i am 34 and i been throught a lot my family keep on hurting me .when i was young there used to beat me they treat me like a child interfer with my marrage do not talk to my children just try ruling me can not take any more..please help i got deppression because of them.
olivia
2006-10-11 14:39:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Olivia, if you are thirty four years old and married your family should have no say so in your marriage. As a matter a fact they should say absolutely nothing about your marriage at all because it is none of their business.
Why are you putting yourself and your children into a situation where no one will talk to them?
I sort of went through the same thing with controlling parents but I just broke away and started doing whatever it is that I want to do and then just let them complain about it. They always go over it.
If they were beating you as a child and you look at it from a different situation they are not physically abusing your children but they are mentally abusing them too. Do you really want you children to go through what you did just in a little different way.
You are a big girl and you need to get the backbone to tell them that you are tired of them hurting you and your children. Do you really want to be controlled for the rest of your life?
Give it a rest and stay away from them for a while. They will be the ones coming back to you and hopefully they will apologize for all of the bad treatment that they gave you. Think about what I said. Good Luck
2006-10-11 14:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 06:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by woolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you leave years ago? At 34 you should be totally on your own and away from your family if they are abusive and interfering.
2006-10-11 14:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It a decision that you will have to make on your own because you are the only one who have to live with the results. Plus, I'm on the outside looking in (I don't know both sides of the story to give a valid response).
2006-10-11 14:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jo Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know what to do. You said you can't take it anymore. As long as you, your husband and your kids are going to be better off without them, move on. You have a family of your own to take care of.
2006-10-11 15:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 34, why are you still living at home?
2006-10-11 14:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes move away from them and be relived from them. I did and it was the best decision I've made. Good luck
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2006-10-11 14:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by charles h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need Jesus to heal the passed and future. When you move if there is a hurt inside you take that with you. You cant leave yourself behind when you go.
2006-10-11 15:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by bittywrap 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You definitely need to stand up to them. Demand that they respect you, yr husband and children. I f they can't do this , sever ties with them.
2006-10-11 14:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by nyasasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋