Or should i break up with him? He's really cute hot and sexy, and he's really sweet as long as i do everything he says and everything goes the way he wants. But he get drunk sometimes and when i ask him if he's drunk he gets mad and he's like no i'm not drunk and then he pushes me into walls and pulls my hair sometimes, but i just consider that the alcohol talking. What should i do? What would you do? And i think he's gonna get mad if i break up with him and he might go crazy so i dont know and ya did i tell you bout the time that i tried to break with him once during dinner restaurant and he got mad and called me names tried to pull my hair from across the table so i dont know he's unpredictable
2006-10-11 12:19:17 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dont matter how hot and sexy he is **** him he is an A$$ hole
2006-10-11 12:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP before it's too late and you're dead. Pay attention to signs, it doesn't matter if he's drunk when he pushes you, he wasn't drunk in the restaurant. It starts off wtih small incidents and then it escalates to him telling what to wear and who you can talk to and hang out with. LOVE yourself first, no man has a right to hit, push or call you out your name. Just like you met him and you think he's cute and sexy there is another out there that will treat you like a queen. I know it may not be easy but you need to tell your family or friends about this. If you stay it could get worse. Remember you deserve better than this if you don't think highly of yourself no one else will. I really hope all is well with you and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-10-11 12:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by honynoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, Leave him alone, they always promise the moon. He is a control freak and your life will be miserable.Look ahead at what your life will be life and be honest with yourself. I would try to go away somewhere at all possible for awhile, after breaking up with him and I also would do that in front of parents or someone that would be able to help you. It doesn't get any better it only gets worse. He is spoiled rotten and it doesn't matter how cute , sexy or hot he is, a few more times and he will look like a monster to you.
2006-10-11 12:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you two, and how long have you been dating? Second, Pushing into walls and pulling hair isn't the worst I've ever heard done, but it is still not acceptable. Well maybe the pulling of hair in bed, but that's it. Second, talk to him about this drinking. Advise him how you feel, and how you don't deserve to be treated that way. There is a science behind this. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. If he can't do that, then he doesn't need to be dating anyone. Also, where are you from? Email me.
2006-10-11 12:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by bigmarcus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES HE IS ABUSIVE...being unpredicitible is the way he keeps you off balance...my ex-husband still does the same thing to me. Run far & fast...So what if he's cute, hot & sexy...better to do w/o that than you being bruised, beaten & dead. If you don't break up w/ him...trust me on this...it will make you crazy & you won't get over that crazy as easily as you will the crazy you might feel for a while if he leaves you! NO ONE deserves to be abused in any way shape or form...TRUST ME, there IS someone out there who will love you, respect you & be good to you...you might not find him right away, but you wil!! I DID.
2006-10-14 16:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by suzeq19642003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you that this is normal for people who love each other but it SO is NOT. How do you picture your life with this man who can only have things HIS way? What if you have children? Sweet, hot, sexy can go a long way ( about 6 weeks) before mr wonderful wants to take his frustrations out on you. RUN, as fast as you can away from this abusive, self-involved ***. There are too many nice guys to waste another minute on mr egotistical and his abuse.
2006-10-11 12:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need help. Ask yourself why have you permitted this behavior in your relationship. Who in your life showed you that this is the way love goes. Everyone says leave him. You know very well that's easier said than done(or you might have done it already). Until you realize your worth and how real love is shown you won't be able to leave. Get some help for yourself so you have the strength, both inner and outer to put your best interests first no matter how sexy or cute the guy. Best of luck
2006-10-11 12:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, get out while you can. Do it safely. If you are living together, get your things out first and have a place to go. Then tell him. Do not be alone with him when you tell him. If you don't want anyone in the house with you, have someone waiting for you in a car.
If he is so hot and sexy, then you must be very attractive too. You can do better than him.
Do you really want to go through the rest of your life worrying about what is going to set him off. You deserve better than to be called names. And there is no excuse for violence.
2006-10-11 13:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His a s s is grass. Look he obviously needs to get help, maybe talk to a therapist or something. Its not even remotley ok that he put his hands on you (in a bad way). Some people think its a show of love to try and control another person they way hes controlling you......but its not. It means hes insecure and has a lot of issues. I know its probably really hard to leave someone you love but it sounds like things will not turn out good until he gets his head sorted
2006-10-12 01:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Eoin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him and run as fast as you can away from him. He is an abuser, both physically and emotionally. The alcohol thing will not stop, it only gets worse. Once an abuser always an abuser, Get away from him. You don't say how old you are but I figure you are quite young, he is immature, and may never grow up. Please protect yourself. Just think, if you married him and had children and he got drunk one night, what could he do to the children? Protect youself and get away from him.
2006-10-11 12:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by happi2bwu2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are in an abusive relationship.
You are being very mature about it, as the first step is realization,
Break up with him. If not in person, do it over the phone. If in person, have someone else with you. Avoid all contact with him. Change your locks and phone number if you have to.
You'll feel great moving on. It's hard, but you'll look back on this and love yourself for doing so.
2006-10-11 12:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by tarriblur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋