I am 19 (no kids) and just interested in what other people think.
2006-10-11 12:45:18 · 20 answers · asked by heavy_d65 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes
If it is done right, and used sparingly, spanking works best for a defiant child.
2006-10-12 23:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes very much. There is a lot more to discipline than spanking. In fact, discipline is about rules, expectations and routine. Spanking is a consequence for not following rules. It is alos a method of getting kids back on track.
People say I am oversimplisitic--but I really think spanking is important--and is woefully missing in the lives of a lot of kids these days.
Not to be real cute--but I think a paddle is an exellent tool to keep kids on the right course.
Althought some people think I am oversimplistic--I think there is way too little spanking--and I believe it is an important component or raising and instilling discipline in children.Although this is a stupid analogy--a paddle does a good job of keeping the boat headed in the right direction.
Although I was spanked as a kid I was convinced in college that it was inappropriate. So I did not at first spank when I had my own kids. To make a long story short--in the course of being a Mom I changed my tune and decided my parents were not so dumb and old fashioned after all.
I know that anectodal stories are not very useful--but that is the major reason I spank--it works for me. I also think it is fairer and less mean than punishments like time outs and groundings. A spanking gets the punishment over and the air is cleared. The other things drag the thing out. I don't want to be a parental jailer. With younger kids I think the whole point of why they are being punsihed is lost. With older kids it is no more of an effective punishment and inspiration to strive for better behavior than jailing adults is.
I think if more parents would spank--and do it correctly--they would be very surprprised by the results they get. And I don't mean for every little thing but not just as a last resort either. The real key to making it work is consistency.
I should also mention all the research that has been done on this subject showing it is bad. These are all statistically flawed. Infact to the surprise of one researchers who surveyed all the research--he found it to be the most effective method of getting children to comply with the wishes of their parents.
There is a reason parents have been spanking since time immemorial. The anti-spanking movement is very new. And like a lot of new untested ideas I am convinced it is wrong.
2006-10-11 20:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, by the time a child is old enough to understand spanking, they're old enough to understand consequences. I was spanked and am still terrified of my father.
I do agree, however, that if a very young child is doing something dangerous,not just defiant or annoying, it's OK to give a quick smack if "No" isn't getting through (such as turning on the stove, or touching electrical outlets)
2006-10-12 07:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but responsibly and sparingly. Most child care practitioners advocate that spanking is actually child abuse. Of course this is not true, but their reaction is in response to an alarming number of child abuse cases. Some good authors that address spanking include John Rosemond, James Dobson and Kevin Leman. Check out their excellent books on parenting!
2006-10-12 10:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 (no kids). But I believe spanking is a very effective form of discipline. If the idea of displeasure and momentary pain gets the point across to your children, then I believe in it.
I do not condone abuse though - or obsessive amounts of spanking.
2006-10-11 19:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they did. I usually give my kids a time out. But after the fifth time out for pulling the cats tail I think a swat on the butt is in order. There's a big difference between spanking and abuse. I think spanking is OK if it is necessary.
2006-10-11 19:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by princesschubbybutt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I guess I am. I'm not a parent... I'm only a teenager though. My parents spanked me. I hated it then but now I know that if they didn't then I'd get away with anything. I think that spanking is ok because it's not abusing your child or anything. If you spank your kid just for fun then I think it's wrong though.
2006-10-11 19:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sure do!! I was spanked... I turned out fine. I think that when people stopped spanking their kids all hell broke lose! I have a respect for authority and adults. I see disrepsect in kids who weren't spanked. Its all up to you though.
2006-10-11 19:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by mady'smom26 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do! Look how the world is because of those people that dont believe in spanking. There is a absence of respect for adults and students are abusive towards teachers and administration. I say knock their damn teeth out if you have to!
2006-10-11 19:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by tyrawooley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe spanking is necessary at times but not beating or being abusive with the spankings.
2006-10-11 19:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by dr_imzadi 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋