So if I like boy, instead of talking to him and making him pay attention to me all the time, I should focus more on myself and be 'selfish', so indirectly I would show him what kind of focused person I am? And that would be more useful in actually getting him to like me, instead of trying to make conversation with him? so essentially, by not paying attention to him, i get him to pay more attention to me willingly?
2006-10-11 16:39:36 · 15 answers · asked by CreativeGEEK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to evaluate whether he is actually datable or not. what qualities does he have? does he listen to his parents? but essentially, yes. the less attention you pay to him, the mroe LIKELY he is to pay attention to you. if he is into you, he will figure out a way to get your atttention. but you need to figure out if he is a QUALITY guy. listening to parents, attending church or synagogue, leasership skills. does he do ANY of this? does he smoke, do drugs? drink? have sex? these are things that should be important to you. how serious is his faith? does he listen to you? how does he handle anger? how does he treat other people? is he kind to animals? does he have a job or any ambition? does he pay attention in chool? what do OTHER people say about him? how does he treat his siblings? these are questions you need the answers to before youc na evaluate the answers. you also need to kno what his goals are and whether he's workin for them. also if they line up to your goals. the point is you want a guy who is GOING SOMEWHERE and you want to consider the long term ramifications of your actions. you dont' want to end up in a bad situation.
2006-10-11 16:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is you act really slutty in front of him. Doesn't matter if you're being selfish or conversing with him. Just let him know that you will put out. That is the way into a man's heart.
So, no. Paying less attention to him makes no difference. If you want him to like you, be slutty to him (you don't have to be slutty around other people, just him).
I'm a guy. I would know.
2006-10-11 23:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by peon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don;t play mind games. BOYS CANT READ YOUR MIND. if you like him- don't dance around the bush and hope he somehow notices because you are selfish. He will think you are selfish and standoffish and not give you a second thought. Strike up a conversation with him and see what happens. Boys aren't mind readers and they arent that perceptive. They won't waste their time "chasing" after a girl. and They especially won't give someone who coms off and Selfish and self centered the time of day for anything- he will just think you're a *****. Why would you want to portray yourself as someone you're not? He's either going to think you're not cool because you act selfish and really.. who wants to be with someone who is selfish? Or say for some reason he likes selfish girls-- he gets to really know you and realizes you arent selfish - he isn't going to like you either. Don't go off running crazy and get caught up in too many magazines. If you like someone... TELL THEM. and be yourself. it's the ONLY way to go about it. otherwise you are just wasting their time and you're wasting yours.
2006-10-11 23:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Being selfish is a horrible way to behave. Just be nice and smile and compliment and ask questions and let him do most of the talking. If you see him just smile and let him come to you. Why would anyone be interested in a selfish person??
2006-10-11 23:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong Plan, Talking is best or Just smile at him when he walks by or say Hi. Avoid long talks unless he approaches you. Act interested in what he says but don't get giddy. Smile always when he sees you however let him approach you. Don.t look away or play hard to get .
2006-10-12 00:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by pauleshe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should be too coy or anything. And i think that you're being far too self-conscious here, half the things you get flustered over, a guy wouldn't even notice. And if you keep yakking on about yourself, he'll be bored...
Ask to hang out with him and see how things go.
2006-10-11 23:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by marianne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy.
Playing hard to get may be fun, but if you are impossible to get, he may take his game board and join another table.
Guys are simple, but also like to have their ego stroked occasionally. So you could say soemthing about his look, style, or flirt with him and say he doesn't smell as bad as usual. (Hopefully, he has a sense of humor and not run crying).
(What am I, Ann Landers?)
2006-10-11 23:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to him.
2006-10-11 23:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by snatchel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl please! get up off that high horse & talk to that boy. Let him know u like him this is no longer the 80s
2006-10-11 23:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by msk2jazzy4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
play hard to get haha and this is a boy speaking. haha and no i am not gay
2006-10-11 23:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋