well im in a weird situation and i need your advice. im out of work and living at home. which is good and bad. the good is im looking for job without worrying about financial strain, but the bad is my confidence level is way, way down.
i feel like a loser . my sister lives here also and shes got a great job. when she comes home from work everyone at home is excited to see her and hear about her day. i feel kind of left out. no one really asks me how my day was or how im doing.
another thing is my mother got a computer a few weeks ago. ever since shes on it nonstop. she goes to bed really late,, gets up late 11:30-12:00, has breakfast than goes on the computer more. i told her the computer is taking her life over. she seemed upset that i called her out on it, but we both talked and realized that it's her life, not mine, and i agree. she can do what she wants. i feel like our relationship isnt as good as it used to be before our fight. should i do or say anything?
2006-10-11 15:55:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
tell your mom you're sorry. no reason to feel like a loser. just keep looking for that job that you are soon to get. talk to your sister more and help make her feel good and you'll feel good to. you might try some volunteer work at a local hospital or something to help your confidence level.
2006-10-11 16:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic because you will eventually find a good paying job also.
I know exactly how you feel though. I married at 21 and worked my butt off until I was diagnosed as Bipolar at the age of 32. No matter how many jobs I worked at one time I had to do it because I had two children to support. I didn't make a lot of money, the most I think that I ever made was like 15,000 for a year.
My sister also lived at home and had just graduated from College with a Bachelors Degree in Computer Information Systems. She obtained a job at a huge company and was making almost $100,000 a year compared to my measly $15,000. She and her boyfriend at the time bought a house that is now worth probably about $300,000. I always heard how good she was and how I was stupid because I should have gone to college straight out of high school and I didn't.
I also still to this day feel like a loser even though I have two beautiful daughters. Don't feel bad because no one ever asked me how my day was either.
If you can't talk to your mother about the problems at home maybe you should go talk to a Therapist about your problems.
Don't let it all get you down or you will be spending the rest of your life like me, always trying to keep up with my younger sister and it never happens. Look at it this way, something better will always come along. Good Luck
2006-10-11 23:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over feeling like a loser and get out there and get a job that makes you feel good about yourself. If you are actively looking then your family will be happy to listen to your adventures in job hunting land.
I would tell your mom how you feel about your fight. Tell her how you feel about your sister getting more attention too, maybe it's all in your head or maybe they aren't aware of what they are doing?
2006-10-11 23:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by mati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like more than anything you would like to have someone to talk to. To care about what you are doing and feeling.
Do you have a family member that you can talk to? Maybe your dad or your sister? Try not to be envious of your sister. She might be able to talk and listen to you.
Please don't consider yourself a looser. You are trying to find a job. This takes time. You are doing the right thing.
Leave your mom alone. Nagging at her won't work. Find someone else to talk to.
2006-10-11 23:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion you "feeling like a loser" will dissipate once you have had your new job for, oh, say week. i have been in a similar situation. the negative "loser" feelings seemed to lift off of me once i got myself going in a routine again. and as far as you mother goes, i have a feeling her seemingly addictive issue with the new computer will become less and less pronounced once the new flair from it wears off...i wouldn't say anything to her about it, unless of course 2 months or so goes by and she is still sitting there on the thing unless she is using the restroom and sleeping.
2006-10-11 23:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by marydazetwentyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be hard until you find a job, but you can do it. Remember that you are not your Mom or your sister. You do not have to do the things that they do, you can choose what you want to do.
It is good that you called your Mom on it. It may take some time, but your Mom will apprciate it after she gets over her addiction.
Of course, we YA addicts are a fine bunch to ask about computer addiction.
2006-10-11 23:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're just kinda down on yourself. i can understand if you were out on your own and needed to come home for awhile. you might feel a little guilty. don't worry, that's what parents are for. but you said that you did'nt feel pushed. don't feel pushed, but get on the ball and find a job!. at this point, you need to know that it's not up you parents to keep you up. you can be strong in life. if you don't exercise strength. just like a muscle in you bod, it will have to work, to work. > as far as you mom being on the puter late, that's none of your business. what would you want her to be doing. she's enjoying herself and she deserves it. and that's none of your concern.
2006-10-11 23:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋