There is this girl I met and I really like her. I have always liked her for 5 years except only recently we have just got to know each other. I am always the first person to text and ask her out - so far she has never said no and we have always had a good time together. But I feel that its just me doing all the work and my friends think I am a fool for love. I am totally in love with her and would do anything for her to be with me - except I am not sure she feels the same. She has never made the first move and always takes what I do for her for granted. Its like she semi-likes me while I am totally in love with her. What should I do to make her want me more?
2006-10-11 14:21:06 · 32 answers · asked by Disilli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's nothing you can do to "make" her want you more. it's either there or it's not. you just have to be patient, and if it's real between you, things will happen. if you're getting impatient and feel like you need a commitment from her, then you have to speak up and be direct with her. women do appreciate that, believe it or not. if she's unable to commit to you and you absolutely need that in your relationship, it's a good thing to find out now before you invest anymore emotional energy into this relationship. hope this helped!
2006-10-11 14:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, I feel the same way about my girlfriend too, but I dont know if its love yet. My situation has its differences though. My girlfiend isn't so much like your's where she takes everything for granted, but sometimes i feel like she wants me to do everything, even though she gets me with how much she cares about me and somethings she writes to me. If I felt like I was being played like a fool, I would tell her that I don't like how our relationship is going because I feel that what I do for you isn't apreciated and I'm in love with you, but I dont think you share the same feelings and well I want to know if I'm wasting my time loving you without getting any love back.
If she really wants you, this will give you the power and pretty much make her re-think all that you have done for her and realize how dumb she's been and maybe she'll want to be with you and change the way she has been treating you.
Goodluck.
2006-10-11 14:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly in this world, there is an age which the nice guy will get all the women, but it doesn't happen unitl the late 20's or early 30's, and women have had nothing but "the bad boys". However, there is something about being too nice "to a fault", and i think you're "to the fault". my advice as a former "mr. nice guy",
1) grow a backbone. yes, its tempting to do everything for her, and dote on her, but if you can't think of #1 (which *should* be you), then you can't think about anyone else. She will respect you for not bending like a tree.
2) do not, i repeat, DO NOT EVER be too readily available. if she can have you with little effort, then you're always going to be a backup plan. i'm not promoting "playing the hard to get game", but try (its hard) but try to say "no" once in a while. Sad fact of the world is, if youre not so availabe, then your value has increased.
3) get your priorties straight, make sure that you're living life how you want it (taking care of #1) and that there's room for others.
its hard to go from "mr. nice guy" to "mr. nice guy with edge"...
2006-10-11 14:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by classy_gui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are a martyr and she is manipulating.... you cant make some one love you... just ask her how she feels about you...and a pointer for you most women feel that men should make the first moves....its only lady like. if she is using you because she knows your a nice guy.. you need to move on. its not easy when your in love, but its better than being used. if you do a lot for her that she takes for granted. stop so that you can get a reaction. Because regardless of what she may say actions speak louder than words
2006-10-11 14:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by HERE4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done enough to let her know how you feel, by your actions. If she hasn't gotten the hint yet, start doing less for her. If she wants more to do with you, she'll initiate the first move. Sounds like to me that you are showing her a good time, and she's going to let you continue as long as you will. Good luck!!
2006-10-11 14:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jillybeanyweiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her want you more. You can continue being nice to her and taking her out. Try asking her how she feels about you if you feel the timing is right to do that. If she isn't really interested in being serious then it's time to move on.
2006-10-11 14:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back. Stop everything for a few days and see if she makes any move. If not u better call her and talk to her. Tell her abt how u feel about u making the 1st move. Be honest to urself and her.
2006-10-11 14:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. How sad! YET CUTE! WTF DUDE! Well she never said no... YET! So yeah she likes you. You should talk to her about it. See why she doesn't do anything. It actually reminds me of someone I know, and it's a girl. She has a B.F. and he is the one to always call her and take her places, she never says no. She REALLY likes him though. She told me she doesn't do anything because she always thinks he's buisy and she doesn't want to be a bother. Maybe that's how the girl you like is. She doesn't wanna get in the way.
2006-10-11 14:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down luvver boy! U need 2 TALK to her. It's not worth the relationship if she doesn't feel the same, and is just mooshing off you. But, you might find out that she doesn't adk first because ur too quick for her, or she doesn't have to ask, 'cause she knows u will. TALK TO HER!
2006-10-11 14:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rainy Day 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just keep doing what you're doing. If she is even worth anything she'll realize that you are a good guy (I'm just guessing here cause of course I don't know you) and you guys will end up together. If it is meant to be then it will be.
2006-10-11 14:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by CountryBlazerBabe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋