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Question

Is is wierd for 13/14 yr. old boys' parents to restrict them from having a girlfriend??
Please don't tell me they're "too young", just say no if u wanna say that!
Thanks!
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Ash

Answer 1

No, it's not wierd, because they still think of him as their "little kid" , a typical feeling of parents in general - not automatically right. And, yes, it's weird from your point of view. I'm not a parent, but to me, too young refers to a couple commiting themselves to each other long before they are "adults." But having a girlfriend at 13/14 is okay, should be, in my opinion. It's hard to be objective about oneself, and it's easy for older people to look back and think of teenage as so young. But try to imagine that in four or so short years a 14 year old will be 18, and will look back at 13/14 as very young - I guarantee it. And at only 20 or 21, will think of 18 as very young. Doesn't mean the relationship can't endure, just that there's plenty of time for life's experiences, so don't cut yourself off from them. It is possible to start resenting your partner after a number of years, when really it was the early commitment that led to a stifled life.

Answer 2

Umm..well wouldn't being too young be the only reason for parents to restrict their child? I don't think it's too weird for them to restrict him. My parents wouldn't let me date until I was 16, but I still had a boyfriend before that. I think it's because when you are younger you don't really know how to have a relationship and parents are afraid you will look up to older and mature couples and mimic their relationship. Example, parents are afraid that their 13 year old son might try to have sex with his girlfriend because thats what he sees on tv. So I guess that's my answer...even though I threw in the young thing! sorry

Answer 3

No, it is not weird for a 13/14 year old boys' parents to restrict them from having a girlfriend. It's normal.

Answer 4

It is a bit off but I wouldn't say wierd without knowing more about the reasons for the restriction

Answer 5

It all depends on the parents I wouldn't let my 13 or 14 year old date neither of my kids actually but then again my mom let me it's just different for each parent

Answer 6

its not odd, but its not all that common either. Sometimes it depends on religious or cultural beliefs that cause parents to control their children like that, most of the time though its just a parent trying to keep a someone a kid forever. Gotta let them grow up when they start to hit those ages

Answer 7

i have a 13 yr old and he has a gf but it a restricted relationship i don't allow them just to go out and do whatever they please she comes to our place they stay in the open..we have her over for diner etc..she has gone on family day trips with us ..they are allowed like to go to school dances etc and the movies with a group date and an adult chaperon, they talk on the phone..if they break the rules he would be restricted..alot of parent have restrictions for their young children for their safety i have found away to allow my child to have relationships but still be in a safe environment because no way in hell i am becoming a grandma any time soon...if you really like him respect his families wishes or you will be out of his life completely

Answer 8

I remember my girlfriends parents not letting them date at that age but never heard about a boy not being able too. Maybe this guy is really close with his mom Mommas boy and she is not ready to let go. You guys could always date secretly which could be kind of exciting.

Answer 9

Its hard cause as a parents you want to protect your child from everything, Even heartbreak, I mean you konw its gonna happen, but you don't want it to. And you have to consider that kids are acting a lot more grown up in relationships and they may not want their kids to be pressured with any sort of desicions that they don't need to making until they are older.

Answer 10

it's not weird for parents to restrict them at that age.....just because it's not weird doesn't mean I agree with it though. I think 14 is a good age to start dating. good luck.