Should i be afraid to marry someone who is enlisting in the Army National Guard in two years??

Question

I'm mainly scared that i will lose him. my mother also forbid me to marry anyone who is in the army. should i be worried?

Answer 1

Well, I do not know how old the two of you are, or how long you two have been dating, but there is no rush in getting married right now. Take your time and see how the relationship progresses.

Also, your boyfriend is enlisting now or in two years? Two years is a long time and many things could change -- not only may he not enlist, but things could change between the two of you in two years.

You say that your mother is forbidding you to marry anyone in the army? Why? Is she afraid that he may be deployed and possibly killed in combat? While the future is uncertain, that should not stop someone from falling in love and marrying their soul mate. Besides, when you get married I assume that you will be an adult and able to marry whom you choose. You should have a talk with your mother about her reservations on whom you date and marry.

Answer 2

You shoud always be afraid of lossing someone but don't hate him for wanting to serve his country. A person becomes a man when they join the military. Yes they do tend to change but its not for the worse. Before I joined the military I was into drugs and didn't give a d*** about my country or state. After seeing what I have, I no longer focus soley on myself. I know their is a lot of people out there who don't like the military but those people don't realy know us. We are the ones that would lay down our lifes for people who wouldn't stop to see if we needed help changing a tire if we are in uniform. Another thing I don't know what your mother has against us be she needs to watch the news about the men and women giving their lives in Afganistan and Iraq to protect this country. North Korea is doing everything but spitting in our faces and many of us will probably wind up lossing our lives over there if nothing doesn't change. I would like to say all of us our good honerable men but you always have your bad apples but most of us are good people and to say thay you shouldn't marry because of him being in military is very sad to me.

Answer 3

wha? Your mom need to worry about herself and not so much you lol. I'm getting married when my boyfriend gets back to the state (september of 2008.) I'll probably be living on base if he reinlists. I'll just move back home if he is called overseas again.

Loose him to what? Actually loose him as in death, or just not have him around for a while... If you need to ask this then maybe you shouldn't in the first place.

Answer 4

Engaged is ok but married is rushing it. People change a lot when they come out of the Army. Give it time.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

My boyfriend is in the National Guard and he is going to be deployed anywhere between this November and next November. I am afraid of loosing him but I don't want to stop him, he is doing a GREAT thing for America. E-mail me if you want to talk more about this. (my e-mail is the same as my screenname @yahoo.com)

Answer 7

I hope this is a real question.
you have a tough situation here. if the two of you are that serious about your relationship, this is an issue you should have long and honest discussion with your boyfriend and your family. the decision is only yours and his to make.
no one else can give you a good answer for this.

Answer 8

Why? Two years is a long way away to postpone happiness. My best friend married her now husband righ tbefore he left for Iraq. Now he's back and they couldn't be happier.

Answer 9

Yes, your mother is right. Are you prepared to suffer from the loss of this man if he should get killed? If not, don't marry him. Wait til he gets back if you really love him.

Answer 10

There is always a risk when you love someone. Someone in the military may face more risk than most.... But, if you love him, and can't see being without him, don't give him up.