if he chose her,does it mean she is better than me?:(help pease?

Question

me and him are(and were)friends but sleepin together and sharing nights and days,everything.he told me he left his ex and that it was not ment to be,and he said he was developing feelings for me:(and she called him,and he started tellin me he is not sure what he feels anymore.now he said he decided to go back to her,and that he need to sacrifise feeling he has for me,in order to do things his way?i wonder why when i was givin my all?why did he chose her?i really feel bad.like i m 0.like i m not worth anything.after all he said-he went back to her..and i was and stayed only friend.i m tellin him i allright,never better,but in fact ,i cant share my pain to anybody,..i dont know how to get over him?why did he do all that?

Answer 1

It sounds like he's 0 not you. You'll meet someone better who only wants you. It may not be the next guy or the one after that but he's out there. Don't worry you'll feel better soon and someday wonder what you ever saw in this guy.

Answer 2

Don't you dare feel like that! It's a game married men play to get stuff on the side and have a good excuse for it! You just were played dear! It doesn't mean anybody is better than anybody except he is a sorry piece of crap. He shouldn't have told you all that and made or let you fall in love if he really wasn't sure! Live & learn, don't fall for it again I'm sure you will encounter more situations like this before it's over. He will probably go back to her & in no time at all, decide he is leaving again. Some other poor soul will fall for the same trick. He may have already done this before. It's never ending! Just make a rule for yourself from now on never get envolved with a married man period.... whether he claims to be getting a dovorce, just seperated or you are just slap a s s drunk, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! You will save yourself a lot of heartache!
Think about this, when you finally get married and your husband starts messing around on you & how you would feel as the wife....... That alone should give you strength to say NO!!!!!!

Answer 3

Here's the thing,
This does not make you a zero! He has some years invested
in his relationship with the ex and, I'm just guessing that she
was the one who ended things and he was hurt by that.
So, now that she is calling and wanting him back, it makes
him feel like less of a zero. Unfortunately, you were available
when they first split and, as much as it sucks, it seems that
you are the rebound girl. You filled a void for a short while
and made him feel better about himself and you were the
springboard for him. I have been there myself and I know
how you feel, but you have to look at it for the good times
you had together, however short your time together was and
move on and grow from the experience.
I wish you good luck and happiness.

Answer 4

Relationship pain can be so awful. The first thing most people do is start trying to figure out what they did wrong or what it is about them. The reality is his being or not being with you has nothing to do with your "value" as a person and as a woman..

Your value comes from who you are and what your about as a person. Respect yourself and make others respect you. It's HIS loss, not yours. Your probably a fabulous person, and he has lost out to someone he has already had a previous problem with.

Start looking out for yourself. Treat yourself good. Not to pay him back or get him back, but because you must learn to love yourself, so you are not so affected when someone chooses to be with someone else. Suppose it was you going back to someone and leaving someone you were with. It's entirely possible. Don't feel too bad, only a little bad.

Answer 5

How long ago did he leave his ex before you?? It all depends on time. You could have been his rebound, which you need to be aware of when you get involved w/someone really quick after the "ex". Doesn't mean she is better, what it means is he probably missed her because the security he felt with her. Hang in there, you will be fine.

Answer 6

sorry to hear how hurt you are. I'm sure it is nothing you did. men can be asses sometimes. but perhaps he was not completely over his ex when he started the relationship with you and so when his ex came back into his life he decided to give it another go with her. Give yourself some time to heal and you will be fine and can move on to a man that will be true to you.

Answer 7

No, It doesn't mean shes better then you it just means that he obviously still had feelings for her and he must have just been on the rebound....He may have the need to be with someone at all times? Who knows but it doesn't mean your any worse then her it just means that he just liked her and decided that was the thing he wanted at that time...Probably can't make up his mind on stuff....

Answer 8

He is problably very young and has not figured out what he wants. It has nothing to do with you.
Stop sleeping with him, even after he breaks up with her again, its only going to hurt more later on.
Remember that just because you love someone does not mean that they are the correct or the healthiest choice.

Answer 9

Don't base your self worth on his choices. He will probably be regretting his decision soon. If you continue to be friends with him, it is likely that you will get nothing more than hurt. Make a clean break and move on with your life.

Answer 10

i hate to say it but you were probably a rebound for when things are going rough between them two he runs to you for comfort he just wasnt honest with you or himself about his true feelings he isnt done with her and he shouldnt have started up with you knowing he wasnt done with her. cut him lose and get someone single no matter the hurt you will feel better in the end.