he wakes up 3-4 times a night for a bottle... Instead of her waking him up in the morning 9-10 oclock she will make him a bottle to go back to sleep... He stays up till 2-3 in the morning most nights... He doesnt listen to anyone... Its driving me nuts cus we live together.... and I babysit him evernight why shes i schoool... Oh and makes me mad cus I have a baby due Oct.16 and she trys to tell me how to be a parent and how I should do things... She says I should not give my baby a pacifer cus its not cute...here son who is almost 3 with a bottle is not cute. How can I be polite about this situation? And help her parenting skills?
Thanks
2006-10-11 14:36:59 · 13 answers · asked by Nataliya S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
honestly i don't think its any of your buisness how she raises her son. if you don't like it because it causes an issue when you babysit, then don't babysit. everyone raises their children differently, and i'm sure you wouldn't want her telling you how to raise your child, no matter how she raises hers.
2006-10-11 16:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with her about responsibility... hopefully she will listen. You can help her son by getting him to bed earlier since you have him. Offer him a cup instead of a bottle while hes with you. Potty training will probably come a bit later where he is so behind. Maybe you could sign up for a parenting class together. They are very informative. They are meant as a learning tool for parents, they don't mean your a bad parent. If she has family you can also have talk to her maybe that will help also.
2006-10-11 15:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could confront her with how you feel. More likely than not, no matter what you say will probably make her mad. I agree with you tho, there's nothing wrong with giving a baby a pacifier, and its not cute that her 3 year old is staying up late, not potty trained and on the bottle still.
2006-10-11 14:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by ilvtnt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...i just saw somethin on the greg b show that someone potty trained a 2 MONTH old....3 yrs old no potty training and still bottle...not good....my daughter is 5 weeks and only wakes up 2 times a night....and the pacifer thing...i think its cute...it can work but use it only if the baby will not stop cryin...and not after a year to 18 months...tryin tellin her that you need to talk to her about her situation and be truthful and as nice as possible...thats all i can think of...if talkin doesnt work write down how u feel...i express myself better on paper than in person
2006-10-11 14:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is defintely a screwed up parent to be putting up with that from a 3 yr. old...He is up til 2-3 a.m.??? That's insane!!!He should not even have a bottle at 3 yrs old...they stop at 1 years old!!!! He is not a newborn, he does not need to be waking up for food...he is just programmed that way cuz of his mother...and i agree with you, A pacifier is fine for an infant...they have a strong sucking need and 3 year old does not...and he is still in diapers, Yuck!!! Shame on her, she sounds like an unfit and extremly lazy mother who only cares about herself. You should not have to put up with this being that you are almost ready to have your own baby. Good luck with your pregnancy and new baby!!!
2006-10-11 14:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First- Good luck on your soon-to-be-born baby
Second- Your friend is a very lax mother. Im 13, and my parents don't even let me stay up that late on wekends. Okay, so, tell her that she needs to start taking care of her child, and that shes needs to try to potty train him. And, she shouldn't be telling you how to parent your children, and just because a pacifier "isnt cute", doesnt mean that it isn't useable.
Just confront her about it, and say please at the end :P
2006-10-11 14:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat_rulez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um yea your friend has a problem that child should already be potty trained and definitely off the bottle. id much rather see a passy in a childs mouth at 3 than a bottle... he should have been off that bottle at like 18 months or younger... i think that since she isnt home at night you set some rules for him and if he doesnt listen put him in timeout... he will hate it but he will start to listen slowly but surely, and try to potty train him while shes gone... i mean come on is he going to go to preschool with a diaper on i dont think so.... you better knock some sense into your friend asap... its just going to get worst either he will be a hell raiser since he doesnt follow rules now, or hes going to be a mommas boy who is going to make his mom wipe his a** at age 16 think im joking, im not my first bf was like that, he would scream for his mom to wipe him at 16... it was rediculous....
or you can tell her something like hey i was reading in this magazine .... and tell her some skills that way... hope i help you
2006-10-11 15:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Leah P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son is almost 3 and we are not potty training til a month after his birthday, he has autism and we both have to have a full week devoted to just him and someone will have to watch our daughter but thats another story, sounds like your friend is lazy. I would tell her that soon socially it will get bad for him maybe
2006-10-11 17:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else...
The kid should have been potty trained by now...
You should just tell her to chill!!!... she's being a biatch leaving you with her kid and him needing a bottle he should be learning to talk and having fun.. not drinking from a bottle.. and know how to pee
2006-10-11 14:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by fersitf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a laxy and poor mother. What a pain. The late bedtimes need to go, the bottle needs to go and she needs to be more involved with her child. Shame on her.
2006-10-11 14:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋