like. But if your breakup periods were really long, then maybe you both need to think about why it took one of you so long to make the first move. No matter what, always follow your head, and then your heart.
2006-10-11 23:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by cougarbrooke08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On/off relationships are not all that uncommon. Eventually one of you is going to figure out what you really want and it will resolve it's self.
2006-10-11 23:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Akfek_Branford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other then it doesn't matter how many times it takes to get it right!
2006-10-11 23:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by jewels_46_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well third time IS a charm........or else three strikes and your out....I use either philosophy.
2006-10-12 00:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a life, a normal one!
2006-10-11 23:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋