Why don't abusive men disappear in one generation? Don't you ladies realize it's your choice?

Question

They DEPEND on you to reproduce, so why do you keep going back for more?

Answer 1

Well I was with a man for 11 yrs he beat me and gave me phiscal abuse to.I think why I stayed for so long was he said he loved me and it would not happen again.But it always did he left me for another woman and I am really glad that it is over.I hope that if there is a woman out there that is going through that she gets out before it is to late.

Answer 2

It is a dance and people stay in bad relationships because they are getting some kind of need met. Abuse comes in many forms and it’s not all physical. Some abuse is verbal or mental and also dished out by women as well. Behavior is passed down from generation to generation and unless someone comes to consciousness and is willing to break the pattern, it continues. The real question is why are you attracted to women that are complicated and emotionally unavailable? I ask this question with compassion and not to be provocative. There are lots of great women who are available but you need to be in the places where those kinds of women hang out and be patient. Work on being the right kind of guy and in time, the right girl will show up. That’s the real equation. Hang in there!

Answer 3

Sometimes its roots are with the father. For instance, if a woman has a bad childhood with a very nasty or abusive father, the woman begins to think that that is all she is good for. Subconciously, she is then attracted to men who are the same, because they are confirming that message.
It's all really sad I reckon. The women FEEL like they NEED to be there, they think that they need a man, and so everytime the bastard says, "I'm sorry, I love you", she accepts it, even if it happens over and over again.
In other cases, there are other reasons a woman feels compelled to stay: children, money, protection... even threats by the abusive husband.
Then it just becomes a vicious circle: often the male children will begin to think that treating women as inferior is acceptable, and the female children think that they are worthless.
And so the cycle continues, friend...

Answer 4

Loll the guy asking the question is funny,he really look like an abusive boyfriend. I think woman are just made that way, they are just different than man. I guess its a nature thing, badboys reproduce better.

In united-states during the slavery era the white slave owner use to have female slave impregnent with the toughest and strangers Mandingo slave.

They though that they could apply what they learned in England with horse and dog with human slave. They organize fight and among slave and encourage the slaves that look more manly, the most abusive one.

You can still see the result today with the strong African American who are good in sport with strong attitude, the wreaks are all gone now because they couldn't reproduce.

Today badboys still get the girls i one way or another. The hiipop and rap generation style give merit to bad boy and show them as what a descent black man should be, a player, a hustler.

Nancy Friday is a renown female writer her project deal with female psychological aspect. She wrote honestly about woman and about her self since she is also a woman. One of her book deal with female fantasy. She interviewed thousand if not tenth of thousand woman, friends and strangers during many years for this long project.

She observe that woman as complex as they are often deal with the same type of fantasy that turn around subject such rape, sleeping with unknown strangers, sleeping with man they can;t see, invisible man.

Most of them pretend to love their husband while fantasy about making love with evil strangers that they will never love. Well that's the nature of woman, what can we do? Its very strange to us guy to understand this because we are just the opposite. No guy would love to be with a woman tormentors or abusive. We love innocent and pretty young woman but I know some guy also love old mature and ugly woman.

Answer 5

It seems like your "blaming" women on abusive men. If abusive men would have disapperaed many many moons ago, then there wouldn't be the problem.

We're also not the only one's reproducing! Doesn't it take dick too? ( or lack of)

We don't all go back for more, we lose ourselves in trying to find our way out.

Want a big ***** to knock you around for a year or so, and then we'll discuss this again??

Answer 6

I think that abuse is passed on and most women can only get neg. attention so they go back because they think that it is all they can get, but the way i see it if you lock up all the abusers for more than just over night maybe they will get the hint, but that is not likely to happen. I left my abuser and i have a son by him and pray to God every day that he does not turn out like him. My son is very loving and kind but sometimes he is locked up and that makes me very afraid. I did not know his father was a abuser until it was too late and i had a son.

Answer 7

Because they don't have enough respect for themself to leave. Abusive men know that and usually use emotional abuse to drag the woman down more. Like "nobody would want you you're nothing".
They are stupid for staying but as long as these woman keep beliving they are worth nothing it won't change.

Answer 8

Like moths to a flame, some prefer abusive men.

Answer 9

You can't walk a mile in someone else's shoes

Answer 10

eih you need to understand that sometimes women feel so helpless and worthless that's why they can't just fight back..but when they finallly realize that enough is enough..it's payback time...