For the last fourteen years I’ve thought that Michael was my dad. I love him more than I can find words to express even though were not really close and he’s had long term relationships with two different woman ,separately, that he lived with and played the role of husband and wife, even though vows were never spoken, each of these relationships have ended in a break-up and he’s now living with my me-ma, his mother, because she had a stroke and cant walk, talk, or move her left arm., and his sister who takes care of her wile he’s at work. We’ve never been close and I’ve never really felt totally at ease with him. I know he’d never hurt me, or let anyone else hurt me but I never feel like im good enough and im always trying to make him proud and I never feel like it does any good. He never calls me or comes to see me unless I ask him to. He’s never there when I want him to be, but he’s always there when I need him to be. If I ever need money, he gives it to me. Clothes, hell take me shopping. School supplies, he’ll buy them etc. Six months ago I found out that even though he’s been there all my life, we weren’t blood related. He wasn’t my biological dad. That didn’t really bother me. Blood doesn’t make a family, feelings do. That’s my opinion anyway. The problem is that now that he knows I know the secret they, my mom and him, have kept all my life he comes around even less that the minisclue times he did before. I just really wish he’d come around more. How do I make him see that I still need him, now more than ever before. Even though there’s another person trying to play the dad role in my life? I don’t want to lose him. I love him.
2006-10-11 13:54:44 · 8 answers · asked by Vivian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Share your feelings with him, he'll need to hear it. He may also just be trying to give you your space. Let him know you appreciate the material things he's provided but you want the person , that he is , to be in your life. Like the old saying "anyone can make a baby, it takes a man to be a daddy" You wrote your feelings here quite well, now do the same thing with him. Say what you feel.
2006-10-11 14:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by big dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very mature young lady ! I would be proud of myself and the people who brought me up . Your Dad sounds like he has a lot on his plate
these days but that is not a valid excuse for not being there for you .
In any relationship we MUST talk to each other about what is bothering us . No one is a mind reader honey . Talk to him , tell him you miss him and need him to be available . He might think for some reason that you don't need him anymore . Without communication ??? you guys will be fine ... call him .
There is plenty of love there to help you through anything !
2006-10-11 21:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from a single family home and I havent talked to my father for years... he never calls to wish happy birthday and stuff like that.. i was always mad that i never got the daddy daughter dates and such... but now i am older and i see that it only makes me that much stronger.. they knew you would find out one day and if hes been there it wont change now. maybe he just dosent know what you are thinking... let him know that this dosent change things and that you love him..
good luck
2006-10-11 21:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by songbirdchelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just tell him how you feel in your heart and tell him that you need him you need in your live more than just for money as dad. The best thing is always to say how you feel because no one will know inless you tell them.
2006-10-11 21:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make me cry....... you need to print a copy of what you just wrote and hand deliver it to him yourself. life is too short and some times we don't get to express what some one means to us and then there gone and its to late!!!!!!!!!! how i wish i had the chance to tell the man that raised me how much he meant to me--but he is gone and its too late. please for your own sake-REACH OUT TO HIM he cant read your mind-----he wont know how you feel unless you tell him.
2006-10-11 21:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him, tell him you want and need him to be a part of your life, and make sure you tell him how much you love him and how much he means to you.
2006-10-11 20:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him exactly how you feel.
2006-10-11 21:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's really nice of you
2006-10-11 21:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋