Two and a half years ago I ended a three year relationship and have been single ever since (by choice). A couple of months ago I started dating again but all I have gotten were men who only want sex from me. Once they try, I tell them no and I never hear from them again. Why is this happening to me? It's really affected my self esteem.
2006-10-11 12:23:38 · 19 answers · asked by italiana2683 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sadly it is a phenomenon that is very common these days. i have the same problem. And, even worse, if they do not want to bed me, they turn out to be closeted gays. I only hope that my luck will change.
Good luck to you in your quest of finding Mr. Right.
2006-10-11 12:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider yourself lucky! At least you didn't allow yourself to get misled by one of those jerks, had sex and ended up not hearing from them again! I know too many girls who move way too quickly and they wonder why the guy is gone in the morning or never calls them. Hang in there... you have to sometimes sort through the rocks before you find the diamond. If you continue to respect yourself and hold onto your morals... a GOOD man will notice and appreciate that you have class (unlike A LOT of other women out there)... and you'll be their diamond.
Best wishes!
2006-10-11 19:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. first of all you can't let it affect your self esteem. You are what you think. Guys want confident girls. Also you have to be patient. You can't just start to date again, and expect to find a long term relationship quickly. Have you ever that that the guys are the problem not you? There are good guys out there, just be careful who you choose. Patience is the key.
2006-10-11 19:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Hitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid they don't breed many of them these days. They really should because I hear they are in great demand.
Anyway don't let it effect your self esteem. You don't need a man to be happy and if these jack a**es run off it's their loss. Give it some time, it's like weeding a garden. Gotta pull all the weeds to find the flowers.
2006-10-11 19:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't give in to the sex. You dont know where these guys have been or who they have been with. There are decent guys out there who are looking for more than just sex. I'm a guy, been divorced for 3 years, and I'm not looking for just sex, I'm looking for a long term commitment. I'm probably the last of a dying breed...........
2006-10-11 19:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rob B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys dont want the hassle and commitment of a relationship, its not you its them. There are some good men out there I suppose you just gotta wait until the right one comes along.
Ive not found a man yet who treats me right so if you know where to find one let me know lol
2006-10-11 19:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couple of Q's and some advise. how do you know that all they want is sex? my guess is that you were making out and one thing led to another.....then it came to sex and you said no. if thats the case, that is the problem. guys dont want to be worked up to be let down. you re being a tease. if you would like more success in keeping them interested, play hard to get and dont lead them down the road for nothing. if thats not correct, what is the situation that arises that leads you know/believe that all they want is sex? I M CURIOUS!
2006-10-11 19:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let that get u down... im goin through the exact same thing and it ticks me off 2... the society we live in 2day... sex is now just sex... and when guys look @ a girl... that's the first thing on their mind... i know how u feel but don't let that get you down!
Men r like parking spaces... all the good 1's are taken!
well... if you're patient enough... a good one will turn out... keep in there
2006-10-11 19:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just pick the wrong guys. Chances are you only go for one type of guy. You only go out with guys who have fast cars, or muscles or long hair or whatever. As long as you keep going for the same guy, the same thing will happen. Try a fat geek, for example, and see what happens.
2006-10-11 19:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit confused, why is it they CAN even try. Only to say NO after the fact. What is going on in the mind. Why be the object of a man's desire. Set higher expectations of yourself.
2006-10-11 19:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋