i met this guy in a chatroom a few months ago, and ive been talking to him alot..and i really like him and he really likes me..and he lives about a half hour away and we've talked about us getting together and being a couple but i dont want to rush into things so fast. we havent met in person and im kinda scared to.i have talked to him on the phone once...i feel like i shouldnt get close to him because i havent met him in person. i dont want to meet him until im comfortable with myself, and lately ive been really wanting to meet him bc i feel like we havent been talking so much and i miss him..because of work and school and everything else, it doesnt seem like we talk as much.hes told me that hes willing to wait until im ready to meet and he isnt rushing me at all.(im a year older than he is and we are both legal) what should i do? should i wait to meet him until im comfortable with myself and see how things are from there or should i just meet him now instead of waiting
2006-10-11 14:00:29 · 11 answers · asked by candy c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its alot more complicated than that... i just thought id put in minor details.i just dont know what to do right now.
2006-10-11 14:02:22 · update #1
meet him in a public place...get a friend to call you within a hour of your date....and then again 3 hours later. This will give you an exit plan and gives him a indication that people know your out with him. I have met many people from the net.....and they aren't as manic or crazy as people might think
2006-10-11 21:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Quintus T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you need to do to be comfortable with yourself? I have absolutely no idea how old you are, besides the fact that you're both legal... If you decide to meet him, bring someone along just in case. A parent or somone else close to you. And since he is the guy, the so-called stronger sex, meet on your 'territory'. Meet in a public place where you feel safe. Ask yourself this anyways; Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for?
Good luck!
2006-10-11 21:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by lily_tuesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to sort this is to meet him. Choose a public place in the middle of the day. Agree beforehand that it is only for 1 hour. If it turns out that he has misrepresented himself (i.e. he's a liar), you don't have to stay the hour. Just say: 'I'm sorry, this is not for me' Go, and don't look back.
The chances are he's a nice guy: he's prepared to wait. So, be optimistic. It has to go at the pace that is slower: whether it is yours or his.
Whatever you do: be safe. DO NOT AGREE TO ANYTHING YOU DON'T LIKE THE SOUND OF.
Good luck!
2006-10-11 21:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Barks-at-Parrots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really advisable meeting any one from a chat room but If you do decide to meet him make sure you tell your parents/friends where you will be going and what time you will be back.
(He says that he's a year younger than you - you can't be sure of that! - Take care, there are a lot of weirdos out there.)
IF IN DOUBT, DON'T MEET THIS PERSON!!
2006-10-11 21:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie....ok..your all excited about each other...not yet met...but pretty intrigued....you could always arrange to meet up....but take a friend and ask him to take a friend...that way you can get to know each other, but don't meet him by yourself....i am not saying he's some maniac....but it's the internet don't forget...you don't know whats going on out there....you could always invite him to where you live...go to the movies or a bar somewhere...if theres chemistry between you....then your mates wont mind leaving you alone with him....then make another date with just you and him....but Be careful Hun...you just don't know whats round that corner...it's exciting on line.....but in real life it could be completely different
2006-10-11 22:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it - that way you can decide on whether you want to take things further with him or leave it now. You could positively despise him on meeting him so the sooner you meet him the sooner you can decide for sure. xx
2006-10-12 04:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thinnk personally you should forget about him.....you dont know what he looks like or anything.....you dont even know if he's who he says he is.....there are lots of perverts out there praying on younger people.....a chatroom isnt the best place to find a boyfriend......why dont you just goout with your mates to the cinema, shopping etc + that way im sure you will find a boyfriend....
good luck
x.niks.x
2006-10-12 06:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by lil niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do decide to meet him, you should go with a friend, tell your parents ect where you are going, meet him in a busy place with lots of people around you, and do not let him take you anywhere without your friend, and be very careful.
2006-10-12 04:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by traveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't meet anyone out of chat rooms. NUFF SAID.
2006-10-11 21:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gah!
try to find more proof that he's a real person before you even think about meeting him!! and see if this real guy is really who he says he is!!
2006-10-11 21:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by kpop_singer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋