I have a friend, she likes me a lot she is a bible thumper big time and I am not. I am more like an athiest?

Question

I have a friend, she likes me a lot she is a bible thumper big time and I am not. I am more like an athiest. She belives in tongues and I don't. She believes everything her pastor tells her. I don't. She really likes me and doesn't force religious stuff on me. I don't know what to do. We are exact opposites but when we hang out it doesn't matter. We enjoy each other. We spend a lot of time together. She is great in all respects except she is so religious and I am not... :(

We are close but exactly going steady if you know what I mean. She is very attractive, energetic, passionate, happy, positive, etc. she likes to cook, clean, stuff like that and she also wants to get married and have a bunch of kids. She is also very jealous.
I just don't know what to do and I am not able to ask anyone I know.
she doesn't force me to go to church but she does pray and sing and say stuff like god created the beautiful sunset, etc. to me. When she does I tell her to keep that stuff to herself. She seems ok when I tell her that we believe different things. I don't know what to do. Thank you for answering or reading. I would just love to hear about some experiences stuff like that cause I have absolutely nothing in my life to relate this to. I have never dated anyone so... religious.

Answer 1

Its amazing what two people with opposite beliefs can learn from each other. Don't force anything, let things take thier course, and in the mean time learn about her why she is religious, and teach her why you arenot religious. This doesnt mean that you change your ideals, just that everyone, even if you do not agree with thier ideas, has something to offer.
I am an athiest as well, but my lab partner(biology major) is a Roman Catholic. He is an amazing person. We have different beliefs and if I would have allowed my judgement to be clouded by that I would have missed an opportunity to make a great friend.

Answer 2

I am so sorry you find yourself in that situation. From very personal experience, I know how confused you feel and how difficult it can be for you. I actually married someone who became extremely religious, overwhelmingly so, like your girlfriend. It led to a lot of heartache for us both, and eventually a divorce.

First, the fact that you don't believe in her religion, speaking in toungues and all, does NOT make you anything at all like an Athiest. Do you believe in God? If you do, you're not an Athiest. If you're not sure, you're not an Athiest (you'd be an agnostic in that case). And being an agnostic or an athiest would not make you a bad person, even though your friend might think it does.

Do you want some advice from a guy who's been there? Here you go....

There is a Bible verse that tells Christians, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Good advice!

I can guarantee you this: Even if she says now that it is not important that you are not religious to the extent that she is, sooner or later she will look down on you because of your "lack of faith." As she matures, she will hear that over and over from her church, pastor, and fellow church-members. According to the Bible, it is her DUTY in Christ to convert you to her way of belief.

You and she are not on the same page, and that is a dangerous situation whether it is about religion, politics, or whatever. Either she will pressure you to change until you do, or you will find yourself wanting her to change and trying to get her to. Also, you can bet that her religious ramblings will get on your nerves, badly, after awhile. Sooner or later, you will both get hurt. Badly.

I know you like this girl a lot, and she probably likes you too, but she is more devoted to her beliefs than she is to you. You can still hang out and be good friends with this girl, but you shouldn't allow it to develop into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship (or more).

There are a lot of girls out there, and you will meet one soon who is more compatible with you and with your belief system. Just keep on being yourself (the most important thing) and you will find a girl - or she will find you! - who really likes who YOU are, and who will never try to change who you are fundamentally.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Normally, different types of people end up breaking up. Others, change and adjust to a common ground. You may do that. Why don't you try being religious? I understand that you're not "that much" a religious person, but try to listen to her and try your best to follow it.

What is good about her is that, she has not forced you to change.

The main thing you need to consider is, that you're only HER friend, so why does it matter? Do you like her and you wanna go out with her or something? :)

I'm thinking that its a "YES". It won't work if you wanna go out with her.

Good luck! Just be friends for now.

Answer 4

I went to a Christian intense college, additionally. R&S is the literary equivalent of expert rasslin'. You create your guy or woman character (avatar) and all of us accepts what you're saying at face value. that's the way the interest is performed. alternatives factors and cheer for the babyface and jeer the heel. no question is in basic terms too trollish to be taken heavily.

Answer 5

looks like you answered your own question there bro. opposites do in fact attract. and as long as shes not pressuring you into her views or vise versa, and if you really do like each other then there shouldn't be any problems. but if its you that has a problem with her being religious my only advise is not to worry, if you really care about her then respect what she believes in.

Answer 6

ya i know how that feels. im athiest. so most ppl try to force the bible and **** on me. but i think that athiest and christian dont really make a good couple. thats from experence. as soon as they found out im athiest they either tried to force the bible on me or broke up with me. so from my experence i wouldnt do it. sorry. thats just what i think tho.

Answer 7

If it bothers you, just don't bring up religion with her!

Answer 8

ask her out then fake it in front of her parents..........kidding....but make your move. if it works, it works if it doesnt, it doesnt