guys on your wedding night?would you prefer?

Question

ok im getting married in a few months..we have both never had sex...so its going to strange.. but i dont know if i should shave down there or not.

i dont wanna bring it up with him until maybe the week before..so what do you think

ive always shaved down there...i never liked the idea of hair in that area..i let it grow but never to the full..thanks for all your helpful answers

Answer 1

I know you directed your question for guys, but here's what I recommend for your own pleasure: if you have a lot of hair, and if it's a few inches long, at minimum trim it to about 1/4 to 1/2 inch around the vaginal opening. You'll both have tender skin until you get used to the friction over time. The longer hair can get caught at the vaginal opening and make you both raw from the friction. Just be aware that if your future husband is like most young men, once he has sex, he will want a lot more of it. You should just continue what you've been doing if your skin is accustomed to it. Since he is new to this, it probably won't matter to him as long as you are comfortable with it. Also, here's a tip from a married lady - it will be more pleasant for your husband and you, and for spontaneity, if you use baby wipes for both #1 and #2 so you are always fresh and ready for anything. You won't be able to be quite as spontaneous if you have to take time to shave before sex. Also, if you have sex often, be sure to occasionally douche (use plain warm water) to prevent unpleasant odors from the semen, but don't overdo by douching too often or you can get a bacterial infection from upsetting your body's natural balance (my doctor's advice when this happened to me). Anyway, congratulations for respecting yourselves enough to wait, and happy honeymoon to you.

Answer 2

I wouldn't bring it up at all, and I think you should not do it. I commend you both for remaining celibate for your wedding day, that's so rare and so healthy.

Now, there may be a time when you will do it, maybe you'll feel like doing something a little different, or it will excite him, or whatever. But on your wedding night, offer yourself to him just as you are right now. You two will have a lifetime to play, experiment, and try different things.

It's not that I'm trying to make a big deal out of this, but I just think since you two are coming together in this way, start out just like God made you (and him too!), and then COMMUNICATE with each other. That's the biggest mistake you could make, is assume that he knows or you know everything to great lovemaking. You two are going to be learning each other for the first time, so make it an open book quiz, and keep it that way.

Answer 3

Yeah..another virgin on her wedding day! My best friend and I both have weddings planned. She actually just got married and I'm in the future still. We are both virgins too and we had these questions. She waxed like a month before and then had to go back like a week before the wedding. I would just ask your fiancee, I don't think it's wrong to talk about that kind of stuff with him, you'll be married soon! I asked mine what he would prefer...he said he didn't really care, but if I was going to surprise him and wax than I better plan on always doing that...so I guess if you don't want to wax the rest of your life, just trim. Hope this helps, I am going to be going through this stage of deciding in a few months too....isn't it exciting!! Congratulations!

Answer 4

I know I'm not a guy, but definitely at least shave your legs/underarms. Perhaps at least trim down there so it's neater. You can shave if you like, but be aware that the first few times you do it you'll get little red bumps because your skin is irritated. Your best bet would be to wax, but be warned that waxing there hurts, especially if it's your first few times.

Don't be nervous though. good luck and mucho congrats!

Answer 5

Since you've always shaved, that is what you are comfortable with. Go ahead and go hairless.

You may want to consider getting it waxed for your honeymoon, though. This will allow you to last the whole honeymoon without having to worry about shaving down there. The same goes for your legs. :-)

Answer 6

Shave however you want to.  If you feel better shaved, then don't grow it out just because you think he might like it.  How would he know?

What I would suggest is having something like Astroglide on hand, so that first-time nervousness doesn't cause an uncomfortable amount of friction.

Answer 7

trim it pretty short.
don't shave yet. Especially right before you do it, it will get irritated.
shave now and see what you think of yourself. See if you like it better. If you do and you show that confidently, he will like it more. If you don't, just trim it up he will like that too.
On your wedding night, I don't that will be an issue, more likely, it won't last very long. (the first time - don't give up)

Answer 8

I'm not sure that you need to discuss shaving with him, unless you'd like him to help you do it, which could be an amazing experience for both of you! Some guys like a woman who's hairy, but most of us like a girl who is trimmed or bald. It's very sexy, and he won't be as hesitant to do "certain things".

I don't know a guy who wouldn't love to dive right into a woman who is smooth!

Answer 9

I'm not a guy but this is my opinon.
Don't bring it up with him! I'd get waxed, shaving ingrowth can be so uncomfortable, so wax it, not bare but a strip or a small triangle. Make it a pleasant surprise, and something to remember!

Answer 10

Don't shave completely just trim, make it nice and presentable. I don't think you should be so worried about that right now, when you become experts in sex then you can make those changes. I don't think he will be that worried about how it looks, he will only be interested in how to get in there and rock your world and his as well. GOOD LUCK MY DEAR!