Is this true about finding a bf?

Question

Is it true that a girl will seem more attractive to guys when she is not indulged in finding a boyfriend, but in her own studies and work? If a girl is busy with her career goals, is that more appealing? So when a girl does not try to find a bf, he will come to her naturally?

Answer 1

It's been my experience that boys (and men) seem to find it attractive when a woman has her own interests, and isn't hell bent on 'finding a man'. If she is busy with her own life she is happy and self-confident, and that shows...and makes her alluring.

Answer 2

Not necessarily. Sometimes it works that way, and sometimes not. If you look preoccupied, you may begin to look unapproachable. Then many guys will not want to go up and talk to you. I think the reason people say that you will find a mate when you stop looking for one is because when people stop caring about it, they stop keeping track of how long it actually takes to find a mate. That makes it seem quicker. On the other hand, there is such a thing as trying too hard. But it's not THAT easy to try too hard. Anyway, you might find the following site helpful:
http://www.nicegirls.org/
It's a resource for "nice girls" to learn what they're doing wrong when it comes to dating.
And for "nice guys" there's http://www.niceguys.org/ Many of the guys asking questions on here would benefit from that site. Both of the sites are free.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Yes, it's true. A girl who is actively and openly looking for a boyfriend will look either desperate or easy, depending on the viewer. Neither is something you want to be viewed as. If you're looking for a healthy relationship, you need to start by focusing on yourself and your future. If you can handle your own life, then you will seem more capable of handling a romantic life.

Answer 4

Yes, because men loves the thrills of the chase. It is much better for women to have your own life, career, activities, and friends before finding a boyfriend because desperation is not cute or sexy. Love and relationships will always happen when ones is not looking.

Answer 5

You bet - they come when you aren't looking. Then you have confidence as you go about your life in your own world - doing stuff, being interesting, etc. Just being yourself.
Guys turn off when women get all desperate and hunting and such. Why do you think so many guys go after married women? It's the unattainable - and the mystery.

Answer 6

I don't know that it is true, but it seems smarter to me, to be concentrating on your studies, because you don't want to spend your time daydreaming when you are supposed to be learning and getting educated for life.

Boyfriends can be a diversion, but relax about commiting to a single person just yet, it is wise to concentrate on one thing at a time, that is not to say that you won't meat the right person in the process, just don't mix up your priorities with it.

Answer 7

properly, i think lonely yet maybe i'm no longer waiting for yet another relationship as of yet. I in simple terms broke up approximately 4-5 months in the past. i think of i want to spend it sluggish being single, so on the 2d that is fake.

Answer 8

Yes,guys love it when we have our own lives and we not try to live theirs makes it more exciting and you will be less likely to become bored of each other thus allowing love to develop most men hate it when we get too clingy and dependent.

Answer 9

Well, desperation isn't particularly attractive, but if you're trying to look like you're not looking, but you're really looking, it seems like a lot of wasted energy.

Answer 10

Yep, stop obsessing about it...both sexes can tell when someone is "on the prowl", so to speak.