We were together for a year.Recent photos of he and the girl he cheated on me with were posted online days after our break up which led me to believe that they'd been together for a while. The girl's family and friends seemed to know him very well and had each left him comments and notes on his page after we broke up. He read me the horoscope for a sign which as it turns out-is that of the girl he cheated on me with. I'm not sure if he was with her from the very begining because that happened when we first began dating. I havent spoken to him since the day we broke up and I dont plan on ever making any contact him. However, I would like some form of closure. I no longer have feelings for him. I guess what I really want is to know that my intuition was right. I felt he had another gf the entire time we were together. I would just like him to tell me so-but since there's no way to verify when they got together I just wonder. So, what should I do?
2006-10-11 12:10:47 · 21 answers · asked by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like you already know what to do. you just need to hear it from someone else. If he read you her horoscope when you first started dating, then you see pictures of them on his my space page with comments from the girls family and friends....sounds like he went scott peterson on you and you are lucky you got out alive! I am sorry to say this, but chances are he was juggling the two of you the entire time to prove to himself what a big stud he is and you would do well to stick with the plan to never speak to him again. just tell yourself as much as it hurts, it could have been worse. at least you didn't get pregnant. at least it didn't escalate to violence. it is sad to have to look at it that way, but unfortunately, that is a valid way to approach the situation and start to try to get past what happened. he obviously wasn't good enough for you and on some level knew it, so he sabotaged the relationship from the first and now he doesn't have you. you need to just accept that he turned out to be a scumbag, move on, and trust your intuition right away next time....good luck in your next relationship!
2006-10-11 12:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
let sleeping dogs lie honey! There is no need to put yourself through that. I'm sure you think you wanna know but what does finding out really do? Makes you feel dumb for not knowing, and embarrassed because some might havee known and didn't tell you but looked you in the face and pretended to be nice.you say you have no feelings for him then let him go completely. Don't think about it any longer and get you a nice man that wouldn't treat you like you had no feelings.
however if you wanna know more go to her page and see her pics and see the dates on them. Plus you can look into all her comments and see when he wrote her and see the dates on those. see if she has a relationship status on her page. little things lead to a bigger pic....
2006-10-11 12:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you would love some closure on this issue but I thnk the best thing you can do it ignore him,move on and enjoy life. A women's intuition is almost always correct but I really don't think you should waste your time even thinking about this guy or when he and this girl got together.
2006-10-11 12:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by ros_0123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is forget about it. Easier said than done, I know, but the chances of you finding out what you want to know are slim. You'd already dumped him, so obviously there were other issues causing problems between you. Know that you made the right decision, and if he WAS also cheating, so what? You knew you were better off w/o him BEFORE this came about. Let it go and instead of spending energy on finding out past history that no longer matters, spend it on finding someone who actually deserves you !
2006-10-11 12:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by earthlove32 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ppl hav feeling that r right and rong if u felt that he was not trying 2 love u like some1 should then he was cheating.
best answer~if u hav no feelings anymore about him show him that u dont care at all and just get off his case so he will not think evry1 likes him.after all he is not ur problem anymore let her deal with the pain of being lied 2 .just move on.
2006-10-11 12:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by ray-lyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about all of this, your closure is that it is over, done with, and that is that. Move on with your life, now you know that the next friend you get, stay friends for a while, so you can get to know him, take it slow.
Don't give him any ounce of thought! His life now is not your concern
2006-10-11 12:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your trying to make yourself crazy. It's obvious he was probably cheating. You need to do the mature thing and let this go and move on. Dont' let your pride mess things up for you. Just move on and count your blessings.
What's more worriesome is that you didn't see that he was cheating until after the fact. Choose wisely.
2006-10-11 12:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would still ask him if he was cheating on me with the girl and I would not talk to him no more cuz you might have feelings for him again so just don't say anything.
2006-10-11 12:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by freaklady09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol send that girl a message on myspace telling her FYI what had been going on between you and him and etc.
That would be the best way to get back at him. But don't be wrong to her, its him you should be mad at.
2006-10-11 12:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT SOMETIMES. BE GLAD YOU HAD THE GUTS TO DO IT NOW. IT SOUNDS LIKE HE HAS BEEN CHEATING ALL OF THE TIME. WALK AWAY AND FEEL FREE FROM A LOUSY RELATIONSHIP THAT WAS BASED ON LIES. CONGRATS ON YOUR STRENGTH. WHATS THE DIF. IF HE WAS WITH HER YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THE ANSWER IS HE WAS. ERACE HIM FROM YOUR LIFE.
2006-10-11 12:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋