My boyfriend is Indian, I'm American. We've been together almost 2 years. I love him more than anything and he does too. But, even though we would do anything for each other, we still fight too much and dont understand each other like we should. I dont know many Indians so i dont know how much of our conflicts are from personality or cultural differences?
I know you cant generalize half a billion males in a paragraph, but what are some common traits? And what do i need to know about him before we go ahead and get married?
2006-10-11 15:03:25 · 14 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU KNOW ABOUT HIM...THAT YOU LOVE HIM' AS REGARD TO FIGHTS ..LOVERS FIGHT TOO OFTEN AND HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH THEIR DIFFERENT CULTURES ...AND AS A MATTER OF FACT FIGHTING IN THE FIRST TWO YEARS OF RELATIONSHIP IS HEALTHY COZ THIS IS HOW YOU LEARN MORE ABOUT THE LIKES AND DISLIKES OF YOUR PARTNER....ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HIM IS THAT INDIAN MALES ARE VERY MODERN YET VERY CONSERVATIVE WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR LOVED ONES...THEY ARE NOT SO HAPPY GO LUCKY TYPES AS YOU MAY COME ACROSS MANY IN YOUR PART OF THE WORLD...AND IN FACT THIS THING IS GOOD IN THE LONG RUN BECOZ' IT CONSTANTLY REMINDS YOU OF HIS LOVE AND POSSESSIVENESS AND ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS TO MODERATELY PAMPER THIS RATHER THAN REGARD IT AS A SHORT COMING AS COMPARED TO GUYS IN YOUR SURROUNDINGS...BECAUSE OF THIS THE CHANCE OF LONG RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN LOVERS IN INDIA IS FAR MORE THAN COMPARED TO YOUR COUNTRY..SO DON'T YOU THINK ITS HEALTHY FOR LOVERS...BECAUSE I HAVE SEEN LOVERS PART OVER A TRIFLE IN YOUR COUNTRY...AND DO NOT SHED A SINGLE TEAR..UNDER THE PRETEXT OF GIVING MORE SPACE AND INDEPENDENCE...WHAT GOOD FOR IS THIS WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP VANISHED...RIGHT..IN SHORT INDIAN EDUCATED MALES ARE FAR BETTER LOVERS AND CARRY MORE CONVICTION AND SINCERITY WHEN THEY SAY I LOVE YOU'...SO MAM' KEEP ON FIGHTING KEEP ON LOVING LOLS..HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU.HIGH AND DRY ..EVER.....ALL THE BEST
2006-10-11 20:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you wanted to culminate affair in marriage i answer this. And you are right that generalisation can not be done with any nationality. Duping is possible irrespective of the nationality.
However follow these points.
1.Propose directly without dillydallying.
2.Ask for the backdrop of the individual and ascertain if possible from within the circle.Don't try to attribute mentalities to the nation.
3.Check up with other alternative remedies including legal if unforeseen happens.
4.lastly ask mutually what appealed between each-other.
5.Take assent from the parents.At least intimate.
6.If the feedback you get is unsavoury simply quit from relationship.
2006-10-12 00:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by leonardo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We indians beleive that where we fight the love stays there. Such small conflicts keep coming and going. It some thing like the joke i am writing. A small boy asks his sister what is the magic in the bed room of mom and dad. They go in fighting in the night and come out smiling in the morning as though nothing has happened.
2006-10-12 03:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by lkslalit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be from a very different culture- and they have certains ideas on how women should act and take care of the home ect- I guess he is asian indian and not american-canadian or latin am. indian=ask a indian woman if you know one=there are generalizations in culture and variances from house to house- like here- so you could ask him what he expects and what he considers normal- ect- sounds like a lot of work- I think men in that culture look down on women and those in lower cast- remember the cast system??? d
2006-10-11 22:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am an American, and my boyfriend is Indian so I can relate to a little of what you are saying, but think you are having a serious communication problem here. Have you tried learning about his culture to see what things may be an issue? Have you tried asking him why he thinks you two aren't getting along? Or when you ask yourself honestly, do you think it may be just a lack of chemistry or some other serious underlying issue?
My bf treats me like a princess, so I can't really offer you any other advice except to tell you to talk to him about it.
2006-10-11 22:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi...i can tell u few likes n dislikes of indian males ..but dont mind sum suggetions u dont like ......but keep those in mind..
(1) Indian male likes those girls who respect the elders....and the kind of girl to whom they can invite thier home to meet thier parents.
(2) the kind of girl who serious about the relationship........
(3) girl on which they can make thier whole faith....
(4) indian male are very much rooted with ther culture.....and custams.
(5) Indian male likes a girl who has long hairs .
(6) They like a girl who concious about their prestige.
(7) girl who not do involv inmuch expose(may u dont like this ?0
(8) All males have a very soft corner,towards girl try to find that key ........then u can control that man forever........as u like.
(9) Few indian male have ego in thier shoulder, handel them care fully.
(10) Don't share ur past love life with tem........no indian male likes it......beware of it.
(11) Say them that they r everything for u....and u find they keep their promise for u...
(12) A homly girl is the first choise for most of indian boys..........espacially for marrige.
(13) breke ur past love relation ships before u involve with a relation sip with a indian male .........other wise u can lost them very quiclly..
(14)they are very consious about ur other male friends........so always keep them in faith.
(15) If u can ....one thing do.........in thier important day ......wear a "Shari" of hie favoiret colours ........and then tell me wat response u got ...........i tell u that day will become a presious day for ur relationship.......i meanit yaar........
So all the best ....from-girishgajbhiye@yahoo.co.in
2006-10-12 03:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by mr_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he is an indian does'nt make him much different from other males. true there are a lot of cultural differences between india & america but just be sure that you know a bit of cooking, also behave more homely. i am tellin you as i am an indian male too. rest we are the same mentality as our brothers in america.
2006-10-12 00:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by karan s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The personalities of both of you are perplexed.Only you and he can figure out what is the reason behind it you have to talk plain in clear words.The only key i can suggest is that try to respect his relatives, and do not try to assert your views in every matter.
2006-10-11 23:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U need to know he is human just like u and he is a male jsut like a Black,white Asian African..
2006-10-11 22:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Gifted and Gracious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
culture dosent mean anything here firest understand him and then try to be like the way he wants you to be if like him then you should sacrifice for the sake of him
2006-10-12 01:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by marky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋