Ok, here's the situation. My boyfriend (of a year) and I were just having a conversation about sex, sexual experiences, etc. When he says: "I've had a lot of weird sexy experiences in my past". So, of course I said like what? He proceeds to tell me a story about some chick in a supermarket, she was married, they went back to her place, etc. This happened about 10 years ago. I freaked out, we got into a big fight, and now we are not speaking. My point is this: should he really have shared that crap with me? I don't tell him stories like that. Btw.. this is not the first story he's told me, I can think of at least two others that disturbed me.
2006-10-11 13:53:17 · 21 answers · asked by lucydesi1940 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boy, do I wish I had an answer for that! My now husband but back then boyfriend told me stories of him being a stripper a while back before we met. I still think of those stories and get freaked out but then I just think of some of the experiences I've had and didn't share with him and it makes it all okay! If it was before you all met, it's okay-don't let it bother you. I'm sure you've got things you haven't told him, right?
2006-10-11 14:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by bububub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you overreacted. Why? For two reasons. One is because it is something that happened 10 years ago. With all the problems that occur in a relationship right now in the present, it doesn't sound sensible on the surface to be arguing about something that happened over 10 years ago. Very few, if any people are the same person they were 10 years ago.
My other reason for saying you overreacted is because as a man, I know men like to tell sex stories. We have our own insecurities and one of the ways we like to build ourselves up is by talking about past conquests.
A smart woman let's us crow and crow, and says "wow, that's something" or somethig similar. Most men, mean no harm. Really, that's the truth.
2006-10-11 14:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that you did ask for it if you didn;t want to hear it tell him in the future do not share intimate details with me this way you can avoid this problem I dated a guy and he told me a story like that too and it did upset me but then again I did ask him about past sexual experiences so in the future don't ask and just know that he probably did some weird things before you and perhaps even after you HUGS
2006-10-11 13:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for getting angry as that is a very disturbing exp. for ur bf to share w/ you. But, I also adivse you to get over it, after all it was a past experience that was only brought up because of the conversation you guys engaged in. I suggest you let ur bf know u are no longer interested in those kind of stories, I know I wouldn't like to hear that from a bf either!
2006-10-11 13:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dulce 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....you did ask, and you shouldn't ask questions you don't want to know the answers to. Tell him you really don't want to hear stories like that in the future, and if he brings it up again, ignore him. What's in the past is in the past: there is nothing you can do to change it. If you choose to ignore it, or not hear about it, that's fine, but don't get mad at him for something that happened before you knew him.
2006-10-11 13:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest you really shouldnt hold things in when you have been in that long of a relationship. If you be the first to talk to him he will keep thinking he did nothing wrong. Wait until he talks to you, you did nothing wrong he has no right telling you those stories. Good luck!
2006-10-11 13:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could see it being a problem if he were doing that now, but come on it was 10 years ago. Have a good laugh over it and move on. Your relationship will never last if you become jealous over his past.
2006-10-11 14:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of unnerving to find out someone you love is capable of certain things. I would wonder about his character after hearing a story like that.
But in answer to your question, I don't know if you overreacted or not but don't ask questions that you don't want an answer to.
2006-10-11 13:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE hearing about any previous sexual encounters... I always feel that I'm going to be judged by the "experience" they had with the other girl... the less information the better in my book...
2006-10-11 13:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by ksgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u if u didnt want 2 hear that then why ask if u knew u were gonna get mad u should of told him ure stories 2 to see what he would say!!!!!
2006-10-11 13:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Marlene O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋