Should a husband tell his wife that he accidentally stumbled across pictures of his mother-in-law (her mother) posing topless near the pool? Over a month has passed since he saw them. He is tempted to tell his wife -- but is not convinced it is fair or that it will only end in a terribly bad arguement. Your thoughts?
2006-10-11 15:43:00 · 14 answers · asked by Jawan Kasfaritan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should have clarified that the private pictures were on her mother's digital camera in the mother's home. They were discovered accidentally when looking for pictures of the family that had just been taken with the same camera during a family holiday visit.
2006-10-11 15:52:25 · update #1
What' s the big deal? So what if he had the misfortune of seeing something that he shouldn't have. She was a grown woman when she done it and obviously she let the pic be taken. So the only problem for the guy is to simply put it out of his head.
Is is nobodies business what kind of pics that that woman takes but her own. Tell him that it would inevitably cause a great deal of embarrassment for the mother in law and make things uncomfortable for everyone. The best thing to do is to put it out of his mind.
2006-10-11 15:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by poobear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first thought, before reading the explaination, was "Only if he took them."
The second thought is, "my GOSH I'm glad it's you and not me!" :-)
I'm going to pretend we're talking about you, your wife, and your mother-in-law because it's easier for me to type "you" than it is to try to keep up with the third person thing.
While I sympathize with you, and I hope neither my husband nor myself are EVER put in that position, I guess I'm just not understanding what the problem is?
Consider this question: At what age do you intend to stop having fun and sex with your wife? If you are like most people, you intend to have a healthy sex life for as long as you possibly can. Why would you think your mother-in-law would feel differently?
I understand how uncomfortable this is to you, and depending on your wife's view of sex and her own mother, I can see how that could be an awkward conversation, but it shouldn't be. If you tell your wife, the most it should do is kind of make you both laugh and be a little yucked out, but since your wife is grown and married, and therefore knows about the birds and the bees and the fun in the trees, I don't see how it would be unfair nor how it would cause a terribly bad argument. Frankly, your wife and you have no say-so in how active a sex life her mother, a grown woman with grown children, can have. Take that from a woman who has, unfortunately, had a few of those conversations (it's the new thing in grandmas, apparently... *shudders*) :-)
It sounds to me that your mother-in-law is a healthy, vibrant woman who took every precaution necessary (she didn't even use a regular camera with film so no one else would have seen. not her fault you accidently saw them).
Tell your wife if you think it'll help. But try to see the humor in it and realize that there's nothing either of you can do about it, so why freak out too bad?
2006-10-11 16:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business so NO, act as though you never saw the camera or the pictures. Forget about it. It's not that big of a deal anyway. I mean, she is an adult (your mother in law) and she can pose any way she wants to. Either way, it's not hurting anyone so forget about it.
2006-10-11 16:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by HootieFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh. i don't know. were they online or are they hers? that's a touchy issue. ick! she might accuse you of snooping around and finding her mother attractive. If it was me, I would kind of think it was funny because my mom would never do that. I'd laugh. not necessarily want to see them. But would humor in it. It depends on your wife though. She might have a different reaction. And she might even accuse you of lying if you don't have proof. You didn't really say where you found the pictures. I guess if you want to tell your wife then just show her where they are or tell her. and she can see them for herself if she doesn't believe you. It's kind of different that it's her mother. I wouldn't think you would have to tell her. and i'm assuming they aren't in your house so your wife won't think you took them or are wierd or anything. and ya never know. maybe she already knows about them.
2006-10-11 15:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
Let your wife find out in her own way.
There is no gain for you to tell your wife about these
pics. The pictures sound like they are pretty tame anyway.
Nothing to worry about because they could be a lot worse
when you think about it.
2006-10-11 15:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't tell her. Really, don't hurt your wife or your mother-n-law by doing this. Just keep it to yourself. Only pain will come from telling something like this.
2006-10-11 18:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think this is an issue? It's just some pictures, no one was was hurt. There is nothing wrong w/topless or even nude pictures. Just forget about it.
Next time leave other people's stuff alone!
2006-10-12 11:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Scalawag-101 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dude, whats the bid deal? Just forget about it. Why embarrass the lady?
2006-10-11 16:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you come about seeing them????
You could always send them in an envelope anonymously to your wife and see if she shares them with you; and you better act surprised.
2006-10-11 15:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell..it was an accident..to me i think it would be something to laugh about lol
2006-10-11 15:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by JENNIFER D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋