Muslim girls are not aloud to touch man or be touched by them, right? so what do you do when a guy offers his hand to say hello or comes close to touch you? what do you say?
In my religion man are not aloud to touch woman and sometimes I don't know what to say/do when a guy offers his hand and I find myself in very uncomfortable situations... what to do?
2006-10-11 11:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by yafit k 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
B.T.W-- I am Jewish not muslim and I think it's a very good think that I don't allow any guy who just want's to touch me do it... I just don't know how to explain it...
2006-10-11 11:59:10 · update #1
*thing, not think... sorry...
2006-10-11 12:00:22 · update #2
Well, when a man puts out his hand to shake my hand I am honest and say "sorry but I do not shake hands with men". Some men act a bit strange about this, but if you are choosing to follow your religion then that is better then what some man thinks. Also I try and avoid some situations, for example, when I was going to have an interview for a higher position within the company I knew I would be interviewed by a male and a female. I went to the female prior to the interview and explained the situation. When I entered the interviewing room I was not uncomfortable because the man was not expecting me to shake hands with him. By the way I got the job and I followed my beliefs. Good luck! I know at first it may seem a bit strange but it will get better, just be strong!
2006-10-11 12:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jade 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is mainly a prayer issue...
For both men and women, when they shake hands, both have to perform wudu'u again before prayer, which is not a big deal unless the problem is that water is not easily available for wudu'u. I've seen Muslim women wearing gloves and shaking hands with men. This is becoming more common these days.
In societies like the US, where shaking hands is common between men and women especially in business situations, it is unavoidable and sometimes rude if you don't shake hands. In this case, the key is not to consciously make it a sexual experience.
2006-10-11 12:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not Muslim but couldn't you just explain that you can't for religious reasons? I read once in a book that some ladies would cover their hands with a silk scarf or something to do this so as not to make actual contact. Not sure if it is correct or anything.Hope you find what helps.
2006-10-11 12:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I am not Muslim or a Girl, But I do think not touching is a very good idea. touching only leads to further things. IF we all had that value, there would be a Lot less teens having kids, less people dieing of aids.
2006-10-11 12:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by rickysa24 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry for interrupting, I am not a woman and not Muslim but I felt I might add a comment that is the imam of main Mosque in Holland did not or some how refused to shake hand with the queen when she visited them and that seems to apply to men to in Islam.
2006-10-11 12:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nabil 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Assalam Alaykom
Here are the answers from a trusted islamic website (islamweb.net)
Shaking hands with and kissing women
http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=313&Option=FatwaId
The ruling of a woman shaking hands with children
http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=10302&Option=FatwaId
Shaking hands with a non-Muslim does not invalidate ablution
http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=8269&Option=FatwaId
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
Regards
2006-10-11 12:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by manoa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The original premise is false. Women and men are certainly allowed to shake hands in Islam.
2006-10-11 11:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well it sounds like the stupidest f**king thing in the world to me,I'm so glad I was never stupid enough to let myself be dragged into one of these brainwashing cults. Religion ought to be banned,it is either stupid or destructive.
2006-10-11 12:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's allowed to shake hands with men .. even Omar ibn Al Khatab was reported to shake hands with an old woman.
The hadith some scholars use to prove it's not allowed is misinterpreted by them ,
2006-10-11 11:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kimo 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
you can just tell him, by a very polite way... that you dont hand shake men,,, ofcourse for respecting to yr religion.... and for wht it worth... while he didnt find out its not allowed.. you thought about it.. made up yr mind... how strong woman you're...
2006-10-11 11:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by babyyocca 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋