Is it ok to not be completely truthful when your parents ask where you are going and who are you going with? If not I may not get to know a girl until I finish high school.
2006-10-11 12:46:44 · 15 answers · asked by Tony D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you should always tell your parents the truth.. And hurray for you parents i was wondering if there were any left out there that knew what there kids were doing..
You have beautiful caring parents always tell them the truth.. and you must be pretty young yet or you would get to go out with a girl. Take your time.. There is alot of time out there to meet girls.
and i am sure that you will get to date before you are out of high school so chill out for a while.. you may be one that don't have a baby before you get out of high school..
Your parents deserve praise for there parenting.
2006-10-11 12:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone has lied to their parents about doing or not doing something at the stage in life that you are in now but it isn't always the best options for many reasons. If I were you I would approach this by looking at their point of view. Usually absolute "no you can do this" are brought on due to a fear or concern then have. In order to get them to let you you need to alleviate their fears. Ask them some questions to find out what these are. What is the reason you don't want me to date or spend time with a girl alone? Then look for ways that you can alleviate those fears and concerns and make them feel comfortable. Maybe start with group dates, have people over or just the girl around your parents at first. Maybe they will get to know and like her and feel more comfortable with her if they get to know her and see that you can handle yourself around her and will reconsider trusting you in this area. Parents always feel better about people you hang out with when they get to talk to them and feel like you don't have anything to hide. After you have done the group thing, being about your house and exposed the parents then they might at least meeting you half way and let you go to the movies with her on Sat. afternoon or something. I think that the more you think about the ways you can alleviate their concerns and make them feel comfortable the more you will be able to do and the longer parental leash you will get. Think about what you want to say before you talk to them. Act like an adult and then might treat you more like one. If it doesn't go your way the first time don't turn into a whiney brat...you will probably have to be persistent and talk to them many times. The more you act like an adult the more they will take notice and consider that. It takes a while for parents to recognize that their kids are becoming adults
2006-10-11 20:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by 1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok dude just sneak a girl friend say your some where else and then go out for a date or what ever you want to do. no personal offense but it sounds like your parents are too religious. If you want a girl friend so bad find one that wont mind sneaking around or doesn't need high maintenance, for example a chick that wants to be a round you or wants something from you ALL THE Time , not a good idea they can be a pain in ***. "find a understanding fun girl and a few good alibis. Good Luck
2006-10-11 19:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sean 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you now? I would say that group dates ar appropriate until about age 16. Don't be in a hurry to be alone with a girl. I think you will find that there are many temptations involved with that. I am someone who married my highschool sweetheart, that I started dating at age 14. Although the marriage lasted 12 years, it did eventually end. BECAUSE, I never had given myself the chance to explore many friends, many different types of people etc. And don't forget that if you do decide to date and you give in to temptations........be sure that you are ready to handle the consequences of your actions.
2006-10-11 19:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Amy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked why? You did not say your age. They are only looking out for your own best interest. But you do need to find out why, and let them know that you are responsible, and that you will do the right things, But if you join a lot of clubs, you will be around a lot of girls, and their is nothing they can do about that, they have to call you for one thing after another..
2006-10-11 19:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you ??? the thing is with lying is that they ALWAYS come and bite you in the butt when you you least expect them to and then you have to deal with them NOT trusting you.ie you think you are all grown up and able to date yet you are being a child or acting childish by sneaking around and lying, see what I mean...............would they be open to a discussion on this matter BEFORE they catch you...........would they allow a BIG group date, ie hanging out with both males and females ??? that might be a happy medium leading up to dating alone or in smaller groups.....and WHY do they ban you from dating ??
2006-10-11 19:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking if you should date without telling your parents, that is your choice. I did and got caught.
2006-10-11 19:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by who_is_it_that_you_think_is_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents about the dating issue; try to not be accusatory.
2006-10-11 19:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya sounds like your parents are a little crazy. they dont want you to do drugs and drink alcohol and ruin your life, but they arent even allowing you to have innocent fun. if i was you, just say you are friends. you dont have to say that you are more than friends. you know....like all you do is hang out, innocent stuff....studying....
2006-10-11 19:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by maxtrolle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you were honest with them they would show you some trust and let you date.
2006-10-11 19:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋