Since i kinda suck at flirting...?

Question

How do you do it?

Answer 1

Try to develop a sense of humor. You want to come across as "fun", but don't crack jokes so much that you seem "goofy". Anything can be overdone. This may seem counter-initiative, but when you talk to a girl, try opening with a joke about something that she is wearing, doing, or looking at. In other words, tease her by making fun of her a little (keep it light, not sarcastic, and do NOT mention her body or how pretty she is -- it sounds creapy or sleezy from a stranger). As long as it is funny, you will look confident for taking a risk by saying something that might possibly be offensive (you are sending mixed signals here on purpose because it makes her think & talk about you when you are gone), and you will also seem fun for making her laugh. If she gets upset, just look at her calmly an say, it was only a joke.

Women think that self-confidence is sexy, so when you approach her, treat her as an old acquaintance whom you haven't seen in awhile -- in short, act comfortable around her and act like fun (act the same way you would act if she were a GUY instead of a girl -- she's only human, after all, no different than everyone else). No woman wants a coward as a boyfriend.

BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.

Also, when you are talking to a girl, and you feel too shy to maintain eye contact, make sure that you look away by moving your eyes horizontally across the room as if you were looking for someone else. Do NOT look down, like most shy guys do (she will think that you are looking at her boobs, and get offended). If you do accidentally offend someone, don't be so apologetic about it that you look line a wimp (in the long run, women hate that). Just calmly say that you are sorry once and if she cannot drop it, then either tell her to drop it, or else find someone else to talk to.

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BTW, if you seem desperate, needy or (ironically) overly excited to meet someone, she will no want to talk to you because it seems like you might be too easily hurt.

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Answer 2

There are tons of ways to flirt, but it mostly depends on the venue and what you're after in flirting with the person. First and foremost, however, is the caveat: be yourself!

If you're in a store together, you probably want to find things you share in common therein (books, cd's, plywood), or something funny you can share with her there (play that one safe, because what's funny to one can be offensive to another). Humor is oftentimes the best way to connect with others--who do you connect with most easily?

If you're on the street, you usually can't get much flirting in aside from the customary one-liners (asking whether she's hurt from the fall from heaven, whether you should call the cops 'cause she's stolen your heart away, etc.). These don't often work, but if you see the person often enough eventually some conversation is bound to begin. And from there, it's cake!

And if you're flirting to get a one-night-stand going, well, I can't help you there. Heck--even Hitch can't help you there! (Speaking of which--that's a good movie for first-time romancers or those coming back to the flirting pool. Check that one out!)

I wish you luck in your amorous escapades!

Answer 3

Don't be fake and throw out a bunch of lines.

Just talk to the person you want to flirt with by looking them in the eye and smiling. If you are brave, work up to slowly touching her hand while still smiling and looking into her eyes.

Anything that appears to be genuine and not someone trying too hard, is always a sexy flirt!

Answer 4

Just be your self and the flirting will come out of you when you don't even realize it. It normally happens naturally, well if it's the good kind of flirting anyway. Not if you try too hard it won't work. Just let it happen when it does and act like you would anytime. Girls like honest and open guys. Good luck.

Answer 5

ooo hard one
Know what you want and what is reasonable to expect|
Make sure your hair is clean and your body and breath smell good.
When you buy a woman a drink, that is all you are buying
Don’t do the rounds of a group of women
Concentrate on the conversation, not on getting a date.
Give GENUINE compliments
Keep your hands to yourself and respect their space
If you ask for a phone number, be sure you want to use it
Keep your self respect.
And finally:Be yourself.

Answer 6

i'm interior a similar boat as you pal. i'm extremely interested in this amazing asian female yet i'm afraid I screwed it up : ( i became like hi do you like video clips and he or she became like yeah and then I asked for her telephone selection and he or she gave it to me yet I forgot and became to nerves to ask lower back i'm lame : (

Answer 7

stop sitting at the computer for so many hours and go out and meet human beings

Answer 8

just be yourself,if you really like the person you'll flirt naturally.
or try smiling at them with your eyes when you talk.

Answer 9

aw~
thats cute~~!!!
don't try to be a player though, girls think that guys like that are jerks. just be a bit more relaxed and honest, girls like that the most

Answer 10

Have your friends tell girls that you have a rapist, I mean rapier, wit!!!!