My hubby and I eloped and had the most perfect, intimate, romantic wedding. But that's all we had money for was the wedding and one night stay in an economy hotel. We didn't even have any pictures done, because the plan was we would come back in a month and do them and then have a small reception afterwards. But you know how life is, first a honeymoon baby postponed things, then a major move...etc.etc... I have always wanted to have a traditional reception and do all those things such as invite every close person I've ever known, cut the cake, have a first dance, throw my boquet, and finnally have formal wedding photography in my wedding dress, (even though I won't look quite as young as I did at 22) Would it be weird to have a 10th anniversary celebration and complete my dream wedding reception I really wanted to have? Looking for opinions if you were one of my guests invited to this senario would you think it a waste of your time or money to come since it is already past?
2006-10-11 13:39:01 · 37 answers · asked by polarviolet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Mmm, it will hard to choose a best answer. I have to say most responses say this is a cool idea, so if the majority of the people here think it is a good idea then I'm sorry Ediquette Gal but saying that it's a pathetic idea is a bit harsh. What does it matter what I call it. I just wanted to know if it would be weird to have the celebration 10 years later. Honestly I know this, but I was just curious to see what the major populous would say, it doesn't really matter what anybody should think of what I do or say. You only live once in a lifetime, why go out of this life having regrets of any sort! Even if everyone did think it was weird I would have still done it because I have always done things differently, it's just my way!
2006-10-11 15:35:42 · update #1
I really like the 10th Anniversary Party idea.
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Congratulations on your 10th Year Anniversary!
2006-10-12 13:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people might get confused if you call it a reception, and believe there will be a renewal before hand. If you are going to have a renewal I think that would be very nice. If not, maybe refering to it as a celebration of your family or an anniversary party. If I were getting an invitation, I think I would like it to read something along the lines of a belated or long awaited reception to celebrate the marriage and family of _____ & ______.
2006-10-12 03:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by erica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a little wierd to do all that at an anniversary party, but I think that if u 2 were to renuew your vows and then do it, It would be really kewl. I would definetly scale it back a bit tho, because then quite honestly I would think you were a little wierd if I came and ya'lll had spend a ton of money and time to act like it was the original time! A really nice party, renewing vows, and a simple cake cut, dance and bouquet throw, no big deal tho! Have fun!
2006-10-12 02:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "belated wedding reception" would be weird and in poor taste. So would a vow renewal ceremony or re-run wedding "with all the trimmings."
However, an "anniversary dinner-dance" would be lovely and appropriate, and it can be as formal as you wish. You can have a tiered cake, and photography, and many of the same celebration elements a reception would.
Just don't present it as "this thing I missed out on 10 years ago and now I want it"-- that makes you sound a tiny bit sad and pathetic (I don't mean that to be negative, but just think about how others will perceive your message, you know?).
Have a dignified and joyful "anniversary dinner-dance" or "anniversary banquet."
(Piggybacking on someone else's comment: Do not put ANY mention of gifts in your invitations, even if it is to say you prefer none-- it is not proper.)
2006-10-11 14:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it's a really sweet idea! But I would do it as more of a 10 year celebration party, or even go a bit farther and renew your vows. How fun! I wouldn't call it a wedding reception though. Good luck!
2006-10-11 17:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by MegW12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is weird, I think it is kind of sweet actually. If I were you though, I would steer clear of calling this celebration a "wedding reception". Stick with 10th Anniversary Celebration. Think of it this way: how many people these days even make it to the ten year mark in their marriages? I think you definitely have reason to celebrate!
2006-10-11 13:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by lucydesi1940 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider a vow renewal. It would be a fun way to celebrate your anniversary, as well as let your families see you "wed" one another! And, this way, no one will be confused if you have the whole reception thing. People are silly and get confused easily, it seems.
2006-10-11 17:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 10 year later reception is a bit unusual. Why not have a renewal of your wedding vows, then all could attend the service and the reception following. We did this and it was wonderful....
2006-10-12 07:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by roeskats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a 10th anniversary celebration is a cute idea. why not renew your vows that might make it easier for people to want to come, to help you celebrate as you continue your lives together. I always wish my hubby would want to have this kind of ceremony our first wedding was very low key and inexpensive, I'd love to have the chance to wear a pretty dress.
2006-10-11 14:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have an anniversary party instead. Make it as big as you want. But don't wear a white dress, don't throw a bouquet, etc. And definetely don't expect gifts. In fact, I would put "no gifts, please" on the invitation. Hire a photographer and have a fun dance. But don't make it a wedding reception.
2006-10-12 03:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋