there's a girl i just can't stop thinking about, i know her for like a year, and we get along, her boyfriend has just ended an 8 months relationship with her, she's like sad, i guess she stills love him. i think she just sees me as a friend and nothing else, i would like to tell her that i would like to try something with her/tell her my feelings, but there is just something that doesn't let me do it. i'm afraid that if i tell her, and she doesn't feel the same way, that will change our relationship. she's 25, i'm 21. what sould i do? should i wait for a while until she recovers from this situation? sould i tell her nothing? or, should i take it easy and apply the: time will tell? or, should i go and tell her what i feel about her?
HELP!!!!!!!! Please!
Thanks.
2006-10-11 15:44:27 · 17 answers · asked by krilindrs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just think that if she doesn´t feel the same way you are not going to loose anything but if she likes you! You are going to get what you were waiting for . I agree with GO FOR HER! , the relationship wasn´t too long to wait
2006-10-11 15:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ingrid D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd actually hold back on telling her if I were in your situation. If she's upset about a failed relationship and is confiding in you, don't ruin that by making her feel uncomfortable talking to you. Also, it's difficult to make a maneuver in the "friend" situation. It doesn't sound like she's going to be making a push to get off the market again, so you should probably just take your time and show her that you care about her rather than tell her. Actions speak louder than words, and if you just do little things for her to cheer her up and make her day brighter then she'll probably start thinking about you in other ways. Don't go overboard and don't act like a slave to your feelings. Just do small and simple things. Also, it's good to open yourself up to her and confide in her. Tell her things that your don't tell other people and prove that you're an honest, kind, and generous person.
2006-10-11 22:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are afraid of rejection. Personally, I would not try to have a relationship this moment. Why? Presently your friend state of mind is not stable and she might get into a relationship with you because of the vonurbilty(oops). I am speaking from experience. I married my best friend, (coming out of a bad relationship) but once i recovered, i got a divorce. I was vonurable at the time and he was my comfort. I regretted it, because i felt as though i over stepped my boundary in a friendship i cherished. Now we don't have the same friendship. I miss that.
2006-10-11 22:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by ltzoflv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for a sign? No, really you can tell her your feelings. She is likely to feel flatter and take you on it or NoT. And your relationship is going to change. If not when you tell her your feelings. It may be you, who can no longer be her "friend". Because she might end up with another guy or get back with her ex. The thing is..are you willing to wait?
2006-10-11 22:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by !~bela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's too soon to tell her how you feel and if you do have sincere feelings for her you wouldn't want to add any stress to her current situation. Play nice and be her rock. You also don't want to move to quickly and end up being her rebound guy either. Be there for her and develop a great friendship, she may even have to do that rebound thing before she gets to you, but it may be well worth the wait. Take your cues from her, let her set the pace.
2006-10-11 22:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by JennieLouie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you wait and see how things work out with her and her ex. They might get back together and she might still love him. She might not want a relationship right now. But if you can't wait go ahead and let her know that you have feelings for her and that you will wait for her to get over her feelings for her ex. Just state your claim and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you are there for her. It can't hurt to try.
2006-10-11 22:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since she has broken up with the ex? Right now she might not feel that way, and also right now she just might need a friend. Just keep things the way they are for now and be there for her. You'll know when she is ready for another relationship and then talk to her and take things from there. If you bum rush her with your feelings right now then you aren't being fair to her. Take your time and just be there for her .
2006-10-11 22:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by slanteyedkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend. She obviously needs one right now and you would be a good shoulder to cry on. After a while you're going to have to tell her how you feel. If she rejects the idea at least you tried. If she goes for it then good for you. Just make sure that you don't lose a friend. Good luck.
2006-10-11 22:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by cubsfan90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her greive her ex for a lil while, the last thing you want to do is jump into a relationship where she is going to compare you to him. but be there for her, a shoulder to cry on. it might grow into something special when she is ready, and it might just stay friends. either way let her have a lil bit of time. I just got out of a 9 year relationship and trust me time is of the essence
2006-10-11 22:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by bradford99336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can really tell u what to do but this might help.
give her a few weeks and see what gs on with her but be there for her during this time show her that u care for her and that u want to be there for her.
but dont come on to her yet just hold her and talk to her about what she needs at this time if u show her that u care she might get the point with out u pushing it i hope this helps
2006-10-11 22:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋