My mom is a sub and she is subbing for my class TOMORROW!!!!!?

Question

My mom is fat and ugly and makes stupid remarks that only make everyone laugh at her, and she's A SUB. This has ruined every chance I've had to make friends with someone new, and I know that "if they only care about what your mother looks like, they're not worth anything anyway," but it's so painful seeing my home life and school life clash. My boyfriend even dumped me because my mom made a rude comment to him while she was subbing in his class. And she is subbing for my Health class tomorrow. Please help me!!!!!! What can I do?? The boy I like now is in there and so are a lot of people who I don't want to see my mom!!!!! Please help me!!!!!!!!

And everyone hates her and KNOWS that she is my mother, thanks to my stupid teacher.

Answer 1

Tact 101:

Uh, mom... can I talk to you for a minute? Look, I know you're subbing for my class tomorrow (break your leg tonite!), but none of the other kids have parents that teach their classes (WHY ME??!!),, and honestly ( I wish!) sometimes people take some of the things (some?) that you think are funny the wrong way (oh they got it alright!). Really, some (all) people think you're being rude when you dont mean to be (insert own comment here!) So I was wondering (praying!) if you could help me a little (leg?) and just try to tone down (LEG!) the humor a little.

Really, all kidding aside, you mom is probably buggin' too. "Omigosh! I have my daugther in a class!" See if you can't talk to her about it. It's worth a shot because it can't get much worse.

It just may be time to "resign yourself to your fate" and deal and move on.

Answer 2

That is really not cool for a mom to make stupid remarks while in a classroom. Talk to your mom. Just say what if one of the kids tells the principal she is making these remarks?? Personal opinions are supposed to be kept to herself. She needs to stick to the lesson plan and encourage success. She would loose any opportunity to sub-teach again if she made stupid remarks in any class here in Texas. Does she want that??? Also she should refrain from sub-teaching at your school because it is considered a conflict of interest in most school districts for moms to sub at the same school their children go to. Middle school kids can be really cruel. Elementary is okay. High school kids about 50/50 on accepting a sub-teacher.
Last but not least, Be proud of your mom for having the gumption to even take on sub-teaching. Its a hard job to fill in for anyone let alone have them like you as much as the regular teacher. So please ask your friends to be kind to her. And to take what she says with a grain of salt.
Remember the teaching must go on no matter who is sick.
Sub-teacher in Texas!
If you have to show her my answer!! Go for it!
You need to apologize for your remarks.
We only get one mom and thats for life, friends will always come and go.
As for your so called stupid teacher. umm report her disrespectfulness to your principal.. That is just not cool at all to diss a child mother NO MATTER WHAT!!

Answer 3

Haha! You are bringing back memories! I taught my brother who is 10 years younger. The kids snickered when he called me Mrs. L. and he and I always laughed about it. It was so funny really.

He always showed me respect though and even though he thought I was a dork.. he found that the kids really liked me. It actually made him one of the most popular kids in the school. Even though his last name was different because I was married that all called him Jimmie L. Give her a chance.

If your boyfriend broke up with you because she yelled at him... you need a new boyfriend anyway. I yell at my kids friends anytime they need yelled at. Just treat her with respect like you would any other teacher. It will be weird, but you will look back on it.

AND... if you think THAT is bad... MY mom was a substitute school cook! Yeah I am not even joking. All of my friends were always like HI Melanie's mom! and I wanted to die. No one cared. They did not think I was a dork because my mom was a sub. It will be ok. I promise.

Answer 4

Do your "friends" talk about their moms that way? If you ask around, at least 90% of kids your age would say that they are embarrassed by their parents. But few, if any of them would ever call their mom "fat and ugly" in public, much less, on the internet. Maybe your mom does embarrassing things, but she is the only mother you will ever have. If you want people to truly like and respect you, you need to work on your attitude.

Answer 5

I completely agree that your mom will always be there for you long after you are out of school and these kids are long gone. But I know you probably don't care about that. Maybe you could nicely tell your mom that you feel uncomfortable with her teaching your class. Don't say you are embarrased by her. That would hurt her greatly. Just tell her that kids are known to tease and make fun of substitutes in general and that you don't think you can handle them talking about her in that manner. Maybe she will listen to you. If not, maybe you can go to see the counselor during your class and explain to them how you feel. It would keep you from actually seeing what goes on between your mom and your classmates.

Answer 6

You are young and living in the moment and are too caught up in what happens to you socially or how others perceive you. Have you ever heard of unconditional love? Accept your mom for what she is and if there are issues that are hard for you to deal with, try to talk to her personally about them. Your mom gave birth to you so unless she is beating you, stop being shallow and honor her. As the years go flying by, when she dies it will have a much bigger impact on you than these little fleeting friends of yours who will pass through your life in the twinkle of an eye. By virtue of wanting to have a child, by virtue of giving birth to you, supporting you, and loving you, she gets to be fat with two heads if she wants. Okay, be embarrased quietly at times, because I get that completely, but always, always, always loudly defend her. Your friends will respect you for defending your mom. If they are so hideously rude to cut her down in front of you, you better rethink these friends. Daughter, do the right thing.

Answer 7

You need to get your priorities straight. Your mom is your mom and just because she may not be perfect doesn't mean that you should speak so harshly of her. Maybe when you get a little bit older you'll grow to appreciate her instead of see her as a hinderance. It is true, if people care so much about what your mom looks like and what words come out of her mouth, then they aren't worth it anyway.

Answer 8

Sweetie, bless your heart...I know you don't want to hear this, but it will all be easier to look back on and laugh about it when you are older. Just try to ignore the snide comments people make and understand being a social butterfly isn't all life is about. And if your mom is cool with her looks, and she loves you, screw what other people think. One has to be comfortable in their own skin and I think you aren't as comfortable as you should be in yours by worrying about what everyone will think. Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 9

Someplace in a good book I read, it advised children to honor their fathers and mothers. Your mother might respond,you're selfish and willful. Besides, how much harm can come of a 3rd grade Health class?

Answer 10

There is nothing that can be done. Your class mates and that boy you lkie wont be there for you after school is long done. Your mother will. Stan up for her and show tour family pride and there must be something wrong with YOU if you have trouble keeping friends.