My mother got a mother's day ring a few years ago and just recently lost it. I wanted to get a new one for my mom. Her old ring had 4 birthstones for the 4 kids. My sister wants me to out a 5th stone in for our brother that only lived for about a year. I really don't know if I should or not. I talked to my one brother and he said that I shouldn't. I'm wondering what some other people think?
2006-10-11 11:37:17 · 6 answers · asked by shellz1616 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is a wonderful idea. I think you should do it. Even if he did live for only a year, he was still your brother, and your mothers son. Just because hes gone does not make him any less of a family member.
2006-10-11 11:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kikyo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a sensitive subject. It depends on a couple factors, does your mom talk about your brother that has passed on still? Does the subject make her upset? Does it comfort her to talk about it? If you don't know, try to bring it up casually in a conversation to pick up on her feelings about her deceased child. Either she'll be fond of the memory and consider the 5th stone as a symbol of the life of your brother, or she'll see it as a painful memory that she would not be reminded of daily when looking at the ring. Knowing a lot of mothers though, I think the 5th stone is a very kind gesture that shows you recognize your brothers life and that even though he is gone, he will always be a part of the family and your mothers child. Good luck with the ring, and I hope all turns out well!
2006-10-11 18:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course put the stone in for your deceased brother. He was your mother's child too. Just because he's gone doesn't mean he's not still her son. Put the stone for him in the ring - your mother will love it. She'll probably cry when she sees it, but she'll still love it.
And what a nice thing to do for your mom. Bless your heart.
2006-10-11 18:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea! Your brother lived inside your mom for 9 months and then was in your lives for a whole year before he died. I think your mom would be super in love with the idea of honoring him - even though his life was short, he was still her child and he was still your brother. That will never ever change.
2006-10-11 18:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should add the fifth birthstone. even tho your other brother only lived a year, he was still her child, and was important to her. i bet he still is. it would only add to the gift, not detract.
2006-10-11 18:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by saviorazreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was born after she got the first ring, yes
2006-10-11 18:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋